TTC- First timers

If you are TTCing for your first baby, please gather here.
Lets share our frustration... well that is the least we can do besides trying :-)
all other, moms, please share your TTC#1 experiences.
(Accidental parents -> you are lucky)

How many months have you been TTCing
Myself: 7 going towards 8

I am soo frustrated, sooo jealous when someone talks abt their kid/expected baby...
I feel like it is such a long/unpredictable process....
Is it just me? or everyone (or most of them) sail in this boat??

[slb1107]

We aren't "officially" TTC. We aren't using any protection and just letting it happen. (well mostly he's into the letting it happen and I am more of the obsessive type lol) Been like this for a while now. I am 12 days late and get my blood test results tomorrow. All hpts have been negative =(  

Baby dust to all!

[Dreamia]

been TTC for 5 months

[SantanL]

You have your results yet??
my fingers crossed for you

Drwamia: how regular is your menstrual cycle??

[krey]

ttc for 2 months it was the most tiring thing to do ever!! charting O and your temps.. it drove me ccrazy looking up info! and just to get to the end result AF! such an emotional roller coaster. this month we decided to not chart and google info and instead to just bd when we want and see what happens! af is due the 18th ..

[pro728]

I agree with Krey. Its not tiring but also confusing. One doctor says go alternate another says daily! lol. I have tried for 2-3 months hardly following OC. I had my ovulation studies last month.

OK anyway... I am waiting for my period 3-4 days but I have some on and off lower ab cramps and lower back pain. I have wonderful gas and burps too. I was on endogest 200 until yesterday (recommended for 20 days and had it for 10). But since I know that endogest wouldn't give me a period I have stopped it to see if it is menstrual cramps or pregnancy signs. Will do an HPT anyways.

[pro728]

I don't think I am preg. :( My HPT is negative and I dint expect it to be positive as there are still 3 more days to go before my expected MP. I cried today a chief symptom of my PMS. And my dirty lower back pain and ab pain disappeared since yetserday. And I woke up today like I was going to have perio though I havent had it yet.

[SantanL]

Any news today??

[krey]

It could be to early to test!! don't get your hopes up.. a lot of women dont get bfp's until about 6 -8 weeks... do you feel any different this cycle?

[krey]

I know exactly what you mean.. and its easy to become obsessive over this stuff! how did you blood test go?

[krey]

My friend just found out she is pregnant.. called me today and told me about it and explained how she doesnt even know if she wants to keep it since her and the father have split up recently. Hearing  this is frustrating.. bc the people who dont want kids get them!!!

[SantanL]

that is pathetic.
I seldom hear such things/abt not wanting to keep kids, but it definitely annoys me.
Why should God to this?  why cant He bless people with kids who WANT them?
:(
slb1107 & pro728: any news?

[gillianl]

i have been ttc for 2 years and 9 months.  I'm going in for my laparoscopy tomorrow as a final test as my partner is all clear and fine.  If nothing is found it will be IVF in 2 years time unless i conceive before then due to unexplained infertility.

I have had every pre-pregnancy symptom you can think of, i also get really bad cramps during ovulation and during AF where i can't move off the sofa or ttc with my partner.  i also get brown/pink discharge anything from 10 days before AF is due which is pretty emotional.

My main advice to all of us ladies ttc is wait until AF is at least a week later before testing and do not stress, have fun ttc as tracking ovulation and BBT can take it's toll.  Have soem romantic nights with your partners and don't turn ttc into a chore it can lead to many arguments lol  Best wishes and loads of baby dust to all of us women ttc

[pro728]

thanks for that post. but unexplained infertility scares me. I think I know someone who also has similar problem. at 30, 5 years after marriage she has not conceived. the doc has asked to reduce her weight.

to all, lets keep trying!

[gillianl]

my doc has told me the same to lose the weight, i sometimes feel they always tell you this whether your overweight or not.  My sister conceived her 3rd child at 15stone and the nhs complain to many overweight people are conceiving and causing some problems to there unborn child, so weight isn't always an issue.  I'm just hoping the docs find something minor tomorrow to give me a reason why i've not conceived otherwise, here i come IVF

[Freds_Baby]

This is our 2nd month TTC. We will see if we get our BFP this month. Last month my AF was 11 days late so it threw off my cycle. That hasn't happened before. So we will see if this month is any better. It is very frustrating.

[SantanL]

Good luck with your laproscopy today.
A friend of mine (will be 30 next month) almost pursued IVF.  thankfully, she got pregnant two months ago (after 4 years of trying).
So.... anything can happen!  Trust in God!

Pro728:  same applies to you.  Lets hope for the best :-)

Freds_Baby: Good luck to you.  Keep us posted :-)

[SantanL]

today is my cd15, still ovulation monitor does not show more than one bar...
guess I am not ovulating even this month :(

any updates form you ladies?

[Freds_Baby]

Thanks for the best wishes! My AF is due on the 24th but if i don't get it I don't plan on testing until the end of the month just to be sure. Last month when we TTC I was feeling all the pregnancy symptons only to be shot down with a BFN. This month I don't feel any of that so maybe I can have the opposite effect and get a BFP! I'm hoping. Getting a BFP would be a great birthday present for myself since my b-day is next month. We are hoping for the best this month. I'm not doing the BBT charting that is just too much for me. I am using the ovulation chart but just going with the flow. Best of luck to you all! I will keep you all posted. :o)

[SantanL]

All the best for your Best B'day Present you can ask for :-)
I wanted to hold my baby in my arms on my B'day ...but...
Well, it'll not happen until HE decides for me.
Try not to think abt it, try to keep urself busy so you keep away your urge to test sooner than next month.
Good luck, keep us posted!

