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Is my ex GF lying about pregnancy

Ok my ex GF said she is pregnant when i first broke up with her. To get on her good side so that she would not tell me false things out of spite i decided id go out with her to see how this goes. Well a few days later she said that she took a test at her doctors and it was negative, no pregnancy. well i broke up with her about a week later and then 2 weeks later she says that she is really pregnant. She said that she lied about taking a test being pregnant so that i would not freak out. The first time we had sex was about 5 weeks ago and she said she has gained 14 pounds and can feel it moving inside of her. She said that her doctor would not do abortions if it was 5 weeks in, but planned parenthood will do an abortion 13 weeks into a pregnancy this raised an eyebrow to me. She seems as if she does not care if she has a child or not to me this seems like she is either crazy or really has no life goals but if all this is true she taking it EXTREMELY well. I personally do not know what to think and i need your help. Does this story sound like someone who is pregnant or someone who is saying this to try to get back at me for ending a relationship???

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well things have taken a good turn. she claims to have had a miscarriage so she now claims she is no longer pregnant. she also has a bf and now im being left alone at peace. this whole ordeal in a way makes me want to practice abstinence
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Well tell her you'll come over with a pregnancy test that she can pee on and show you. If she won't do it then move on with your life. Tell her you'll bring the most sensitive one, First Response.

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362249 tn?1441315018
Well you are right about the mind games and if you're that frustrated i would set my foot down and let her know how you feel!! And let her know the convo. you are trying to have with her involves the PG or not thing and has nothing to do with the relationship! I have to disagree that a man is powerless if i messed with my husband's head like  that playing games about anything he would give the what for lemme you it would stop b4 it started!!
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You guys are right. Thanks for your input, believe it or not it really helps.
In reality id like to think that i could motivate her to do one thing or another but in reality a man is powerless in this situation. I also find it very wierd that she is not freaking out about it or atleast to me, if i was pregnant the guy would know asap and be kept up on my plans/who i was telling/what i was doing at the doctors.ect. The conversation that she told me this was me asking her why she couldnt move on and then she says this and that she lied about not being it because she hated me asking her "those" types of questions over and over. Most conversations she tries to steer towards us being together or not, how i was supposedly rude to her and whatnot. The whole her being pregnant thing seems to be low on her priority list of things to talk about which i find odd.
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She is playing mind games, because you are letting her.  If you are not together anymore, stop talking to her altogether and ignore her calls.  You will know the truth in the next few months, when she starts to show, if she is even pregnant.  There is nothing you can do to change her decisions if she is, in fact, pregnant, so try not to buy into her stories and calls, etc.

I think she is only doing this to keep her hold on you.
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376148 tn?1309899577
i think she fooling ya to be honest! Im on my third baby and my fourth pregnancy and at 17 weeks im only now starting to feel the baby move around a bit and before then i started to feel the baby at around 13 weeks...but that was just like gas! Shes either lying to everyone or getting ppl to lie to you for her!! I really dont think she is but i dont know her either!!
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pregnant or not shes playing mind games up the ***. when i told her why i wouldnt want 1 she says its my choice honestly which i understand but she is doing this in such a bad way. I truly do not know what her reasoning for this is. If she just said i honestly do not know it would be more relieving that her just trying to make this more suspenseful
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362249 tn?1441315018
Well explain to her that you just want the truth that you are not upset but you just really need to know whats going on! If she is that comfortable with her best friend maybe the 2 of them need to come to talk to you so the friend can help her talk to you about it!! I wouldnt understand the txts either sometimes its hard to talk but not txt but i guess you are right exhausting the situation! Just try to find out for sure now i had a friend once and the girl didnt tell him then he finds out hes got a 4 wk old baby and she wont let him see her and then matters got worse the baby was sick and needed some surgery!! he was a wreck and all he wanted was to see his daughter!!
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1000766 tn?1296746001
She isn't feeling movement at 5-6 weeks, even if she's had other pregnancies. The baby is way too small at that point to feel anything. What she must be feeling is gas and I'd assume this is her first because otherwise she'd know the difference between gas and quickening. Either get her to take a test in front of you or go with her to her next OB appointment. Either way you'll get the truth.
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Ill do my best to get her to do either. Her friend says everytime she talks to me she cries so ill try D: this is so emotionally exhausting. Idk why she would tell me this and not talk to me on the phone about it or reply to my texts
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362249 tn?1441315018
I agree i would still demand her to prove it!! If she's not lying she should have no problem going in the bathroom and peeing on the stick for you or at least bringing the note from the dr.!! and i dont know why she would say she could feel the baby move thats insance!! its at least 12-13 wk b4 flutters start and at least another month after for the baby to big enough to kick hard enough you feel it!!  I know you may not know all these things but i would get a book about it and when everything happens!
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ya her best friend said she doesnt know what to do with it and that she cant carry it because of health problems. i want to ask my ex about these problems, last night she was unsure if she was going to get it aborted
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153475 tn?1359471234
maybe because she knew you would or could talk to her best friend i would still demand proof if she is really preg then she should not have a prob with proving it
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I just talked to her best friend and she said that she said she is pregnant....
why would she tell her best friend if it was a lie directed towards me?
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689528 tn?1364135841
Sounds like she's giving you the run-around. I doubt she's pregnant. Don't fall for it and definitely don't have unprotected sex with her again. If she's crazy enough to lie about it then she's crazy enough to actually try and make it happen.
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I will ask her to take the test infront of me but she said her dad knows and told her mom. I am sure she will come up with a reason to not take it infront of me like she has before. She might avoid me if i ask or not let me come over or something
how quick can a girl get an abortion if she scheduels it?? like is the waiting list long ?
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153475 tn?1359471234
I mean Ive worked as a legal assistant before and i cant say for sure if it is illegal or not i wouldnt think so as long as she is not getting anything out of you ie money or something but what about her parents do you speak with them are they aware of the "pregnancy"? in the mean time just try the best you can to keep up with dates, the weeks that she says she is and things like that to see if she is consistant
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well right now she wont even answer my calls or texts. But since shes giving me BS symptoms and the time of when she tells me these things seems very fishy. The only thing that iv researched that shes said was morning sickness but isnt that like a no brainer for girls that itll happen? Also can this legally be a form of blackmail because this seems too cruel to not be illegal
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153475 tn?1359471234
Normally she should not feel anything to at least 16 wks with a 1st pregnancy, if she has had a child before then it may be a little sooner but i doubt it at 5-6 wks...i would really press the issue because you have the right to know the truth, this effect your life too. if she is just not willing to show you proof time will tell theres no hiding the baby bump
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1039620 tn?1272594004
If she is only 5-6 weeks she would NOT be able to feel the baby moving yet. Ask her for medical proof, something from her doctor, and if she refuses to give it to you then all you can do is wait and see.
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Ill try but she gets mad and wants to change the subject when i talk about her pregnancy thing.
And she will say stuff like I know i am im not stupid i can feel it in me moving when at MOST it could have been 5-6 weeks, can the fetus move around then or doe sit take much longer?
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153475 tn?1359471234
that does sound kind of icky if i were you i would def buy a home pregnancy test and have her take it in your presense if she refuses then i would not believe her or tell her to get the proof from her md to show it to you!
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