Is something wrong with me?

[onlyme27]

I have always considered my sex drive as very active.  Since I have had Steeley, it is practically nonexisistant.  I know that a lot of people go thru it after having a baby with being tired and all.  I don't think that it is that I am more tired than before the baby.  I am not sure what it is actually.  I just have abosolutly no interest in it now.  DH says that I got what I wanted out of him (the baby) and now I don't need him for sex anymore.  He isn't hounding me about it but I know that it bothers him.  When we do have sex it is like we are just going thru the motions of it all.  I know that it is me with the problem.  DH is really trying to be nice about the whole thing and somewhat romantic (which is uncommon for him). What is wrong with me?  Any ideas?

[onlyme27]

Thanks.  We had sex today.  It was nice but I just wasn't into it as much as I should have been.  I am trying to set up a date night for us.  It is hard to find a babysitter for the kids though.

[Super_sally888]

Hey, not wrong. Perfectly normal and totally human.

You guys love eachother, but guess you and hubby need to talk about feelings. There may be other things going on and obviously you have some frustrations with your situation that may contribute to your not feeling like sex and maybe need to be acknowledged and/or resolved with both of you.  Working night shift also is a bit tough for your body clock as well so may contribute also. Plus the fact you said you've had some depression.  Nothing's every straight forward.

One idea is to have a regular sex date with your hubby - sometimes sex even if you don't feel like it is good for a relationship (and maybe you will get more in the mood as you go along), and focus on the pleasure of being physically close to your man rather than concentrating on the act itself (which usually is pretty short anyway)...

Hopee things get better for you.

[onlyme27]

Steeley is almost 6 months now.  He takes care of her most of the time.  He doesn't work anymore and I work at night.  We know that we love each other.  I just feel like I am not doing my part.  Not just in the sex department.  I just dont feel like I am participating with my kids as much I should.  I am not sure why but I feel like I am becoming more distant with my children.  At one point I was feeling depressed but I think I am getting over that now, or am I?  I love my family but is it wrong of me to want to get away from it all?

[LadyTiger]

How old is your baby??  And it isnt uncommon for a females sex drive to go way down after having a child....He understands that you are tired and it is alot of work with a baby but you dont need to forget him either....try to relax...try going out on a date (without the baby)...Just always remember he loved you before the baby came and he still loves you since the baby is here....just dont forget that and tell him that you love him...there is more to life than sex what everyone needs to hear that they are still loved no later what is going on in there lives...Good Luck....and take care of that baby but hubby too.