Spoiled or something else

[onlyme27]

Between working at night and keeping the baby all day, I am getting run down I think.  My 12 week old is a wonderful baby but I feel like I need a break sometimes.  I try to get my mother to watch her sometimes but it never works otu b/c Steeley cries the whoel time my mother has her.  Mother says she is spoiled and gets on to me for holding her so much.  I don't think the I do but I do spend a lot of time with her.  Mommy or daddy is with her 24/7 and the first signs of us leaving causes her to cry.  She doesn't give my sister a problem just my Mom.  I don't know why she doesn't seem to like my mom.  All the other grandkids do. It hurts my mom's feelings and now she won't even offer to keep her.  I need a break.  Any suggestions?

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I agree w/ Amy.  I have 5 kids and have done TONS of reading through the years about child development.  You cannot spoil a baby that young and it is normal for babies to have preferences towards different people.  Honestly, almost all of my kids have been that way with my mom.  My 3 year old wouldn't go anywhere with her until she was 18 months old and even then it was a bit of a struggle.  Now she has gotten right back to where she only wants to be at home with mom or dad and we don't force it.

I also agree with Tracy in that the more time your baby spends with your mom, the quicker your baby will take to your mom; even if you are there with her.  I know that was part of the problem with my mom was that my kids didn't see my mom frequently enough.

I understand how your mom feels, but just tell her that it's not personal.  Before you know it, your little one will prefer grandma to you because grandma will be the one spoiling her.  LOL!

[amy0013]

I used to work in Early Intervention (birth-three yrs old program in our state).  All of the Developmental Therapists used to say it's IMPOSSIBLE to spoil a baby under the age of 6 months.  :)  Hold her as much as you feel she needs and keep being the loving mommy that you are!

When my daughter was born was had severe acid reflux and cried for EVERYONE...LOL...But she did have particular ways that she liked being held more than others.  If you kept her upright she was better off, etc...If someone didn't hold her just right she was bound to start screaming.  I also found that she could easily sense tension in people.  Maybe your mom is subconsciously acting nervous around her because she "expects" that she'll cry and Steeley can sense that???  I agree that your mom needs to spend more time around her and eventually I bet Steeley will love grandma as much as everyone else!

Hope that helps a little.  :)  

[Tracy21]

hiya i know how you feel when i had my daughter she cried everytime she went near my mum but the more she spent time with my mum the more settled she became. i think your mum should spend more time with her even if you are there let your mum deal with her and if it gets to much you can take over. ,my mum said the same thing i hold her to much but i did'nt i only held her when she needed it then i would her down. your daughter is just to used to mommy and daddy. just be patient your daughter will come round to your mum mine has and my daughter hated her so it will work out keep us updated good luck

[onlyme27]

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