Cheers

[Freds_Baby]

Thanks! I'm beginning to feel cramps so i'm thinking that i'm going to start my AF this weekend as expected. We will see. When I told my bf about the cramps and I thought i was getting my AF he wasn't happy. But we will see you never know. I will keep you posted. We are hoping for the best!

[wantinajellybean]

My DH and I have been trying for 6 months heading into the seventh.  It does get very frustrating when AF shows every month. I am one of the most patient people ever, but not when it comes to this :)  Should be ovulating this weekend, so we will be trying again :)  

SSBD ladies. IT WILL HAPPEN.

[SantanL]

Thanks for the Dust!
Good luck to you too :-)

[ConnieG]

This is our 5th month of TTC.  I have PCOS and we don't know of any other issues. We were going to see an RE after 6 months of TTC but we have decided to wait until 2011 to save money so right now I'm just trying to keep track of my cycle so I have some info to give them when we finally do get to see a specialist.
SSBD to all!!!!

[CA25]

Auugh.... This is my 4th month tryingt to concieve (conceive). I am scared out of my mind. The Doctor wanted me to be on Lupron for 6 months after my Lap but  I wanted to see if I can conceieve. So far NO :( this is making me feel down and depress. EVERYONE around me is either Pregnant or has a baby, and I am infertile. Why me? its not fair. I am still Going to Trust God when all seems so dark!

[BEM1984]

TTC our 1st for the last 4 months. So far no luck. AF is due on the 23rd. There's still hope :) I've been having cramping on and off for the last 4 or 5 days. It feels like a side ache and switches back and fourth from side to side. Has anyone else experienced this. It feels different than AF cramps. could i be pregnant? I took a test 2 days ago and it was negative but I think it was still too soon. My fingers are crossed!!

[BEM1984]

It sounds like we are on the same cycle. I'm due for AF on the 23rd and I think you are the 24th. Keep me posted. Good Luck!!

[smjmekg]

Not TTC anymore, just stopping by to wish you ladies the best of luck and SSBD for a BFP!!!

[confused010110]

i have been TTC for about 9 months now...it is so frustrating! sometimes i feel like just giving up cause it doesnt feel like its going to happen. and i have baby fever bad! i have so many friends that have just gave birth within this last year, about 12 friends to be exact! sometimes i just break down because it is so frustrating. and since jan. of this year, my cycles have been so out of whack! throughout all of my years my cycle has never been late or anything and starting in feb. when i didnt have one i thought there was hope but nothing happened, all hpt were neg. and then in march i got my period for not even 48 hours, and still nothing this month when i should have gotten it on the 15th, i went to the dr end of march but i couldnt do any testing because i have no insurance, but she said that i need to start watching my weight. and still all hpt are negative. is there anyone out there that has any good tips? and i hope that all of you that are trying get the answers you want soon!! :)

[SantanL]

I see that you are only 25, so you can afford to wait.  and I personally think it is a better idea to try naturally.  If anything, you'll have medical help at anytime.
Hopefully, you'll not need any :-)

Well, that is just my opinion!
Good luck to you

[SantanL]

I hear you lady!
Although I might sound boring, but believe it or not, when we want something we start to pay more attention to it.  Although it has always been there, we will start noticing it more when we are desperate.
I am speaking frm my experience (not just baby-wise, but car-wise, job-wise etc)
But yeah, since I am thinking anout babies (a lotttt), I see all my friends who already conceived and I am so Jealous :(

[SantanL]

and CA 25,
my fingers crossed for you both.  Keep us posted.

smjmekg: Thanks lady.  We really need good wishes/more dust!!

[Freds_Baby]

I'm due to have my AF on the 24th. I hope i don't get it but I have been getting cramping on and off in the last couple of days but we will see. All I can do is pray to God and He will bless us with a child whenever he thinks the time is right. Even though we would like it now.

[SantanL]

Hmm.. good tips... I am sure you are reading up as much as we are!
its just wait-n-watch game, with some frustration sprinkled on top.
Am in the same boat.  Either firends aleay conceived,or announced that they are pregnant.
There are some more that are in the TTC boat, but I am afraid they'll declare sooner than I can, because I suspect some ovulation issues with me...
that breaks me down :(

Anyway, I am hopeful that HE has some BEST plan for me.  in fact HE has a plan for everyone of us and it'll be a good one!

[CA25]

Thanks Girl.... I hope its my month...year...I just want a baby....:( my sisters wombs are so fertile. One try and boom Pregnant.. Not me though... took 3 years with my son and now its been 7 yrs with that pregnancy :( this is so heartbreaking but God be the Glory! He is all I need and more. Yes I get jealous too. I mean especially when both of my sisters got pregnant this year and not me. I just feel so left out. I pray but nothing is working. Both of my sisters can pick and chose when they want to get pregnant and IF they want to keep the baby, but not me... I can't even concieve (conceive) :( how is that fair?

