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Should sex hurt when I'm pregnant??

I just found out that I'm 5 weeks pregnant and my fiance and I had sex three days ago and during sex everything was normal but immediately after I was having such bad cramps and stomach pains that I almost went to the E.R. Is that normal? I was really scared, I had cancerous cells on my cervix and had a cone biopsy and the doctors told me that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant and if I did I wouldn't be able to carry the baby because my cervix was compromised, Now I'm pregnant and VERY scared that I'm going to lose the baby due to the state of my cervix, and everything weird scares me. I also know that all this worry and stress is just as detrimental to my baby. Any advise about all of this would be awesome I just don't want to do anything that may hurt the baby or lead to a miscarriage, PLEASE HELP!!!  
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It IS normal to cramp when orgasming during early pregnancy...but a good rule of thumb is if you're pregnant and it hurts, stop doing it. you need to talk to your doctor before resuming normal sexual activities so please for now I would recommend do NOT have sex until you have seen your doctor.

as far as damage you could have possibly done...chances are that you didn't do any damage whatsoever. Most women have sex regularly throughout their pregnancies and it does NOT affect the baby, unless you have some underlying complication (such as an incompetent cervix or something of the sort). Because your cervix IS compromised you will definitely want your doctor to watch and monitor you more carefully during pregnancy and you may have to refrain from sex the whole pregnancy, but I wouldn't imagine that the uterine cramps are related to your cervical issues...like I said cramping during orgasm in early pregnancy can be completely normal. I used to be balled up in agony if I orgasmed during the first 8wks of all three of my pregnancies (1 m/c, 1 baby girl in 2008 1 baby boy last week) and 2 out of 3 of those pregnancies were completely normal and healthy. I would imagine that if you had affected anything to do with your cervix you would have had bleeding and/or pain in your cervix, not your belly.

But I would say go ahead and make an appointment with your doctor for this week. even if there's nothing wrong, talking to him and getting his advice will help reassure you and you need to try to stay relaxed and not stress too much.did they say what about the biopsy had compromised your cervix? docs don't know everything..after my daughter was born I had a horrible uterine infection and they told me not to expect to ever be able to conceive again, so when my husband and I started trying we figured it would be YEARS if we ever conceived again at all...but we got pregnant the first month trying...so you never know. trust your body, relax until you get in to be seen by the doctor, and don't blame yourself.
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Actually you said it correctly, my cervix is incompetent, i couldn't think of
the right word.  They just told me that after having part of my cervix removed that carrying a child to term was unlikely, that is why I'm so worried. I have my first Dr. appt. tomorrow and I'm looking forward to hearing what they have to say. It's been six years since I had the cone biopsy, so I'm hoping that everything will be alright!! I definitely won't be having sex again until I hear that it's O.K. from my doctor. Since the sex incident I haven't had any other cramps or pains so I'm hoping that it was just because I was in the wrong position or something. Thank you so much from the advice, finding out that I'm pregnant has been REALLY crazy, I'm super excited but I feel totally lost because I don't know nearly as much as I thought I did!! :) I feel much better after hearing about your experience, So Thank You!!!!!!
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Cramps in early pregnancy can be very normal but i would maybe say that with the proplems you are having it might be a good idea to maybe not have sex at the moment, the first 12 weeks are very important and also the chances of miscarriage reduce by a great deal after this point so mabe avoiding full on intercourse for a while may help ease your worrys, find other ways to be close to your partner for a little while just until things settle down with the pregnancy !

Good luck !!
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1035252_tn?1371343440
I'm glad I could help ease your mind hon...good luck at the doctor's and let me know what they say --keep us posted! :)
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Thanks so much and I have definitely decided to hold off on sex for the time being!! I thought that I was not ever going to have children and that was really hard for me, I was a Nanny and worked in childcare for years, and all my friends always said that I would be a super mom, so now that I DID get pregnant I'm not taking any chances, I'm not doing anything that could in any way hurt the baby. This is a dream come true!!! I feel truly blessed!! :) And as soon as I talk to the doc I will let you know, Thanks again!!
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I am 24 weeks and I still cramp and contract with every orgasm.  Since the beginning of my prenancy, I end up with back pain for hours follow intercourse. The baby is doing fine so it's just uncomfortable for me!
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Aw, thats wonderful that your dreams are coming true! I wish you a happy, healthy nine months :D
If its any consolation, DH and I have not had sex since February when I got my BFP! There are plenty of other ways to have fun :D
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I have a retroverted uterus, so sex with my DH was akways unconfortable but I made do with it. Since getting pregnant we have had sex twice, and it hurt me both times, so if it hurts, don't do it. Since you have an incompetent cervix they may do a cerclage where they stitch your cervix closed until you deliver your baby in order to decrease chances of miscarriage. Usually in cases like this I've heard OB's put the patients under pelvic rest, meaning no sex until postpartum. Good Luck!
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Thank you all, I was thinking about what you have said and thinking back before we had sex the other night like 2 days prior we did "other" stuff and it hurt really bad when I had an orgasm then too, so maybe it's not the intercourse that is the problem but the orgasm??? I will ask tomorrow, it's my first doctors appt since I found out so I have a whole page of Q's, this is just one more to add!!
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Not to contradict anyone but orgasms are contractions. If you orgasm you will have cramping, whether pregnant or not. It just feels like a different cramping when pregnant and can be uncomfortable and intense.

But with your problems I would refrain from sex until you get a doctor to look at your cervix and give you informed, medical advice.
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