No heartbeat at 6.5 wks

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I came here since the other site seemed too sensored. Here's my story I have been ttc for 15yrs and finally got prego. According to doctors I am almost 7wks now. According to my records I should just be nearing 5wks and I had an ultrasound done on Friday 11/14. She didn't see a heartbeat and told me that the "fetus is not viable" when I looked at her, like I couldn't understand which I couldn't. She said the baby is "dead" and we will do an ultrasound on Tuesday and D&C on Wednesday. She just seemed so cold and hurried to just get this over with like it's a bother. She even went and said she if we don't do it this Wednesday that I would have to wait till after the holiday because she is going to be busy. I don't want the D&C I think in my mind my baby still feels alive to me. I haven't cramped or bled since Wednesday morning. Not even lite spotting or pink anything. There's nothing. I can't say I still feel pregnant as this is my first in 15yrs. and since the beginning I bearly had any symptoms. My breast hurt off and on and right now I just wish they would hurt all the time. I have also been feeling nausea not just today but even the in the morning on 11/14 when she told me my pregnancy is not viable. Nausea is getting worse. If my baby is dead then wouldn't these become less and less. I was so sure everything was ok because that morning my breast felt super swollen. I'm so confused. I went to get hCg testing again. This waiting is killing me. If anyone has a similar story please reply with the good, bad, and the ugly. Anything. Thank you

JoyRenee · Answer

My story did not end so great but it sounds like you're on your way to figuring out what is going on. Don't take anything or get a D&C. Many women are told their babies have passed or whatever when it was just too early or the U/S tech didn't have very good equipment. Don't give up hope, ever.

AnitaRFrith · Answer

I would had told that nurse that I want the dr to call me.  She obviously dose not know what shes talking about so I would would want to talk to her boss.  Some one in charge.  I went through the same thing at the start of this pregnancy.  They told me that I was having a miscarriage but I never had any problems.  I went back in a week an there was a heart beat.  So have faith... I think your little bean is going to be ok.  All the ladies on here have been a great help to me too. God Bless. Anita

hope2seebaby · Answer

Thank you guys. I still don't have any cramping, no spotting, nothing,  so I am waiting to see what happens. When I called the Dr. she tried to guilt me into it. I was so angry I wanted to hang up on her. She said she already put in for a referal for a fertility specialist. My baby isn't even out yet. I still don't understand her rush to take my baby.  
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On another note I am so serious when I say THANK YOU 100xs over for being here.  You guys are helping through this in ways that no one else has been able to.  You are all my heroes.  No matter my outcome you have no idea how much this has meant to me.  Lots hugs & kisses for you all. I'm a very lovey lately. So hope I don't offend anyone.

AnitaRFrith · Answer

OMG!  Thats awesome!  get a new dr... sounds like the one you have are stupid!  I wouold tell some one off.  Did you call an tell them an see what the jerks say?  I would love to know how they explain that!  I'm so happy for you... God is Good!  Anita

Karen616 · Answer

My first pregnancy resulted in a D&C at 7 weeks bc my first ob appt showed no heart beat at 7 weeks. He told me it was completely up to me whether or not I had the D&C. I hadnt been spotting or anything so I decided to wait it out. He told me I would probably change my mind, but he said we would do whatever I wanted. The next 2 days the spotting came and then the SEVERE cramps. It was the worst (continuous) pain I have ever had. I tried to sit, stand and lay, and NOTHING would ease the pain. I finally called that night at 2 am when I just couldnt stand it anymore and he told me I could either go to the emergency room and they would take the pain away until he could do the D&C at 5am, or I could wait it out at home until 5am. I waited it out bc, as bad as it sounds, I didnt want anymore hospital bills "for nothing." I went to the store to buy some bad since I had no reason to buy them before and when I was walking down one of the isles I felt like I passed a huge blood clot so I went to the restroom to avoid a leak, and the fetus was laying there in my panties. It was the saddest, most awkward moment of my life, I dont know what my emotions were at the time. Sad, frustrated, relieved that maybe now it was all over. I ended up still going to the D&C in the morning bc they pain had still not let up. If I were you, I would not go through a D&C without any bad symptoms like the ones I had. Maybe they are wrong. And anyway, I bet if the baby has not survived like the obgyn said, you should have some spotting and pain before you "wednesday deadline." I would get a second opinion, and no matter what the results are, I would never go back to her again. Whether she was right or wrong. Can you imagine actually delivering a baby with her as your obgyn. She would be like, "If you dont hurry up and push, I'm just going to go meet my family for 4th of July bbq and I'll come back later." As long as you are not in any pain, I would wait it out. Also, I am now 6 weeks and 2 days pg, I had the first ultrasound that showed the embryo yesterday and she had a really hard time finding the heart beat. She tried a few times and asked me to hold my breath a few times, finally she got it at 128. If they do have your dates off then its TOO EARLY. If I were you, I would wait it out, and pray about it. Good luck.

