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Please Read- Had an ultrasound yesterday and my baby was dead.
I had the 12 week ultrasound yesterday and my baby no longer had a heartbeat and was only measuring 9 weeks. My husband and I are absolutely devastated. My baby has been dead inside of me for 3 weeks. We saw the heartbeat at both our 7 & 8 week ultrasounds. I don't understand why this happened. I still have all day long nausea and I've had no cramping or bleeding whatsoever. I need to have a D & C. The doctor should call me by 10 today and hopefully the surgery will be this afternoon. I don't even know what the point of this post was I just need to let it out. I'm tired of crying. My husband and I have been crying for 2 days now. I do beleive that God has a plan for this even though I can't see that right now. I am just so afraid to get pregnant again, I don't know if I could go through this again. What are the odds of having a healthy baby after a miscarriage?
Can anyone explain how a D & C is? I'm terrified and not sure what to expect.
Can anyone explain how a D & C is? I'm terrified and not sure what to expect.
soooooooo sorry to hear this. You are in my prayers. This is really sad. I hope you can pick yourself up from this and go on to have a wonderful future pregnancy. Again sorry for your loss.
awww im so so so so sorry for you...i have no idea what that is like so im not even going 2 try...i no so many people who have had this happen to them recently and 1 of them has had a happy healthy baby since an 1 is having twins and one only the torso has developed so she has to carry to full term....my absolute condulninces(excuse the spelling) go to you and your husband and you will get your baby one day just have faith
Thank you so much everyone. The support means so much to me. My surgery is scheduled for 2 p.m. tomorrow.
Amy, I am so very sorry. I wish I knew what else to say, but there just are no words. Please know that you and your husband are in my prayers and my thoughts......
Amy, i am so sorry for your loss...i have never personally experienced this kind of pain but i wanted you to know that i'll be thinking of you and your husband during this heartbreaking time....hang in there, we're all here for you!
Amy,
Im so sorry you have gone through this.and like other women here can relate to you.ive had several losses.each at the same time as you,after hearing the heartbeat.I know its hard,but as others have said allow yourself to grieve before thinkiing of trying again.1 in 4 end in mc,nothing you or anyone could do.as you said god has a plan,your time will come hun.sending you lots of hugs...
Im so sorry you have gone through this.and like other women here can relate to you.ive had several losses.each at the same time as you,after hearing the heartbeat.I know its hard,but as others have said allow yourself to grieve before thinkiing of trying again.1 in 4 end in mc,nothing you or anyone could do.as you said god has a plan,your time will come hun.sending you lots of hugs...
Amy, I am very sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages. One was a natural miscarriage at 10 weeks. Then I had a healthy pergnancy and had a baby boy! I had another miscariage this past oct 09'. It was just like what you described. A missed miscarriage. I went in for my 12 weeks ultra sound and there was no heartbeat I was only measuring 6 weeks. So I too was carrying around a dead fetus. It was heartbreaking. Especially when I had told EVERYONE I was expecting again. I went in for a DnC 2 days later. the procedure was fast and painless. They put you to sleep. I woke up feeling ok with little pain and bled lightly for a few days. the only thing that makes me feel beter is knowing everything happens for a reason. For some reason the baby was not growing right and it is just natures way. I hope everything goes ok with your operation and you can message me or email me if you have any questions or need to chat. I wish I had this forum back then and had someone to talk to.
If you are planing to get pregnant again I suggest you wait atleast 2 to 3 periods. Just to get your body back to normal and let your uterine lining get strong again. I wish you the best!!! A lot of women go on to have a healthy baby after a loss!!!
If you are planing to get pregnant again I suggest you wait atleast 2 to 3 periods. Just to get your body back to normal and let your uterine lining get strong again. I wish you the best!!! A lot of women go on to have a healthy baby after a loss!!!
I am so sorry for your loss. I know it was a hard road for you and I can't imagine what you are feeling. I have had 2 miscarriages and never saw either one of the babies but I loved them none the less. I hope that it is all over soon for you and you can heal quickly.