[chrissy2010]

hi im ttc and last month my first day of my period was 3/22 and i have a 28 day cycle. and on 4/5-4/6 i had light pink spotting around my ovulation days only when i wiped. and then on 4/16-4/18 i had brownish spotting when i wiped and my AF isnt due until 4/19. and now its the 4/22 and still no af and no signs thats she coming. i think it might be implantation spotting i ve read about it in three different pregnancy books and they all say the same thing that you normally get implantation spotting 5 to 10 days after conception  and a couple days before you AF comes. so could these mean that im experiencing implantation spotting, and that i might be pregnant. ive had plenty of symptoms like fatigue, frequent urination, headaches, i feel like im on an  emotional roller coaster.  

[SantanL]

Sounds like that is it for you!!!!!
All the best and Congratulations!

Please keep us posted on how it is coming up.

[SantanL]

I hear ya... same thing with my SIL
She is so fertile... she even dropped baby because she has three already...
Why if HE punishing me with this?  I mean, really. I didnt even ovulate this month :((
How frustrating...

[SoReady41]

My BF and I are TTC, this is our 1st month. I've tried b4 with no BFP, but AF is due on/around the 29th, really don't know b/c I just got off the pill so idk when exactly it will come but keeping my fingers crossed that we get blessed!! :) good luck ladies!

[BEM1984]

It definitely sounds like you are pregnant! have you taken a preg test yet? Keep us posted

[ConnieG]

Thanks! Right now we're just praying for God's timing.  Hopefully it will happen in the next year because we're planning on seeing a specialist next summer....if it happens naturally that would be great!! And a great way to save a TON of money.  lol.
GL to everyone TTC!! SSBD.  I love reading about all the BFPs even if I do get a little jealous!  :)

[chrissy2010]

thank you and i havent taken a test im going to take it tomorrow. and will let you know what it says. fingers crossed that its a BFP. cause ive been trying since september and never experienced this before with the spotting and no AF when shes apost to be due.  and still no AF today.

[SoReady41]

K I want yalls opinions, I woke up constipated at like 6 this morning. I was cramping SO bad :( so after I handled business I came and layed back down and my mouth started watering so I ran to the bathroom and started gagging but never threw up! Is it too early if I'm only 7 dpo to have syptoms (symptoms) like this?

[chrissy2010]

so today i took a HPT and got a BFN 5 days late on AF and last period was 3/22  and is 28 cycle next one should have started on 4/19   spotted light pink on 4/5 during ovulation and then spotted light brown on 4/16 which as i have read is implantation bleeding.  im so confused and getting worried?

[Freds_Baby]

well it looks like I have to try again next month. My AF came today. Oh well now we are going on our 3rd month trying. Best of luck to you all. :o) SSBD!

[SantanL]

Ya, looks like you have some symptoms.... few months ago, I faced similar situation (but it was more towards my AF due time).  In addition to the situation you explained, I had sharp stomach pain too....
But it faded in 5-10mins.  I wrote to my doc abt it, but she did not give any expression... so I guess it was nothing major.

But in your case... wait it out.  Let us know if you continue to have such symptoms

(Secretly, Good Luck to you :D)

[SantanL]

5days late, and still BPN???
You have any other symptoms? like sharp pain in breasts etc?
Wait for another 2-3days and take your test again.  hcg levels grow rapidly everyday, so may be hpt'll pick up some time soooonnnn

Good luck

[SantanL]

Hmm....  welcome to another cycle.  I am dying to start my next cycle (since I didnt ovulate this month).  I am hoping tht I shed these linings soon and ovulate atleast next month.

SSBD to all!!!

[chrissy2010]

yeah i get off and on pains and my breast get sore and tender every once in awhile and i look and feel bloated. and today 4/26 still no AF

[BEM1984]

I took a test on Sunday 4/25 and it was positive!!!!! Baby is due January 2nd! Good luck to everyone, it will happen. This month I decided not to use my ovulation monitor so I didn't stress out as much and it happened!

[soldierswifey22209]

6 going on 7  months TTC. It may be coming to an end bc i should of started the 1st and or the 15th. I have been showing signs and my dog seems to think something is going on. so im being hopeful :)

baby dust to us all :)

[SantanL]

I dont want to get your hopes hihg, but... looks like you'll see a BFP thie month
My fingers crossed for you :)

[SantanL]

WOWWW
Congratulations!!

Hope your good vibes bring some good luck to us too :D

Enjoy your memorable days from now on :-)

[SantanL]

Baby dust to you too!!

[chrissy2010]

thank you i hope to see a BFP to. and still no AF

[confused010110]

so...im a little confused and need some advice, just to make sure i am not going crazy or anything :) or if i need to make a doc appt., because i have asked my friends, and this has not happened to them, but maybe somebody can tell me if this has happened to them so i know what is going on with my body. i have been ttc since aug. and in feb. i had nothing all month, so me and my hubby were hopeful, but all the tests we took were neg. and in march, there was nothing, but then 7 days past when i should have gotten my monthly friend i bleed for not even 48 hours and that was it for that month, and now in april, i havent had anything, i took a test about a week ago and it was neg. and that is when my monthly friend would have been about 2 days late. I have been overly tired this last week and kind of nauseated, but thats about it, i had these type of symptoms in feb/march too....and i did go to the doctor in march and she just said to wait it out because since i have no insurance she didnt want to do any testing, but throughout all of my years of having my cycle, i have never been late once, so i am a little confused and i guess kind of frustrated. can anybody tell me anything? thanks :)

[soldierswifey22209]

Thank you!

