No judgement just advice please...

[Ashleigh92009]

So i'm 14w today. When will I feel this creatutre? It is my first and i'm having a lot of trouble feeling where my heart is in this pregnancy. Lots of people have told me I will just know once I start feeling my baby move but i'm terrified i wont know. I'm afraid I cant give this child everything it will want and i'm questioning my ability. Not to parent but to deal. I just need to know this will change. I feel like a horrible person. Who dosent know if they want their baby... Like really. I want to be happy about this and I want to be 100% sure but I feel as if I dont know how to make that decision. I'm 20 years old have a stable relationship job and rent a home. My grandpa (not biological) is pushing me to get married. Hes asked me to marry him and we both agreed we will when the time is right. Right now its not right. Not because i'm pregnant. I keep telling my mom I dont know how to make the right decision but she dosent get what I mean. I feel stuck. Any advise is helpful. I'm having a terrible day today. :(

[SiSi_]

After a few months* the depression started going away and now we are attached at the hip! I'm so nervous about getting PPD with this new baby tho, its freaking me out :(

[SiSi_]

I had the SAME EXACT PROBLEM! At 8 months I freaked out and begged my bf to give her up fir adoption. I also had post partum depression and didn't bond with her immediately. I felt like the worst human being in the world. I sought counseling and realized I'm not the only one! Aftemonths months

[stacey10]

It is very common to feel the way you do, its a step into the unknown and that can cause fear and alot of worry in some people, you could also try and look at the pregnancy as a new chapter in your life, another door that is about to open, full of a love that nothing will compare to, there are some women that do not feel that maternal love through their pregnancies and even after the baby is born, but a majority have that bond with their baby by the time the baby is around 3 months, so even if you do not feel it through your pregnancy ore birth, rest assured it will come

[kelsebby92]

I know how you feel, before this pregnancy me and my boyfriend were pregnant with another I was so terrified and didn't know what to do. I paniced and my mom pushed me to get an abortion. :( the minute I woke up in the recovering room I started crying cause I realized what I had really done. And I didn't stop crying for a long long time, my boyfriend hated it and he grew to the fact we were gonna have a baby. So once we were able to have sex again we actually ended up pregnant right away, and now I'm 17 weeks and 4 days, I felt the same as you did in my other pregnancy but you are obliviously more mature then I was then, I'm only 19 but when my baby comes I will be 20, now with our own place. I've heard that its common to feel this way, nobody is ever fully ready for a baby weather they planned it or not.  It's important not to stress over this though no you will think about it everyday, but try to think positive you have a steady job and you have a place to live, all the baby will need is attention and love, I've also heard one you hold and see your baby for the first time, you fall in love.. hopefully that will happen to you:) and grow closer to it every day. But I've just recently started to feel kicks, it started the end of my 15 th week I am now 17 weeks and 4 days and my baby is kick and hitting me all the time, it feels like muscle spasms down there or like a popping feeling. If you want to be able to tell a difference in movements than gas try laying in a hot bath and drink an ice cold drink and yoy should feel it squrm. Lol if you ever need to talk about anything just message me girl! :) everything will be okay!

[Heatherm4]

It all depends on where your placenta is placed...if it's out front then it could take a lot longer to feel it but I think most start to feel it after 16 weeks or so.
I think it's normal to be ambivalent about things. I'm married and this is my second child and I was super nervous about this one that I'm pregnant with. I think it takes a while to even believe there is another life there.
Don't let people pressure you into doing what they think is right....it's up to you to figure out what is right. I believe you will be just fine....you will have a lot of planning to do. And not everyone gets married right away anymore...not many people get married period. Just don't make any decisions to make others happy....do what will make you happy.
Once you feel your little bean in there...you will love it more and more each day.

[adgal]

I read this and my heart went out to you.  Obviously this was an unplanned pregnancy, and in a situation like that, I don't think it's abnormal to question.  It can be a shock at first and take some time.  As to when you will feel differently?  I don't think anyone can really answer that question for you.  And you know what?  It's ok to feel that way.  You have time to make decisions.  Chances are you will fall madly in love with this life inside of you and find that having him/her was the best thing that ever happened to you.  However, if at birth you still feel that you cannot provide the love you feel you should, well, there are options like adoption out there.  I am not for a second suggesting that is what you should do.  As I said, all decisions are yours and are very personal.  But a pregnancy can be stressful and confusing in the best of situations, so finding yourself young and with an unplanned pregnancy can be more so.  Don't beat yourself up.  Let yourself go through and feel the emotions that you fell without guilt.  And know that it is going to be ok either way.

I hope I made sense.  I do wish you well and a healthy pregnancy.