Amy,
I am so sorry that you are going through this, there is no easy way to get through this it just takes time. I had a MC in dec 06 at 12 weeks, it was natural and did not require a D&C so i don't really know anything about that. i think it was hard for me, because i went in for spotting had an ultrasound the baby was a lot smaller than it should have been, but still alive the heart was beating. 3 hours later I MC. I decided to wait a while for another baby, but ended up pregnant less than 2 monthes later, this time the pregnancy was full-term and healthy you can have a healthy pregnancy after a MC. my prayers are with you and your husband and other healthy pregnancies are possible.
I am so sorry that you are going through this, there is no easy way to get through this it just takes time. I had a MC in dec 06 at 12 weeks, it was natural and did not require a D&C so i don't really know anything about that. i think it was hard for me, because i went in for spotting had an ultrasound the baby was a lot smaller than it should have been, but still alive the heart was beating. 3 hours later I MC. I decided to wait a while for another baby, but ended up pregnant less than 2 monthes later, this time the pregnancy was full-term and healthy you can have a healthy pregnancy after a MC. my prayers are with you and your husband and other healthy pregnancies are possible.
Amy I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
one thing I forgot to mention and I'm not sure anyone else has becuase I didn't read the other replies. Make sure to ask your doctor if they are going to test the fetal tissue to see if there was a specific cause. If it's not something they normally do you can request it.
I've never been through this myself, but my heart goes out to you and your husband at this time. I'm so very sorry for your loss ((HUGS))
OH NO! I am soo sorry you are having to go through this. Pregnancy loss at any stage is devastating. I can tell you that the average woman will have 1 to 2 miscarriages during her reproductive lifetime and so long as they rule out any contributing factors it should not affect your chances of becoming pregnant again and carrying a healthy baby to term. I have suffered 3 losses. Maybe it will help if I list my pregnancies and the outcomes in order.
#1: Full term pregnancy with complications (IUGR, Oligohydrmniosis, fetal heart distress)
#2: Miscarriage at 9 wks 5 days resulting in a d & c (procedure was pretty simple. I was put to sleep for it. Waking up from the anasthesia I did have some cramping and nausea but they had juice and crackers there for me to eat when I woke up. I bled a little afterwards and was instructed not to have intercourse or use tampons for 2 weeks.
#3: Full term, no complications, Still birth at 37 wks due to cord strangulation
#4: Full term healthy baby girl
#5: Full term healthy baby boy
#6: Miscarriage at 5 weeks, this was natural, no procedures needed
#7: full term healthy baby boy
#8: will be 14 weeks friday.
It IS possible to have a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage and while it is physically and emotionally hard to deal with you may never have a "reason" as to why it happened. Most miscarraiges that do not have a given reason are caused by chromosomal abnormalities that can occurr regardless of your age, healthy etc.
I would suggest that you and your husband take time to grieve and to heal after this. Some couples are ready to try again immediately, others aren't emotionally ready for that. Either way is perfectly normal. If you need to talk or just vent, please feel free to PM me anytime. Again I am very sorry for your loss!!
#1: Full term pregnancy with complications (IUGR, Oligohydrmniosis, fetal heart distress)
#2: Miscarriage at 9 wks 5 days resulting in a d & c (procedure was pretty simple. I was put to sleep for it. Waking up from the anasthesia I did have some cramping and nausea but they had juice and crackers there for me to eat when I woke up. I bled a little afterwards and was instructed not to have intercourse or use tampons for 2 weeks.
#3: Full term, no complications, Still birth at 37 wks due to cord strangulation
#4: Full term healthy baby girl
#5: Full term healthy baby boy
#6: Miscarriage at 5 weeks, this was natural, no procedures needed
#7: full term healthy baby boy
#8: will be 14 weeks friday.
It IS possible to have a healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage and while it is physically and emotionally hard to deal with you may never have a "reason" as to why it happened. Most miscarraiges that do not have a given reason are caused by chromosomal abnormalities that can occurr regardless of your age, healthy etc.
