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Please give your opinions. Mom who is alcoholic.
I live with my parents, single, and my mother drinks if not every night every other night. I am 38wks. Though the baby will be with me majority of the time and will definitely be with me at night, and also sleep in the same room as me. I am still worried. My mom has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember and we have tried talking to her on multiple occasions and she always goes back to it. Im just worried if she will stop once baby is born or if I will have to watch my baby whenever my mother holds her.. Please tell me what you guys think of this and suggestions on what I could do?...
@Rosealie see, that's the thing, she's really small and drinks hard stuff so it affects her quickly and she can get mean, that's why I worry so much. But you're right, I will stand my ground!
@Miraclemommy yes, that is exactly how I feel.. I have given up all hope in her changing. She's been an alcoholic for almost her whole life and nothing I say or do will make her stop. Guess I should just keep an eye out and not let her around my baby when she does. It's nice to know that I'm not alone though, thanks!
You can't keep her from drinking... what you should do depends on what type of drunk she is. My mom was a drinker also but she was a responsible drunk when it came to babies. If she is not responsible with children while drinking then I would tell her she can spend as much time with baby as she wants when she is not drinking. Let her know when she is drinking she is not going to be allowed to care for or hold the baby while drinking. Tell her that you are sorry and you love her but your baby must be you top priority. It should work out fine but you have to be firm and stand your ground.
maybe once your baby is born something will click and she will realize drinking isnt worth it. i really hope the best for you. if you ever want to talk you can message me....i know how it feels. good luck and i really hope things work out for you.
Im So sorry for your loss. Drugs truly take a hold of people. Thanks for the advice, everyone!(:
my mom drinks all night everynight.....she has been for many many years.....its hard....and sometimes she gets mean and says dumb ****.....i get tired of it. i live with my mom too. my mom swore up and down she would quit drinking when my nephew was born.....that was 18 months ago. i wish she would stoo for me and my daughter because as of right now i do live with her. but im 99% sure she wont. my mom has a problem and she needs help. i hope your mom quits for you and your baby but most likely she wont. our moms have a problem that only they can do something about it to fix it. we can talk to them as much as we want and it will just go in one ear out the other. i hope your mom is different from mine and your mom will quit. but your moms drinking problem doesnt sound much different from my moms. i know from watching it for years that it is a problem and it does hurt us. i know its hard ti have to be around....i dont want my baby around it at all.
When she's drinking don't let her hold your baby. She may get mad but tell her you're just ensuring the safety of your child. I lived with my mom for years after my son was born and she was a method addict. And I let her know she was not allowed to watch my son while high. She rarely ever watched him. Usually it was after he was asleep and I went out for the night. And this was while he slept through the night. And she never did her thing in the house. But she passed away a couple years ago. But just be straight up with her.
I completely understand my mil drinks at night so baby will never be sleeping over. Even though my SO lives with his parents still. She will be with me
Yeah, that is what I am thinking, @autumnsexpecting .. She used to drink all day long, but now it seems like it's just at night that she does. So maybe I won't really have to worry that much. But I'm still scared you know?
That is exactly what I am scared of. I have told her this straight up so many times. I said "if you continue to drink then holding my baby will be the last thing you do". Im thinking that once my baby is born and my mom sees her, I will have a serious talk with her right before she asks to hold her.
If it doesn't change, then no I will not let my mom even be around my daughter let alone hold her.
If it doesn't change, then no I will not let my mom even be around my daughter let alone hold her.
If your living in her house and don't have Any other place to live I would not say anything if she is easily offended. Just don't let her hold the baby when she's drinking
Straight up tell her if she continues to drink that you don't feel comfortable with her holding the baby. My father is an alcoholic and one night he came in my room and was looking at my daughter in her pack n play, then he was leaning on the pack n play, I thought he was going to fall over into it and crush her so I made him leave the room. Drunks and babies don't mix.
Tell her that she won't have the baby, if she is going to drink. If she drinks don't let her have the baby at all. Let her learn that of she wants to hold her grandchild she will need to stop drinking. I know it sounds harsh but I would try it. And if not then have a heart to heart conversation and what not.
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