I'm testing in the morning so keep your fingers crossed :)

[SantanL]

whats the news???
hoping to hear some good news :-)

[SantanL]

Dont worry,it is pretty common during this TTC-ing period.
One reason I can think of is tht we get so crazily concerned and track these 'dates' so much that our harmones decide to play some joke on us :(
its sad, but, you know.... it is what it is.  I have heard many many women complain about it.
Keep yourself busy and try not to think about it for long.
if your monthly friend still didnt show her ugle face, cross your fingers and take a HPT.
I wish you good luck :-)
Do let us know what happened :-)

[SantanL]

Back in my deadly 2WW period (or so I think)

[Freds_Baby]

Good Luck on the 2WW! I'm going to try this month again now that my AF is done.
I hope this is our month. If not oh well....I just have to try again.

[Dreamia]

No news, but I am going to a different doctor on May 5th...so hopefully I will land pregnant with his guidance

[gokuangel]

hey to all! Was cruising by the board today! I havent been around for awhile things been hectic! Very glad to see a TTC board! GL to all you ladies! SSBD! As for me well some of you know i have been on MH for a VERY long time so i have thrown in the towel and called it quits after 5 yrs i cant do it no more! I'm bk in the gym and focusing on me and whats going on now! Later on if i can save $$ or DH gets a job with insurance i will try again but not till then!!
Keep trying ladies and those that got that lucky BFP Congrats!!

[soldierswifey22209]

Negative. Again. :(

I can't catch a break

my cycles are now the 1st of every other month. So I may not even be ovulating. Stephen and I are going to the doctor to see whats going on. Maybe get on some fertility pills. not sure yet. I just wish it was easier!!!!

[confused010110]

i wish it was a lot easier too! im so tired of trying and getting my hopes up and then shot down again. I didnt realize that our bodies could play tricks on us! and i dont like it one bit! especially when i have never been late in my entire life! im planning on taking a test later on this week as i still havent gotten it, but knowing my luck it wont be what i want it to be :( i have been feeling so nauseated these last 4-5 days though. i think im going crazy here! im about ready to give up :( i just dont know anymore....

[gillianl]

Hi Ladies

Haven't been on in a while as most of you know i had a laparoscopy about 3 weeks ago and it was bad news.  My left tube had adhesions but was the better of the 2, my right had adhesions, mild endometriosis, tube was twisted and had clumped skin at the ovary which had to be opened.  i've been told i have a minimal chance of conceiving on my own with a better chance through IVF but i have a 3 year wait in the UK before i will receive IVF.

I'm only 24 and never once thought i would be going through all of this, i honestly thought i would be like my mum and sister who conceived within the 1st few months.

I wish everyone lots of success and baby dust and hope to let you all know i've got a BFP in a few months rather than a few years

[SantanL]

hmm.. periods every other month?? thats helping, is it?
Have u checked with your doc yet?  if (s)he says everything looks normal, try for normal conception. I always have this bad feeling that fertility drugs may help in a way, but may have adverse effects somehow (I hope I am totally wrong).  Of course depending on your doctors+ your comfort levels :-)

on the other hand, I am bleeding/spotting every other week or so :-(

I had been doing a lot of internet research abt this.  Yesterday I found a great article/new research about it (no good news for us who are irregular)
I tried to post the link here, but am unable to.
The gist is that a lot of us, including our ObGyns do not look into the issue and right away take up birth control pill regimen (thinking it'll correct the irregularity issue).  When in fact, our body is trying to tell us something about our harmones and we just ignor it until we attempt to conceive.
that is when we/doctors attempt to dig into the problem, and sometimes it would be too late.
A lot of these cases lead to bone density loss, infertility and the like.
I am sooooo depressed reading tht article
I guess its not too late to take charge of our bodies and we demand more tests (esp FSH levels) that may serve as ticklers to our doc.s

Good Luck and update us on your Doctors visit!

[SantanL]

I guess I spoke too soon.
I am spotting :(

Hows your new month coming along?

[SantanL]

confirmations??

[SantanL]

Good luck with your trials and new Doc

Gokuangel:
Thanks for your wishes and Dust.
Good luck to you too :-)

[SantanL]

What other symptoms do you have?
Nausea - first thing for preggers.  my fingers crossed for you.
update us on your status!

[SantanL]

loads and loads of baby dust to you.
I hope you'll post your BFP news soooooooner than a year :-)

[Freds_Baby]

Well i'm only on CD 10. I should be ovulating soon I think. The only problem is I'm unable to really check my CM because my boyfriend wants to do it everyday! So I'm not sure if it is semen or CM. I don't mind doing it everday because I enjoy it but I know it reduces the sperm's strength. We will see if this is our month. Today is my birthday and I'm now 29. I hope I can conceive my first before I'm 30. We will see. I bought a thermometer to track my temps but I haven't started yet. We will see how this month turns out for us. Good Luck to you and SSBD!!