Jen133 · Answer

So is the baby ok? Are you still pregnant? I'm confused from your last post......

mamaof6 · Answer

WOW! Sounds like you found a good US tech.  Im so happy for you! I hope all continues to go well, and I would DEF. find another OB/GYN!  Good luck hun!

hope2seebaby · Answer

Ok, My Mom in desperation took me to Tecate to get an ultrasound to see what they would say. He said my baby is fine. He confirmed all my thoughts with the exact dates I had. They matched exactly. Even to the day I started having sex again. Which was amazing. He was great to explain how he came to the conclusion. When it hit like a ton of bricks. They were saying I had concieved before I had sex!?! Not only that they said that my baby passed 2wks ago. He pointed out if it passed 2wks ago then why did the baby show growth? Dead babies don't grow and thats just using their ultrasounds. Needless to say D&C is cancelled but now what. Where do I go from here?  My mind is still spinning.  All I want is to run far away and never look back.

givinguphope400 · Answer

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss, and after waiting for so many years. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You may not realize it, but you give me so much hope. I've been trying for six years now, with no results, and I was about ready to throw in the towel, but you've restored my faith, and even though the end result wasn't what anybody wanted, there's still hope for future babies. Thank you so much and God Bless You.

hope2seebaby · Answer

Well just to give an update no heartbeat still and no growth or heartbeat. Yolk sac was going flat and the tech who is so sweet said it looks like the "baby" has past.  His words were hard to hear but at the same time he made it easier by acknowledging my baby as a baby. But he said the baby hasn't grown and the sac is a little smaller than what the dr had measured.  So I've accepted My Milagro is gone. I want to thank everyone for their support, hope and prayers.

AnitaRFrith · Answer

they did the same thing to me.  I worried all weekend.  But when I went back there was a heart beat an a little bean in the sac.  They sent me to the hospital for the 2nd scan so they could do a dnc if needed.  Some times Dr's can be heartless.  Keep us posted.  Anita

Mumita · Answer

Follow your instincts.  I had a horrible ultrasound tehcnician when I was pregnant the first time, she didn't see anything and she treated me as if I was growing a tumor or as if I was making it up, it was very hurtful and I am switching doctors.  I did have a miscarriage but it was completely unrelated to the ultrasound.

I would wait, let your body and your instincts tell you what to do.

hope2seebaby · Answer

thank you all so much. I have been suffering this entire weekend.  It's been the worst. I think you are all right. I'm not only going to wait but have decided to look for another doctor.  I still can't get past the way she said she wanted wanted to dot the D&C before the holiday for convenience.  Not sure if she meant hers or mine. For me there is no convenient time to take my baby out of me except 8months from now.  Alive and healthy. You guys have given me hope where my doctor gave me none. thank you again.
I don't know if this is weird but I had name for my baby.  Milagro which stands for miracle. I keep going over the dates and no matter what I keep coming up with the same results for myself.  Which still doesn't match what they are saying. Even when I think of possible conception dates. It doesn't match. So I really think they are wrong. We will see.

martikadragoon · Answer

so many doctors are quick to say "get a D&C" when in fact if they were a little patient it's a perfectly viable pregnancy. I've seen so many women who were told to get a D&C and didn't only to go on to have a healthy baby.  I say wait til at least 8 weeks by YOUR records. 

When I was pregnant I knew I was due Sep. 13, but they're records said not until Sep 20th... in the beginning. Turns out I was right because they changed it at about 16w

AnitaRFrith · Answer

When i got my first scan there was a empty sac.  They had me come back in 5 days for a anouther scan.  There was a heart beat an a little bean in the sac.  DoNT GET A DNC!  I was 7 weeks when I went back.  Your to early.

illsurvive · Answer

i would say dont get D&C before 8 weeks. i got my baby's herat beat at 7th week. and she found very heardly at that time. it took 15 minutes. good luck!! i m pretty sure ur baby is alive. u r in prayer.

alaysha · Answer

The Good-  When was your last period? Its always possible that you ovulated later then you thought. It is very rare to see a heartbeat at 5 weeks. I went in at 5w3d and didn't see a heartbeat and then went in again at 5w6d and didn't see the heartbeat but at 6w1d we did. Best thing to do is maybe wait a week or two and get another ultrasound to see if they baby has grown and if there is a heartbeat. Also ask your doctor if you can 2 hcg tests 48 hours apart to see if your levels are doubling. 

The Bad- If it is indeed a miscarriage it could be what is called a missed miscarriage in which the baby dies and your body doesn't get rid of it on its own. I also had a missed miscarriage before my healthy pregnancy where at 6w2d I had a little spotting and went to the hospital and the baby had a heartbeat. But, when I went in at 9 weeks the baby had stopped developing at 6w3d. I could tell on the ultrasound that the baby hadn't made it because there wasn't any blood flow in the baby just around the baby. :( I ended up having to get a D&C since my body wouldn't take care of it. When you have a miscarriage your body will continue to have HCG in it until the baby is no longer in there and then most time even until a couple of weeks later. Therefore you'll continue to get symptoms for some time.