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Regretting telling the guy

So. I had spotting/light bleeding five days before my period. Took a pregnancy test the day I was due. BFP. Told my guy later that day. I wouldn't have, except I'd already been sick for almost a week and I knew he was worried. I should've just stopped testing but he didn't believe me. We actually had a fight over this because I've had hormonal problems in the past (though NEVER a positive HPT before. I really thought that was literally impossible for me, at least this early.) He accused me of making it up -- we used protection and he hadn't noticed anything fail. I wanted to confirm. Now I have mixed results. I'm a week late, sick as a dog, and so hormonal my hands shake. I'm trying really hard not to stress.

Our parents all live close by. Both moms have noticed how sick I've been -- headaches, loss of appetite, no energy, snappy and emotional. (Not to mention the super-sore boobs.) They don't know what's going on, or at least, I'm avoiding that discussion, and money is tight. I can't just go to the ER on a whim. And if I can get medical coverage at all, it'll only cover one pregnancy a year. If I'm wrong, or if I lose a baby, that's it for the foreseeable future.

Sorry I'm just low on moral support right now, and I keep hearing about all these women who go to the ER, get a negative blood test, get told they're crazy, and go right back in a month or two or three later with the same symptoms before they find out they're preggers. I don't know what to do. And dammit the waterworks have started again. I've cried more in the last week than I have in the previous couple years.
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290867 tn?1333569278
Just go to the doc that's all you can and should do right now. Honestly my dh didn't believe me when I first told him I was pregnant this time because it took so long to get pregnant with my previous and all the meds. I showed him the test then he did though.
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Thanks. I have paperwork for Medicaid, now I just would really like to replicate the positive HPT before turning it in. Not sure I can take yet another doctor telling me their test came up negative and I'm a crazy person.
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889551 tn?1416184483
As far as him not believing you, I don't have any advice for that. I've never been in that position. :( Maybe he's just a bit nervous. Don't ever regret telling him either, he just needs time to get used to the situation. Get the medicaid situation taken care of and then take him to your doctor's appointments. I'm really sorry you're going through this!
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889551 tn?1416184483
If you got a bfp on a pregnancy test, and haven't had any bleeding then I don't see why you wouldn't show positive on a blood test. Especially if you are a week late for your period. If you go to the health department, you can usually get signed up on pregnancy medicaid there, and they confirm your pregnancy with a urine test. You really need to get signed up on medicaid if you don't have insurance. Seeing an OB or midwife is very important during pregnancy. Test again with a hpt, and if it's still positive, go to your local health department or fill out an application online with your state to get started with the medicaid process. It takes a bit to get situated. I went to the health department as my husband was starting a new job, and we had to wait 3 months before we could get insurance. My effective date was post dated back to the day I went to the health department and they gave me a temporary peice of paper that would function as my medicaid card until mine came in.
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