Partner issues

[amw0628]

We fight all the time, he talks to me like he's been pregnant before like he knows what im experiencing and it drives me crazy. He's not carrying the child he's not sick everyday but takes all the credit for it, then try's to tell me how im going to discipline my child that there will be no time outs not hand popping no scolding that the child will learn respect and manners on its own time i was like are you stupid?  I know a lot of this is hormones but its driving me crazy! He smokes i don't and now the smell of him after he gets done makes me sick and it hurts his feelings well if you don't want me gagging don't smoke its simple. I dont know what to do ive been on the verge of leaving because we fight so bad i cry all the time just because i wanna enjoy being pregnant and i cant with him telling me how i feel and what i want and what im doing and not gonna do. I kinda gave up on fighting and let him say what he wants to me. What do i do? Im 2 weeks out from my second trimester.

[marie8736]

Yeah im hoping he changes .. Thats why i getting my own apartment for me and the baby.. And i dont know if i plan on letting him live with me or just letting him have the baby when its older only on weekends untill he grows up.. Idk

[mamaof4410]

I hate to say this but sometimes leaving to show your serious is the only way to get them to change. I had to do that with my (now husband) kids dad when we were 18 because he did not want to get a job or anything. I left with our 2 year old son. He begged for me to come back. I mean begged! He changed though. We've been together now for almost 11 years and are 21 weeks pregnant with our 5th baby and our 2nd little girl. But a big thing is respect. If you guys don't respect eachither and find compromise than its never going to work. All you will do is fight and make each other miserable. My husband and I are very old fashioned with the way our relationship works. I was taught the husband works and the wife takes care of the kids and the home. When he gets home he gets to relax and play with the kids. I don't "nag" at him about things. If I need something done and he says hell get to it I dont ask again or tell him no now. I know its the year 2013 but couples just aren't the same anymore. Hopefully he realizes what he's doing before he loses his family

[lanismommy]

Yea and you just need to talk your damn sonogram pics & let him be an *** hole about it if he wants . & look for baby names that you like so you can name your baby

[marie8736]

Awe i know.. I know i am putting my foot down.. But NO ONE CAN talk sense into him not his mom or dad no one.. He just has to grow up

[lanismommy]

Marie if you was my friend I would yell at you . Wth do you mean , you're pushing the baby out . You're the one going through all the pain and changes , you better put your foot down . Who the hell does he think he is . Smh I wanna beat some sense into him for you !

[amw0628]

Girl! I thought i had it rough. Put your foot down thats your baby!!!

[marie8736]

I had no choice :( .. If not hell yell at me and get really angry.. He doesnt see it that way.. Its too late he has them already.. Its a control thing. Im not even going to name my baby.. I am really starting to dislike him

[amw0628]

Im trying and i pray all the time. Its the only thing that keeps me going. Thank you ladies.

And marie
I would not allow that to happen your momma you get the pictures its your baby. If you want to share do it but dont let him take them!

[lanismommy]

:( well if it makes you feel better all I have is my bf too & although our situations are a bit different , i sometimes feel alone & helpless.  But like I said focus on your baby . I don't know how religious you are but praying helps me A LOT .just pray for happiness , & peace & companionship ... Everything that you want let God be your friend & trust me everything will get better

[marie8736]

I know what ur going threw.. I dred going to the sonogram appts because my bf keeps all the pics.. He doesnt give me any., my last appt when we found out what it was i asked for extra pics and he gave me all the crappy ones that u cant see anything.. Im so sad and next apt im going by myself so i can get pics :(

[amw0628]

I started spraying him with febreeze lol it makes him mad but it makes me feel better and he gets over it. Ive asked him to be supportive just rub my back or do things to make my life easier not sit on your butt and tell me what im feeling like youve carried a child before. We would be millionaires and i wouldn't be working if that were the case. I love him dearly just want some support rather then telling me oh its just a kidney infection suck it up. Or with morning sickness if i get nauseas i get told well quit talking about it and go make yourself throw up we have been through a lot and he's changed alot because ive threatened to leave but somedays i just cant picture myself raising a child with him sometimes i feel like i could do it better on my own. I don't want to tough it out till the end to realize i should've left in the beginning.  I have no one my family doesnt support me my bestfriend is moving to texas and my boyfriend wont just let me vent. Its hard being on your own confused scared and new at this mom thing:/

[lanismommy]

It's hard to tell you what to do . My bf annoys the **** out of me too . I just try my hardest to focus on the positive things and put all my energy towards the baby . Maybe if he see's that you're ignoring him he'll shuttup . & about the smoking thing just ask him to change his shirt or wash his face & hands so you won't have to smell it

[breee08]

You guys need toto learn how to talk to eachother, don't fight over parenting yet, you'll have plenty of time for that in about a year. Just try to smile. And the smoking thing, he may take that as you nagging, everyone smokes, let him do his thing, unless he's blowing it in your face. Let him feel happy about the pregnancy, alot of guys take zero credit for it, ya kno?

[Glowingmommy2be]

Me and my bf fight all the time but I told him its my body and my hormones and every time he wants to argue I walk off to defuse the fight