Not sure what to do...

[Kaity0117]

Problems with my boyfriend (found out he hasn't been faithful and has been on live webcam chat sites and quite frequently...) and  his family are causing me a lot of sleep deprivation and nightmares. And I am worried about how stress will affect my baby boy. I am 23w5d and only just made in with a midwife... My boy is kicking up a storm right now.. Like he always does when I start to worry about him. He's good like that but am I harming him by being stressed? Or by not sleeping? Anyone know of a way to get rid of back pain too?

[excitedlyexpecting1st]

I consider it cheating if my bf did it. One time i caught him replying to his exs messages and i still call him a cheater for that lol. I dont talk to guys cause i know it will bother him and hell say im cheatng therefore same rules apply to him! But thats just my relationship maybe ur bf doesnt consider that cheating and didnt think he was doing anything wrong i would talk to him about it and tell him it bothers u seewhat he says. Also at my last doctors apt i told her ive been stressing so much and im scared for my baby and she said that stress isnt going to harm the baby but just try to keep as calm as possible. Goodluck im wishing the best for u and ur family :)

[specialmom]

Hi.  I'm sure sorry about this.  I'm sure that hurt your feelings and worries you to have found this out.  I agree that it isn't cheating exactly but still would bother me a bit.  I'd be worried about if it would lead to an escalation of what he's willing to do.  What does he say about it??  

Here is the thing about stress--  it's never good for us.  but super hard to control.  I had some stressful things in my pregnancies and I will say that I am not sure what it 'really' does to a baby.  But in general, if you can find ways to reduce stress, the better off you and baby will be.  But then don't stress about being stressed, ya know?  Sleep is something that you just have to keep trying.  Stay busy during the day, spend time with family and yes, try to work this out with your boyfriend.  

I wish you all the best hon.  

[immediatelyinlove]

for your sake I'd try to relax but it's not gonna hurt him and your not a bad mom for stressing

[Kaity0117]

Thanks but this is cheating in my mind... He conversed in a sexual manner with another woman and it hurt me.

[hersheyma]

Try not to stress...you can cause harm go you both...as far as getting to sleep maybe ask someone to rub your back...that usually work for me

[brittneyelz]

If i was you i wouldnt stress to much. The web cam thing is all just a big fantisy. I would try and work things out. Its not like he was cheating in person. I went thru a situation almost like that with my husabnd but i know im my heart how much he loves me even tho what he did is hard to swallow we have to think about whats best for us and our child. Find something positive to make you happy. And with the family you just need to set your bounderies if they are doing something that upsets you then say something.