[SantanL]

Happy Birthday!

hahah, u cant distinguish between CM and semen LOL
CM should be anytime during the day and Semen should be ard there for some specific time only.. LOL

[confused010110]

yeah, i would say i have a lot of nausea lately, and it kind of lasts all day. some of the other things, i dont know if they are symptoms or not...and i hate to get real detailed so that i dont get people grossed out, but i dont know if it has to do with it or not, but like in the morning (this has only went on for maybe 2-3 days) but when i wake up and go pee, i have this weird feeling like i have to go #2 but cant go...and like usually i can go within an hour of waking up...no such luck, its more like 3-4 hours, and it is a lot darker than normal...and i just had a question for anybody incase they can answer for me, but has anyone heard of false negatives? i mean, like actually getting more than one. I know when women become pregnant that we all have different levels of the hormone to actually make a test positive. Now, is it possible to be pregnant and have multiple negative tests. I mean, I have had that feeling that my body is different since my first missed period, but i mean i could be more wishful thinking than anything, but i just have no other explanation for being late, my body has never done this before and it just odd to me and i dont know what to think, im going to call my dr on monday or maybe in 10 days when i "should" be getting it. i just dont know what to think anymore. I am a bigger girl, but i also had a couple people feel my stomach and right in the middle by my belly button it feels a little solid in there. so if anybody knows anything or has heard of this happening to anybody else please let me know! its hard to find information on the net, and i feel like im going insane! i have some more things going on with my body such as peeing more and i did have sore breasts for a while but not so much anymore, and im way emotional, i got all teary when i watched a music video i liked and was singing...now i dont know if its just cause of hormones, but i was like what the heck! lol but yeah, i guess this is enough of me complaining, but if anyone has any info please let me know! thanks :)

[soldierswifey22209]

I have to find a doctor first :( I only have a couple of months left of trying :( so I'm really hoping good news comes soon!!!!!

Who knows.

[gosia1984]

hello!!!!!!!!!!!! ttc 2nd month just got AF today    will need to buy ovulation kit which is the best? last month i used Answer the 20 day. it was ok do any of u recommend different one ?

[soldierswifey22209]

The weirdest thing is happening. When I started I had no clue which is weird because I ALWAYS cramp a few days before, my boobs will swell and be tender also.

This time I just started lasted a couple of days with no cramps at all. none.

I stopped yesterday sometime and today every now and then I get these cramps. My boobs are tender now and my stomach feels hard. And it's bigger. Like I'v gained weight. It's so strange. I have no idea whats going on. My husband and I are searching for a good doctor. Once I get put on Tricare of coarse.

I'm just freaking out. Like usual

[confused010110]

yeah i have notice that i freak out or overly think certain things too when it comes to thinking of preg. symptoms. i think sometimes we just keep thinking of the symptoms and sometimes we look more into it than we do. but its best to ask a dr about it first :) i am going to be calling my dr on monday as i counted yesterday and today i am 111 days late from my period. jan. was the last time i actually had a normal period, and i always get it every month on time and its always the same lenght and everything, feb. i had nothing, march i was like over a week over due and i got it for less than 48 hours and it wasnt light/spotting but was a light period compared to normal, april nothing, and so far in may nothing and i "should" be getting my period in 9 days. i have so many symptoms, but i am baby crazy so i think i am looking more into it than should be......i did go to the dollar store and picked up some tests because my dr said they are as good as the other ones except that it will save me more $$- i did take one tonight...and it was neg. but i am going to take another in the morning to see what that says, but either way i think calling the dr is the best thing anybody can do. good luck to you, i hope we both can get BFP soon! :)

[soldierswifey22209]

I am hoping we both get BFP's soon :)

I have heard of women that have falso pregnancies because they are baby crazy and our brain tells us that we are having these symptoms and makes us think we are pregnant.

My husband and I were joking around that we should pretend we aren't trying and maybe we will get lucky and it will happen. lol. Just like the women that aren't trying and it happens accidently. Who knows.

[confused010110]

you have a good point! lol sometimes its hard to "pretend" though :) its soo weird because my husband isnt stressed at all, he is always trying to tell me to chill out and it will happen when it does and not to worry- but im really not all that stressed , i have a lot going on so my mind is occupied with other stuff too- but yeah, today is 112 days with nothing...so i think i am going to for sure call my dr and just leave her a message whats going on, because even before, like always a week before my cycle would begin i would get some mild cramping..nothing yet....so i just hope its nothing serious! but keep me updated with you! :)

[SantanL]

Do u have regular periods? is your ovulation predictable?
I use clearblue monitor (coz my ovulation is very unpredictable)
this month I am gonna use cheap ones also (from CVS may be) to confirm that my Monitor is really not crazy.

[SantanL]

LOL
pretending is not easy.  You are pretend and trick others but not your brain LOL

however, I see your concern though, of only few months trying...

Confused011010:
Have u seen your Doc yet? any updates??

