Should I be upset or am I over reacting??

[Liss817]

So I'm 34 almost 35 weeks pregnant and to this point I've had a pretty normal pregnancy except going to the hospital last week because my blood pressure being high. but this weekend coming up my boyfriend decided that he's going to his friends camp for the weekend. Normally I wouldn't care but being that I'm so close to my due date and you never know what can happen now. He will be going over 4 hours away where he barely gets any service on his cell phone and won't be taking his car and driving with his friend. not to mention that they go there and get drunk pretty much from Friday until Sunday when they come home. So if something was to happen and I go into labor it will take him over 4 hours to get to me and that's if his friend will drive him home and they're not drunk which is unlikely. I get nervous about him being at work 15 minutes away and me going into labor. I feel like its kind of selfish for him to not think of me and the baby. I told him I would never forgive him if something happens and he misses the birth of our son. This is our first. Am I over reacting or should I be upset for him going so far away from me so late in my pregnancy??

[lera1130]

I'm pretty sure I'd be upset if my husband told me I want drive 4 hours away to get drunk when I'm in my last month of pregnancy. It's sorta selfish. I mean its not like you can go party it up right now, right? So why should he have an excuse of "i wanna have fun before baby comes". I think I would be dissapointed because I would want him to be by my side and not wanting to leave. If it would've been like 1st or 2nd trimester then I'd be ok with it.  

[kennimae92]

My husband is in the marines and we live in north Carolina but home is in Pennsylvania. Its a 10 hour drive depending on traffic. Im currently 33w4d and he wanted to originally go home this week (stuff happened that we went home a couple weeks ago so his plans went down the toilet). Well he just turned 21 so he wanted to go home for a week to get drunk with family and friends. At first I was mad about it because he was leaving me here and if I went into labor he would have to sober up and make the 10 hour drive down here. Well I thought about it in a different light. He is going to be a first time dad and is probably scared sh!tless. For the next 18 years he has a big responsibility and doesn't just have to think about himself or I anymore he has her now too. I told him if he wanted to go then he can go because things will never be the same again so that he better get it out pf his system now.  I made back up arrangements in case I did go into labor so I had a way there and such.
In reality yes you can be mad because I was too. I also figured the reality of me going into labor that early was too big of a chance but if I did I had back up plans. Also im sure if I called as soon as going into labor he would still be able to make it most likely. But just remember he is probably scared and probably wants his last "adventure" before becoming a dad.

[JewelzD]

I understand how u feel i was 35weeks when my husband went to Kentucky for the whole month of june for work thank god i didnt have the baby while he was that far away when I did go in labor he was with me but i had the baby so fast he was filling out papers and still ended up missing the birth of our son i labor fast it started at 5am n he was born at 7:36am but he was my 3rd and i was like that with all 3.But if u havent had any preterm labor scares i would let him go this is his 1st child soon as the baby is born he wont be able to go with friends so offten i would let him have one weekend full of fun now cause u never know when he will get to do it again i wouldnt fight him on this one. You have a girls weekend have a friend over and enjoy ur self have like a home spa day i hope this helped u best of luck try not to stress

[sorenr]

I'd be pretty hacked off too. My partner missed out on a music festival a few weeks ago as I was about 36wks at the time, luckily for me he made that choice on his own. He's probably seeing it as his last chance to let loose before the baby arrives, he will certainly not realise just how anxious you are about it and he probably thinks that the baby will just happily pop out on its due date, men just dont get it sometimes.