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New gf trouble?

Kinda new to this but I'm 12 weeks pregnant with my ex-bf first child. The girl he's with now is the reason we're no longer together. So about two days ago he tells me she wants to meet me & right off I want nothing to do with her. He says he's not enforcing it but she thinks he'll leave her for me since this is his first born. She doesn't want to feel like he's hiding me from her or her from me. Am I being childish by not wanting to meet the girl that broke us up only 2 months ago? I just don't see why I should have to be the one to alleviate her insecurities when she's the reason I have my own.
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I dont see any reason that you should have to meet her now. Maybe after the baby is born if she is still around because I would want to know whoever is around my child. Now is the time for you to focus on your pregnancy not worry about another womans feelings.
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I wouldn't, I would let her worry, she didn't care about your feelings why should you care about hers?
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Uh, no way in a hot place would I meet her! So she can see you're not a threat? Come on, really? How cold is your ex? Sorry, but that offended me, and I'm not even involved. My daughter is 6, and her dad has had multiple girlfriends. I only meet them if my daughter will be exposed to them (serious gf's). If they are not around my daughter, I don't care. Same with him and anyone I date. Long story short, you don't owe him (or her) anything. Good luck hun.
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I wouldnt o would let it eat her alive. Senf him a pic of your belly lol entitle it our beautiful baby.lol I would be a biotch she broke your family apart. I would always be sweet to him on the phone and make him laugh. I would want to destroy her shes a homewrecker!
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I would of gone mad at this!!! He wants to introduce u to his new gf??? I'd want nothing to do with her and I'd tell him straight that my child will have nothing to do with her either! I'd go as far to say that if he's with her the only place he sees my child would be in a contact centre. No bint would take my man then have anything to do with my child!! Maybe I'm just harsh tho lol
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I agree with everyone else. U shouldn't meet her unless she's still around and he wants anything to do with his baby. Like u said she didn't care about u two months ago why in the hec should u are about her feeling now? Ha! I wouldn't! She's crazy! And He's stupid for even asking u to.. good luck!
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Then I'm on the right track, thank you so much all of you. This was a big help. That's been eating at my brain since he told me.
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Play with their minds, she is insecure for a reason, she knows what she did to you and if he was willing to up and leave you for another girl she knows it could happen to her too!
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I agree with the other ladies, if anyone should be demanding a meeting it's YOU after your baby is here, if she's still around. Just remember, what he did to you, he'll do to her, and she'll get her karma!  Can't be she trusts him much already if she's throwing a fit about that.
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I wouldnt she seems like one of those crazy girls that will get pregnant just to take attention away from you. And why would you have to meet her anyways? They havent been dating long and i doubt they will be together when baby comes around.
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Yea I think imma just be overly nice & lovely to him. See how crazy I can drive her.I'm part of his family now, there isn't much she can do about it anyway.
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I wouldn't worry about her she didn't introduce herself and tell you shes not a threat :( you'll always have a certain kind of bond with your ex you cant help it you're having his baby but if she cant handle that its her problem not yours :' i agree with chatty baby though :/ if shes gonna be with him.while he has the baby i would def hang around her for a bit and see what kind of person she's gonna be with the baby
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I would not talk to niether of them the dad or the other girl. First being he did u wrong!  Second being she is a homewrecker. The father shows that he is irresponsible and not trust werthey. I wouldnt leave your baby around him or her because she is already jealous of you.
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I agree with chatybaby
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I don't agree with the mind games, or sending him pics of your belly just to upset her etc that were suggested. That's a but stupid and immature. But I do agree that you have no reason to meet her. IF she is around when he starts having visits or taking baby on his own then yes I'd want to meet her but until then tell him you see no reason for it. It's not up to you to alleviate her fears of him leaving her. That's hurt problem not yours. You have enough on your paste at the moment.
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I agree with chatybaby, you have no reason to meet her, except for when your bub is born and if she is still around and will be involved with your child. Until then, you don't need the extra stress, at the moment you are none of her business, and she is none of yours. I have 2 children from my ex husband, and his current girlfriend is busting at the seams at trying to meet me, but i refuse as i think she is just being nosy and i am none of her business. She doesn't live with my ex, and she is only there the odd times when he does have our children, so i'm not really worried. But the minute they start living together and she is involved with the upbringing of my children, i will be making my presence known.
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Don't stoop to her level.
As hard as it may be just say no and leave it at that. It's time to focus on your little one.....set a good example for your bub right from the start
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Oh hell nah you are not obligated to meet that **** im sorry for my harsh words but it makers sick to me stomach what she's trying to do to you. Don't let her play with your mind she's just a girlfriend not his wife or something like that she doesn't need to be involved in your pregnancy. This is a stage of your life when your suppose to be happy and enjoy your little one growing inside of you. So I would say not to worry about that homewrecker  

Have a nice pregnancy
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I agree that if she's still around when bb gets here and your baby will be exposed to her I'd wanna know who's around my bb! My bf has a 2 yr old, and broke up with his ex before he found out she was preg, he met me the day before his son was born but we only became exclusive when he was about 6 months, I only met his son around then cause I chose not to get involved unless I knew I'd be a constant in both their lives, once we moved in together I wanted his ex to meet me just so she could have an opportunity to see who her lil guy would be around & that I was a good person, & she's a lot crazy & threatened to kill me and stuff...but eventually we became civil...my point is, just be civil for everyones sake if she will be around for a while, it will be easier on you also to know that you can all get along when it comes to whats best for your little one :) just my opinion, thought I'd give some perspective on what's possibly to come, good luck & happy pregnancy!
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I agree with mummytwobe. My bf and I broke up early on in my pregnancy and he started dating someone right away. He ended up pregnant a month after that and I'm thinking its not an accident at all.
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