[confused010110]

well..i called my dr...and she told me that a woman can be up to 3 months late on a cycle and not worry too much, its just after 3 months is when you have to start worrying. and even though my last normal cycle was in jan. and i had a lil bit in march it still counts as a period. so i have until june of this year to start freaking out if nothing happens. she said that we can do testing and i can be put on meds to help regulate my period so its easier to get pregnant, but she wants to wait until i have insurance and stuff so im getting on it so i can figure all this out. and until then, i guess i just have to wait. just *****...cuz i would like to be before or around the age of 24 when i have my first child, i originally wanted to be 22, but things just came up and we couldnt do it, and now im already past what i wanted....just frustrating! all i can do is hope and pray :)

[SantanL]

I agree, prayers work in such cases, because nothing else is in our hands.

I had time constraints too... guess took things easily back then and am paying it off (by waiting) now.

but, oh well, at least you know going w/o period for upto 3 months is not something to freak out.

Keep us posted.

[mrs_adams2009]

I have been trying to conceive for 11 months.  I went to the doctor in February because AF completely stopped in November.  I was told that my progesterone is extremely low.  Supposed to be starting my second round of Clomid this month at 100 mg.  Good luck to everyone.  Baby dust to all!

[SantanL]

Low progesterone? then why didnt your doc give you progesterone supplements instead of Clomid?
Progesterone supplements is also given for pregnant women, it is that safe, I was told :-)

Good luck and SSBD to you :-)

[mrs_adams2009]

She said that with my progesterone being so low she has to get it up for me to ovulate and she wanted to try Clomid.  I didn't really understand it either but I have to go with what my doctor wants.

[confused010110]

so...the last 4-5 days i have had some cramping, and hoping that my cycle would start so that me and my husband could maybe try again this month, and i had a little something this morning, more like brown/pink, and not enough there to do anything about, so i dont know if this is a good sign or a bad sign - i just hope that i find out later today what is going on so that if it is coming then i can get it and be done with it, because its not like its my favorite thing to have lol- so far since jan. it seems like my cycle comes every other month now...that is if i get it this month like im hoping, but has this happened to anyone else, have a normal regular every month cycle for almost 10 years and then you start ttc and baam it starts messing with you and you get it every other month and its not even the same as you have had before, its more lighter and shorter?

[SantanL]

Hmm... I hear you.
My cycle, on the other had, had never been long, always short ... and now it is totally unpredictable.
I think its because of stress.  I figured by stressing about it, I am only causing more damage. so I better relax and let things happen. I know my biological clock is ticking (which is what making me stress) but, it is not begin helpful. so.....

I hope you get your P in a day or two.  Now that you know you have a 2-month cycle, you can plan accordingly.
Please do not stress out about things.  God has a plan for all of us :-)
Lots of baby dust

[SantanL]

any updates ladies??
Confused0110110 - Periods yet?
Solderswifey - anything??

Myself: no updates :(

[confused010110]

hey there!! yep, had my period! lol it was last week and lasted about 3 days this time, so i am counting down the days, and actually started charting, but when my "free" month is up you have to start paying money to chart on the site, and i dont have the money to do it, so we will see what happens, but i have found some websites that tell you good chances of conceiving, and both of the websites have the same days so we will see what happens :) but today is CD 9 - i dont quite understand all the vocabulary yet, but hopefully these days work out

[SantanL]

I guess in your case its good that you got your period.  Yeah, there are many sites that can tell you your most fertile days if you are strict about your charting.  No need to waste money.  It can be put to better use, may be for your baby :-)

I cried yesterday because I didnt want to start all over again..... so this is not my month either.  Hmm.... I am 10days behind you in the cycle.  

Good Luck &
Keep me posted.

[pro728]

Hey all,

I am not sure what to DO! :(

Pls help.

27, Been married for 4 yrs now. We were on precaution (condoms) for the first 2 years. And last year I had a large ovarian cyst removed. 3 months ago my USG showed that I was ovulating properly. Been trying which ever month possible since 6 months as someimes we miss my fertile dates (husband's meeting, stress etc).

Since last month my DH is on motility drugs (for 3 mnths). He is overweight but the doc doesn't ask him to lose weight?

My AF showed up today and my doctor has given me some ovu stimulating tabs and suggested another USG S for ov study. If I am ov properly then she suggested IUI. Do you think IUI is needed b4 my DH completes his course? Should I go for a second opinion? We haven't even tried for one complete year. I am confused.

Frustrated!

[tsie]

ladies,reading your experiences is rilly eye opening.For those still i the 1st year of ttc pliz don't stress so much,i know of pple who have got pregnant in the latter months.it will happen.jus kip the faith all of you.
i'm in 2nd month trying,ovulating soon so i hope it happens this tym otherwise i'll start getting a bit worried but not stressed.but i think letting things do naturally is the best way,ie if you don't have any medical fertility issues.
anyway,praying for u all who r ttc and those with bfp's congrats!

[tacey286]

TTC for 5 months this month, god its depressin when it just dosn't happen! You go through school everyone telling you about trying to prevent pregnancy but damn, its not that easy either!

Have irregular Periods after coming off nuva ring, but i think this is my month... had a few weird symptoms... Headaches, tiredness blood noses, abdominal cramps... i donno, could all be in my brain! But i also feel relaxed, not that depreate worry about TTC... haha fingers are crossed anyway! :-)

SSBD to everyone else Trying too!! :-D

[tacey286]

Hang on- is a nose bleed anythin to do with pregnancy...? probably not.. haha so hope its my month!!