I would suggest that you and your husband take time to grieve and to heal after this. Some couples are ready to try again immediately, others aren't emotionally ready for that. Either way is perfectly normal. If you need to talk or just vent, please feel free to PM me anytime. Again I am very sorry for your loss!!
Amy,
I am so sorry you are having to go through this...I had a D&E back in 2008 (lost a baby at 18 weeks)...im now 10 weeks preg and though I cant tell you for sure how my preg will end the only thing i can say that i know many women who have had mc's and D&C's and gone on to have other children
again I am so sorry this happened...
I am so sorry you are having to go through this...I had a D&E back in 2008 (lost a baby at 18 weeks)...im now 10 weeks preg and though I cant tell you for sure how my preg will end the only thing i can say that i know many women who have had mc's and D&C's and gone on to have other children
again I am so sorry this happened...
Amy, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you! I will keep you in my prayers! I know several women (my mother included) who have had a miscarriage and then gone on to have a healthy child. I am actually the result of a pregnancy immediately following a miscarriage. You are in my thoughts
Amy, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. This is so devastating. I am from the September 10 group and I know how excited you and your husband were about this baby. I know the pain seems unbearable now and that not being sure that you can go through this again is a totally normal feeling. Please take some comfort in the fact that your feelings will change over time. I do know that many, many women who have suffered a miscarriage go on to have perfectly healthy babies. You are destined to become a mother, that I am sure of. I wish you peace and strength during these tough times.
I'm so sorry! I had the same thing happen back in 2007, D&C wasnt all that bad. But they say you should stay off your feet for a few days after...I didnt, as we had a trip planned and Oh my, I should have not gone! I got my 1st AF 5weeks to the day and that was a painfull AF. We did get pregnant again that month And here I am again 19months after that pregnancy, 37weeks.....I worried so much after we got pregnant again, it wasnt intill 16+ weeks intill I could really enjoy it....So sorry again...
I'm so sorry you are in my thought and prayers. Your next pregnancy should be fine, there are several women on here that went on to have successful pregnancies. I lost my baby in November to a rare disease and I'm pregnant again. I know how you feel at this very moment and please know that you will not always feel like this. There will be days where you cry all day and some where you just remember the baby and smile.
Amy- I'm very sorry that you are having to go through this. I had a similar situation back in July. The D&C was painless for me. I had to put 2 pills in my vagina a few house before I went in for the D&C, these pills were to start the m/c. they have me this so that they could use suction during the procedure instead of having the scrape. I didn't have any post surgery bleeding and was physically feeling fine by the next day, emotionally it took me a little longer. I found support through this site, talking about it really helpped me. I am now 18 weeks pregnant and everything is going well this time around. Hopefully you will have no trouble getting pregnant agina quickly if that is what you choose. Please let me know if you have any other quesitons.
OMG I am sorry sorry you are going through this. I dont have all the answers but I do know you can have a healthy baby after a miscarriage. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this! trust in god he has a plan and you have to believe in him. he is there for you right now carrying you down this path and holding you close as you hurt! i pray that your procedure is over quickly and you can heal in your heart and your body!
I am so sorry for your loss Amy, i really don't know what else to say i'm dumbstruck!!
Amy I'm so sorry this happened.
Two years ago I saw and heard a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I went back for my 12 week ultrasound and there was no heartbeat and the baby only measured 6 weeks 4 days. I had been pregnant for 6 weeks not knowing that the baby had died. It was so heartbreaking. I had a D&C done. I went to the hospital and they put me under I woke up and went home. I was pretty out of it for the rest of the night and slept. I didn't have much bleeding but I did have alot of cramping afterwards.
Take it easy for a few days and rest. You will be in my thoughts.
Two years ago I saw and heard a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I went back for my 12 week ultrasound and there was no heartbeat and the baby only measured 6 weeks 4 days. I had been pregnant for 6 weeks not knowing that the baby had died. It was so heartbreaking. I had a D&C done. I went to the hospital and they put me under I woke up and went home. I was pretty out of it for the rest of the night and slept. I didn't have much bleeding but I did have alot of cramping afterwards.
Take it easy for a few days and rest. You will be in my thoughts.
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