Stress

[Linnymarie]

Anyone else extremly stressed and confused. I was on bc for over 4yrs, im 22 not financially stable and now 6wks my boyfriends family is wanting me to keep it, my family thinks im throwing my life away, we want to keep it, but he is being lazy I need him to get another job and its just one more expensive bumb in the road after another. Anyone in similar or know how to help me cope with all of this before it hurts my baby?

[kmr1516]

I couldn't work when I was pregnant with my first and my husband didn't have a job due to mark on his record. His parents had to help us out for a bit and they thought we were making a mistake and my gran thought I was making a mistake they all wanted us to finish college before we got married and had kids. Once my husband got a job my mom passed away and that took a good deal of money to take care of and then my husband fell very ill and that cost even more like you said one bump in the road after the next but the good thing is there are programs that will help you until you get on your feet. The choice is up to you and your bf that baby is yours not your parents and not his families so what is done is up to the two of you. A child...you will never know a love like it. Gook luck will be praying it all will work out oh and by the way my husband and i have one with another on the way and I'm still in college and he only has a part time job we can't afford anything but we love our son so much and we are both looking for jobs now. Congrats a baby is so much fun.

[Linnymarie]

Thank you all for your feedback I really appreciate it!

[cminamyer]

You shouldn't listen to anyone else....do what you feel is best for you and your baby. It's your decision!

[chelseaneddie]

I was 20 when I had my daughter who is now 7 and she's my world. I couldn't imagine life without her. It was hard and I did struggle but shes well worth that. I managed to but myself through nursing school and buy a house and car. Life is what you make it and I can say b4 my daughter I was on the wrong road, she's why I am what I am today. Good luck with whatever your choice my be. Just remember stay positive. On another note me and her father didn't last and he's no help what do ever so alone it can be done. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

[mommybear0710]

Well I am also 22 and my husband is 24, this makes baby 3 for us we had our 1st at 18 & I have never felt like we threw our lives away, we are happy and will be young and able to truly enjoy our grandkids. Don't let anyone talk you into making a decision you'll regret later on. As far as financial worrys go you do what you have to do, my husband has worked two jobs before and babies don't need the "best" of everything, with the first we bought the expensive diapers and all that but by the time number two came along we had learned the cheap stuff is just as good. Also y'all still have 8 1/2 months to make a decision and get ready, if you're anything like me when you feel that little one moving in there you won't be able to let it go.

[stacey10]

well I think that if everyone waited until they were financially secure before they had a baby, population would be on the decline, or you would be past  concieving age!! try not to let financial issues worry you, its amazing how little a new baby actually needs, they dont care if they are in a second hand cot/stroller etc, and you can get by without nthings like a change table, I've had 10 and I've never had one of those!!, we put pressure on ourselves to buy the best of everything and in reality bub grows soo quickly that the majority of things especially clothes dont get much use before they're into a different size.... dont let your family talk you into doing something you will regret later on, as you will never get that baby back... how can you be throwing your life away when your giving new life to another, I dont get that, being a parent is the most rewarding thing that I have ever done, sure it has many moments when you want to pull your hair out, but its the most amazing feeling to have something that you've greated look into your eyes and to feel that unconditional love, nothing comes close!!! Life is full of bumps in the road, thats what makes it a journey, they're put there so we can grow and learn, imagine how boring a long straight road would be, having a baby is the start of your new life which will be open to amazing experiences, something that you wouldnt be able to experience without being pregnant :)

[Kelci0104]

If your life is thrown, not of your life theorem. I apologize about that.

[Kelci0104]

It's up to you if you keep the baby. Your family, although you love them, do not make this decision for you. Also of your life is theorem away of your decision as well.

Honestly I am 21 and 11 weeks and still have my life ahead of me. I'm excited for my busker of joy! I just think of my ancestors and how they've lived with less. With more children and no birth control after a pregnancy. In my opinion, if you feel you can give this baby all they need and your boyfriend is right behind you with that then keep the child. If you feel that the child will have more being put for adoption do that. There are many people who cannot have children who are waiting to love yours. You're a parent now, don't make this decision for you, but for your baby.