[Deila23]

We have been TTC for about 3-4 months now and I get my AF on July 6-8 but I'm hoping I don't baby dust to all of us :)

[SantanL]

Good Luck, Good Luck!!

[Danielle713]

Hi everyone. My husband and I have been ttc for going on 6 months now. I was on BC for 10 years and went off of it at the end of Dec 09'. I wasn't prepared for what an emotional mess this process was going to be. All myblife I was told how easy it is to get pregnant and now I see how hard it really is. I'm 26 and my husband is 27. I at this point have decided to assume I'm not pregnant until I am proven otherwise. I am on cd15 and usually ovulate on day 19 or 20. Fingers crossed but not getting the hopes up. Good luck to you all. I read once that your odds go up if people you don't know prey for you. So you will all be in my prayers and I hope I will make it into yours. Baby dust to you all!!

[wannabeamommy0124]

hello ladies...
We are on our 10th month trying... i have had 2 false positives and im sooo frustrated... this month af was supposed to come on the 17th and is still nonexistent, hubby came back a month ago from a deployment in haiti and we started trying again after 3 months of him being gone... we really havent been stressing it lately just kinda letting it happen since i have had 2 let downs already.... dont wanna go through a 3rd one... i took a hpt last week and it was positive.. im going to the doc on tuesday to get a blood test done... but i do have a question and i hope i dont gross anyone out.... Yesterday after intercourse when i wiped i had blood mixed with semen... which was realy weird.. i thought it was af since it was kind of enough to think so... but then woke up this morning and nothing!!! absolutely no more blood showed up... not when i wipe not on the pad... just no blood at all... before last night the last time we had intercourse was sometime last week.... could that have been implantation bleeding?? or what else can explain it?? im very frustrated and like most of u just see ppl convieving all over... i just wish this is our month...

Baby dust to all!!

[pro728]

I agree. It is so difficult to conceive when you wnat it.

[tsie]

going into the 2ww.lets see wat happens this time

[oliviathorne]

Hey Ladies!

Went off BC in March, trying to concieve (conceive) since then. It feels like forever! I know it hasn't been that long. Started having regular periods right after going off pill, using OPK and seem to ovulate at the same time every month. Been BDing as much as possible around that time, but sometimes its so hard with husband working and being tired. I'm on day CD 13, no positive OPK yet! Baby Dust to all!

[SantanL]

I hope that was implantation bleeding.
Have u checked with your doc yet?
What did (s)he say????

Baby Dust!

[SantanL]

You all are in my prayers!
Hopefully, it works out for each and every one of us.
I know GOD will not disappoint us :-)

baby dust baby dust all over!!!!

[misszinke]

Hello Ladies!

I've never posted on a forum about my infertility and TTC.  I thought I would join in and see how it feels/helps my spirits.  I am now 32 and my husband is 29.

Hubby and I have been trying to conceive for 2.5 years. :|  We started to try in January of 2008. After 1 year of TTC, we took matters into our own hands.  It's too heart wrenching to just "keep trying" and wonder why it's not working. I have long cycles, anywhere from 30-38 days.  Usually it's about 32. But it's never clockwork.  I tend to ovulate around day 20-23 of my cycle. (I am NOT a 14-28er, that's for sure!)

February of 2009 we started testing:

Jan: semen analysis (Two of them, not superior results, but not destitute either)
February: I have a 42 day cycle, have a period, and then within two weeks, I had another period, even though it was lighter.  That had never happened and I still don't know what that was all about.
March: 10 treatsments of Accupuncture and Chinese herbs.
April: tube dye test (Open tubes, few!)
May: HSG tests (They notice a fibroid in my uterus)
July: Failed IUI :(
August-December: we take it easy and stop testing and spending $.

February 2010:
Myomectoy on February 2nd (Fibroid removal).  During the surgery, the doctor said that he had NEVER seen an endometrial lining that was so THICK in someone who didn't have endometrial cancer.  Now they believed me when I said I had VERY painful, Heavy, Long periods.
March 14th: Period.
April 15th: Period.
May 20th: I have a period.
June 23rd: I put a tampon in, to "catch my period" (day 35 of my cycle.) Take it out later that day, and it only has a small amount of brown discharge.  Hum, interesting. Ok.
June 24th. Same as June 23rd.
June 25th: Negative pregnancy test. :( No bleeding or nothing for the next few days.)
June 28th: it's now day 40 of my cycle.  My hopes are UP!  I rarely take pregnancy tests because the period always came, but for the second time in my life, I made it to day 40.  I took a Digital HPT Clear Blue Easy that morning and it said: PREGNANT. I about passed out. I couldn't believe it, and in fact, I didn't believe something like this would happen to me. We've never been pregnant.
June 29th: I am at a store, and I feel "wet" down town.  I rush to the bathroom, and there is the brownish blood and pinkish red blood, on my underoos. :(  I panic. I worry. It can't be!  I go home and clean up and put a tampon in.  That night I pull it out and it wasn't totally covered in blood.  It was like that dark blood, and slightly brown, like the start of my periods. Not "gushing" yet.
June 30th: Feeling great, no blood, no brownish stuff, nothing! Feeling positive again.
July 1st: Afternoon, I go to wipe and it's brown/pinkish, sort of light red.  I get crampy that night.  I feel bloated. I have loose stools, all things that happen when I am on my period.  However, the flow isn't GUSHING yet, like it usually is withing 24 hours of "starting my period."  It's more that 10-12 days passed "implantation bleeding" by now, right?

