I know this is a pregnancy forum, but most of you ladies already have atleast one child, and you are so knowledgable, I though maybe you could help me out..
I'm almost 8wks PP from my first, a beautiful litte girl named Marley. She was more than planned, DH and I TTC for 3 1/2 years, and did 6mo of fertility treatments to finally get pregnant with her. I want to start out by saying I LOVE HER VERY MUCH, and I WOULD NEVER HURT HER. With that said....
We've battled colic over the past month or so. We changed her formula, and got her some dr. browns bottles, which seemed to help, along with some tummy soother medicine. Some days are near perfect, others she cries inconsolably for hours on end. I get so frustrated I give her to DH and walk away. She never "works up to" a cry, she goes from fine, to the most shrill, ear ringing scream you will ever hear in 2 seconds flat. I never scream or yell directly at her, because I know its not her fault, but I have lost my temper and elevated my voice and said things like "what can I do?!?!" "HUSH!" etc.
I feel so guilty, because I'm afraid she picks up on the resentment and frustration I have at times. At night is when I'm so low on patience DH becomes the primary caregiver. I feel like she likes him more, that she will begin to start wanting him for everything, because mommy didn't comfort her, or tend to her needs as much as him. She already smiles at him way more than me. I feel bad for not being as patient and helping DH with the night feedings and changings. I feel like he thinks I'm a horrible mother (although he's never said it) because at times I can't even hold her, I'm on such an edge.
We both work so I feel bad that he's losing more sleep than me, however, I will make the bottle for him, and sometimes sit up and talk to him while he tends to her. I feel bad for not feeling bad about leaving her during the day while I work. I haven't had much, if any seperation anxiety. I can't really tell if we've "bonded" yet, but I do love her. I can sit and hold her for hours while she sleeps or when she just looks around contently. I just sometimes feel like such a failure because I'm not as nurturing, or compassionate, or patient as I thought I should be as a mom.
I prayed to God for months and months to give me a child, but now I question if I was ready or good enough to have one?
Sorry its soo long, I would just like to know if this is normal or not...