In a name crises

[DesiNicky]

thek so I have always said that my first boy if I have one will be named after my father who died of cancer in 2007. At first I was the only one blessed enough to have the only girls on my father's side. This is my third pregnancy and I'm hoping for a boy.  However my boyfriend wants me to add Wayne and his last name if it's a boy but I told him from the get go that if I ever got pregnant the baby's name will be Jimmie Lee and I told him if it's a girl he can pick the name. I don't want to argue with him because I know he will argue about it. But if it's a boy he will be my first boy :/ I dont want to hurt him but I've had my mind set on this since 2007 :/ advice please?

[DesiNicky]

Well here is the thing my first two children have 5 names one first two middle and two last and I've been thinking that is a lot especially going to school I know they can shorten it but I kind of wanted to break the pattern of 5 names to make it easier.

[KitnRod14]

What about jimmie lee Wayne that way it should be easier?

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you saying that the argument is that the name has to be an exact duplicate of your father's name or else it somehow dishonors your dad's memory?  Please rethink that, it 's an honor to have a child named after oneself even if there are ten middle names and the name is only one of them.  Are you saying your son is in some way here to replace your beloved dad?  He will do that (or not) no matter what he is named; the name is not the magic.

My son has 2 middle names, one of which is the name of my stepdad (in his honor).  It's not like the fact that my son's name is not a copy of all the words in my stepdad's name changes the fact that he is named after him.

One thing I would stand firm on, though, is that I would not name a kid a guy's last name unless the guy was my husband.  They don't get the honor without the commitment.

[DesiNicky]

A long time and he even said it was fine and now he wants to change it? I just don't understand he knows how much my father meant to me. And to name my baby after him would mean alot especially since I'm due around my fathers birthday :/

[cmckin4214]

granted he helped make this child,  but he has known about your wishes for how long? he should be able to respect your wishes. at least you're not wanting to name the baby something inappropriate or awkward.