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On my own..

Hey ladies...
I've had quite a rollercoaster ride throughout my pregnancy when it comes to if the father is going to be around, and now at almost 27wks, it looks like im gonna be alone in this. Just wondering if theres any of you in the same position? I have friends that are pregnant right now too & they just dont quite understand what im going through. They offer their advice, but itd be nice to have someone to chat with that is in the same boat as me! Im having a tough time dealing with it all...if anyone can relate & chat or whatever, itd be nice..

Hope everyone is doing well though!
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My boyfriends sister went through the same thing you just have to know that that baby is the most important thing and you have to put the baby first women all around the world are doing the same thing it's going to be stressful but no after all of this there will be another man to help you through this that will be there for you
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My boyfriend left me for a woman 14 years younger than him when I was 2 months pregnant. I've heard from him twice since then. The last time I talked to him he felt that having any involvement with this baby would make his new relationship awkward so he thinks it's best if he's not involved at all. This was an unplanned pregnancy for us so that's part of his justification. It's been a real bittersweet time for me. I'm so overjoyed at being a mother again but sometimes I get so hurt and angry with him. I know that when I finally have my baby it will make every moment I've been through, even the hard moments, completely worth it. The same will be for you.
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Aw me too, my babies father says he will be there, yet I haven't seen him since I found out that I'm pregnant he hasn't help at all or has been invole at all even tho I try to include him he always has an excuse why he can't come, also now his using the whole idk if I'm the father excuse so I stopped talking to him completely but he has done this twice to me and its gotten to the point since his not helping me, nor providing and is only stressing me out with Drama and didn't even care I was at the ER that I finally deleted him of my life why try to have him  around when he only wants to be there when ever he feels like it!.. I know I can do it and so can y'all we won't be the first to be singles moms actually this will make us stronger as a person well anyways good luck and don't feel bad!! ..
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Im 17weeks-&definetly doing this as a single mommy. "daddy" copped out wen iWas 4weeks.
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Thanks ladies..My pregnancy was def unplanned, im 23 and was just enjoying partying and all that. I knew from the start that there could be a chance he wouldnt be around. He left his first childs mom while she was preg and has a poor relationship with his son. But he told me and everyone he was going to do the right thing this time and wouldnt let me down. Well, he kept living his party life. Going out all the time, blowing money, lieing to me & just downright disrespectful sometimes. So about a month ago, i left and moved home to my moms hoping itd be a wakeup call to him that i was serious about him getting his act together. Hes not a child, hes 29 years old with his second kid on the way. So for the past month things have been off with us even tho he says he loves me and wants us to be together & well find a way to make it work.. Well i had a gut feeling something was going on, i wouldnt hear from him for days, and sure enough this past week I caught him cheating/talking to a girl/whatever! Literally the worst feeling ever. I feel so betrayed by him
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I know theres plenty of single moms out there that make it, its just a really crappy feeling right now i guess. Everyone says well your better off without him then, and i know i am, but i feel horrible that my daughter wont have a father. Because I know hes not going to make the effort. And im pretty strong on the fact that if you bailed on us while im pregnant, you arent getting another chance. you dont just get to come around when its convenient for you. I didnt get that option, so why should he. I dont know if that sounds selfish, but growing up with a dad that came in and out of my life i dont want that for my daughter.
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I have been on a rollercoaster ride as well and I have just become a single mom. With my unplanned pregnancy my ex (23) and I (21) have became really distant. Initially he wanted an abortion but of course I didn't get it (33+1 weeks pregnant )And I am glad I didn't. Anyways he has came around to the fact of being a dad and is supposedly excited bit things have changed greatly between us. He has stopped being in contact, talking with other ladies, and os just really distant. I am unsure as to what or why but I have a daughter who will be here pretty soon so I am trying to just focus on her! Our separation is pretty fresh so of course I am still hitting because I genuinely loved that man. But I am hanging in there. If you would like to chat just inbox me. I know how it is to not have an understanding ear some times... other than that good luck sweetie! We ALL will make it! :)
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Hey girl I'm currently 13 weeks and 23 yrs old and I feel alone to i grew up around ministers ny dad brother uncle ans grandpa so I haven't told.any family.which Suxks I have no support I'm the only.girl ans youngest of three older brothers and I got pregnant in married I thougt the dad would be there for me but did I have a suprise he's 7 years oldwr than me ans already dosebt see one of his children he puts his rock band as number one he's the lead and I get that he loves his music but I feel the baby should be his number one I work 6 days.a week regardless how tired I am of him ans he dosebt wanna get a better job in.fear that it will interfere with his band I'm fed up and done all we do is fight I'm so ready to tell my family and have support regardless how scared I am because I know ill be alone thru this but i have accepted it and doing what's vest for my baby
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Hello, ladies, your child-support attorney is your child's best friend.  So what if your ex thinks it might make it awkward in his new relationship with someone 14 years younger if a baby exists?  It's his baby.  Don't whistle your child's legal rights down the wind.  Daddy might be a jerk, but he owes the child support and that is the law.
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Oh i will definitely be filing for child support the day im able to!
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I meant hurting not hitting lol...but I know exactly what you are going through. I get sad every day and night because of what he has done to me and his daughter! It hurt because I was faithful. When they say you are better off without him believe it!!!! I hated hearing that because I genuinely and unconditionally loved him. So much that when he messed up a first time I went back to him believing he wasn't going to do it again and guess what. His dumba_s does it again -_- ... so hunny you ARE better off without him. Like I said I am here if you need a friend. Seems like our situations are similar enough to be common! If I can do it...so can you!
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