Pregnancy hormones, anything a guy can do?

[Trucefallen]

So my girlfriend and me were in an extremely loving relationship, the kind you see in movies where you just know they are the one. She always told me I was perfect for her and I was the one, and how much better I am than her ex. Everything moved pretty fast and after 2 months she had made plans with me to get married and to start trying for a baby right now saying "If we know we will be together forever, then why not start our family now". I've always been very conservative and thought i'd wait till like 30, but for her i'm willing to do anything. Now shes about 6 weeks pregnant and the hormones are really starting to kick in. Some days she doesn't feel the love towards me that she did a few days ago. In fact she went from being over the top in love with me to planning to move out and live a ways away from me, get a second job and possibly even go back to her ex boyfriend. This change in heart literally happened over night and I'm freaking out. I read tons of stuff on pregnancy hormones and it seems this behavior is normal, but the only advice I saw was just wait it out. We are not married and have only been together almost 3 months, I fear if I "wait it out" that I will lose the love of my life and possibly my child. I tried reading through information on pregnancy hormones with her, but like most advice says, nothing you say or do seems to change those hormones. I guess my question is, can I do anything to help keep my family together?

[Chemie07]

Yeah really its a waiting game. Begining months are really hard its when our bodies go thru the most changes. It can make us feel so many different ways its rediculous and then the next second its something different. i know for me i didnt want my boyfriend anywhere near me. I just didnt want him or anyone else to touch me at all.he would try to cuddle and it would just **** me off. Just br supportive, keep her busy, make her laugh, and make her feel loved. Try not to argue even if you are right or your way is better. It will start to get better after her hormones start to even out

[Chemie07]

Yeah really its a waiting game. Begining months are really hard its when our bodies go thru the most changes. It can make us feel so many different ways its rediculous and then the next second its something different. i know for me i didnt want my boyfriend anywhere near me. I just didnt want him or anyone else to touch me at all.he would try to cuddle and it would just **** me off. Just br supportive, keep her busy, make her laugh, and make her feel loved. Try not to argue even if you are right or your way is better. It will start to get better after her hormones start to even out

[lwolfe520]

When I first got pregnant I went crazy!
I didn't know I was pregnant. I couldn't stand my husband or son. Every day anything they did drove me crazy and I would cuss and yell. I was drinking a lot and planning to leave my family. I literally hated my husband! This went on about a month. Now I'm totally opiate. I love my family. I am calm and back to normal. I'm actually very needy which isn't like me LOL I cry out of no where thanking God for my family. My advice to you is be very patient. Love her. And give it some time.

[Trucefallen]

Thank you for all the advice, it really does help me immensely. I know we did move to fast, but we just felt so right for each other and ready to take on the world and I have zero regrets nor has my feelings for her wavered, in fact they have only grown stronger. I just feel so helpless. I suppose I was hoping for some surefire and proactive way to fix or remedy the hormones, rather than just waiting it out and continuing to be extremely supportive, but realistically I know that is just not possible.

[kaidenjmom]

Best thing to do is let her be right in everything, if she is angry don't talk to her. If she wants you to talk, then talk. Basically since you are willing to do anything for your relationship, you are going to have to be in the background trying to make everything work. If she says something mean, you say something nice. If something you do bothers her, don't do it. That's the only way. And that's not even guaranteed to work. But it'd worth a try. Just know that it will be over, but maybe those aren't just her hormones and there is some truth to was she is saying. You guys did move way too fast.

[jtrasky]

Remind her every day how much you love her and how happy you are that you two have found each other. It starts to get better in the second trimester. Remind her why she fell in love with you and that you will never leave her no matter what because you want to be there for her and the baby through everything. My fiancee and I decided to try for a baby after We had been together four months. It was my man's idea and so sometimes I feel trapped and like it was too soon and he says I don't say nice things to him anymore. But then he stays so sweet to me and tells me how amazing I am and stays strong and supportive. It reminds me why I fell in love with him. You sound like a great guy so hang in there!

[mikenzee]

When you decided to have a child you were still in the beginning of the relationship, so the honeymmon face where everything seems perfect. All relationships have it and it winds for everyone. That doesn't mean the love is gone. Just try and make her feel extra special. Remember that you might not seem as loving to her as you used to be. It's a team effort and neither of you can fix it alone, butbtoh can take the first step. The same thing happened with my fiance and I at about six weeks, we were also a new couple. Now at 17 weeks we are haply and in love and have learned what we both need from each other to feel loved.

[wyrpamatz]

Just give her time take her out to a movie make her feel special. I will cry sometimes out of nowhere and my husband will chuckle at times bc he says its cute but to make me feel better he will hug me or give me a back rub, then of course I'll say go away and he'll stop. And smile. Yes there are times I want to leave also but its just the hormones, I know I will go crazy without him.

But honestly her comparing you to her ex is just way out of line, hormones or no hormones. Sorry but that's my opinion.

[isabel1994]

She will get over it but it takes time I been with my boyfriend for three years and during my hormones I would not want to be anywhere near him because his face would anger me or just made me tell him hurtfull things it will be over soon just give it time and soon she will be always with you and won't want to leave your side

[xolexixo]

Well either way your the baby's dad, so whatever she chooses to do just do your job and be a great father. I know how hormones go, I'm the worse with them!! And sorry but they will only get worse! I agree with the ladies give it time and maybe when she sees the baby on u/s or when the baby is accually born she will come back and realize what's best for your baby. Good luck!!

[ammanda]

It seems to me that you guys moved WAYYY to fast and she could be experiencing some poor judgment on what she did. and could be realizing it now and doesn't know what to do.. when a life changing thing happens like getting pregnant, you start to put EVERYTHING into perspective.  Honestly the only thing you can do is wait it out and see if things get better.  if not you have to accept that you guys moved too fast and might have possibly made a mistake. but you still have rights to that baby. so don't worry about losing your baby! Good luck and hope all is well. Trust me it *****.. coming from a mom of a 3 year old and being pregnant again.. I pretty much break up with my boyfriend everyday but he just tells me im stupid and kisses me.. you got to have her sit down and have a serious talk.. she isn't being fair at all!

[darksunshine]

All the advice I can give you and her would be for her not to make a sudden decision. Give it a bit of time and for you to be understanding. Maybe try taking her out for a fun relaxing  night? Sounds like your a great guy and I hope things work out for you. If I think of anything else that may help then I will message you. :)