Today: July 2nd.  I wake up and pull the tampon out and it's about 75% covered, but not in heavy dark blood.  Cramps are still present but not too bad.  I took another pregnancy test (First Response) this morning around 5 am and the second (pregnancy line) was VERY FAINT, but it was there. They say if you can see ANY kind of line, then it's positive. Hum? :\

Can anyone relate to this?  DO I take ANOTHER pregnancy test in a few days? Maybe a digital one?  I am bleeding, but not heavily like I usually do. I feel mild cramping. It feels like I am on a period, but I don't have heavy bleeding and I still am showing a positive pregnancy test.  I don't want to get my hopes up, if this isn't what the pregnancy tests are telling me.

Thank you for taking the time to read my story.  It ***** suffering in silence!

XOXO

V

[keykey91]

Iam ttc this is my first time tryin and aNd iam 12 days late and iam sore.           Aand my back hurt and I was sick and tthrowing up and fill sick and white discharge like milk but thick and iam.    Sore

[Minigingerbread]

Hi misszinke
I experienced a m/c a few months ago (without realising I was pregnant). I have irregular long cycles like you. During my unusually painful bleeding, I instinctively reached out for the HPT and it showed positive. At that time it was already a confirmed m/c. What I want to point out is that your HCG will not immediately drop to zero upon a m/c. For me, it took a week for it to return to zero after my D&C, so do not take a positive HPT as an assurance of the pregnancy still being viable (total about a month after the first onset of bleeding in my case). Please go for a scan at your gynae. It is the only way to confirm if the little bean is still there.
Sorry if I sounded a bit too negative. Do not despair as there are mothers who bleed during early pregnancies who went on to have healthy babies, though I was not one of them :(

[amy_1985]

Hi ladies,

I was actually going to start a post on this until i looked furthur back.

Ok so me and my partner have been together 5years. I got pregnant 4months after being together in jan 05 only to have a miscarriage at 7weeks, so i didnt get preg again until oct 2006 but i didnt know i was actually preg i was admitted to a&e with serious cramps and a lump in my stomach only to find id had a ectopic preg that had bust so unfortunatly i had to have my right tube removed,
so i got preg again nov 2008 only to have another 'suspected' ectopic my hcg was rising but only slowly nothing was confirmed on scan so they gave me methotrexate so that if it was it wouldnt rupture again in my good tube,
so due to all my previous we was reffered to ivf i was suppost to be starting my first round oct18th 2010(my birthday)we were awaiting MP and told to take a routine preg test to my utter shock bfp, unfortunatly i started bleeding at 5w6d a sack was seen on scan but the day later my bloods had halfed so was told to expect to miscarry this seems to have been dragged out soo bloody much i went for my last hcg test 17dec and it had only gone down to 67 im actually due to go back weds 5th jan i bled for 5weeks its been a real pain but !

I feel totally obsessed with the fact of being pregnant i cant get it out of my head since this last miscarriage now im not sure if its my hormones that are up the wall but this seems so unfair!
I thought it was only me feeling like this,i feel like its taking over my life im only 25 and people will say youve got years yet but i honestly dont see it like that every year i dont sucessfully carry a pregnancy im a year older! arggghhhhhh!

[astra99]

this is our 8th month ttc but the last two have proved fairly hard as he is away on work in england while i'm here in ireland very frustratin for us both as we really want a baby but i guess its hard right now.. Hope is really being lost and i wish it wasn't oh well our time will come xx xx

[mrsbernie88]

hello everyone,
I am new to the forum's but I saw how supportive everyone is and thought I would post on here. My husband and I are trying for baby #1! I am super excited and nervous. We have been ttc for almost three months. I am hoping this is the month! I am feeling pretty nauseous this morning which could be in my head or it could be a good thing! Wish me luck!

[mouser14]

DH and i have been trying for a year and a half. period is 4 days late. havent tested yet(dont want to waste more money on neg results). where do i begin lol my bbs are bigger(hubby even noticed). they are heavier and my bras feel weird. i'm eating 3 times my usual amount but feeling sick a little after. i had stringy stretchy discharge the day after my expected period. it stretched almost 3 inches. now its just really watery. i'm 4 days late as of today and am wondering if this could be our month. any advice is very welcome. my bbs are also tender and running is not an option!! hurts so bad. nipples are not sensitive though but the tips are red. im just so confused because i notice every detail. something i have found really weird is i get wore out really fast. just thinking about walking somewhere with a little distance tires me out. and my heart rate goes up when i move a certain amount or after i eat. i dont think i'm urinating more but idk for sure...also i'm constipated which is super rare for me! tmi i know but whats not tmi about this site lol. i had light cramps off and on. i would feel a few cramps then it would stop for several hours and do it again and then stop for the rest of the day. hasnt happened but maybe 4 times.

[mouser14]

also i was working with my hubby today and about cried because i got mad at him because nothing he did was right and i had to stop myself from breaking down right there...horrible. and i almost cried over a commercial for a type of yard care mower thing because of the growing family on it.... XD

[nikkimoo]

I have been trying to conceive going on 2 years. And boy is it frustrating!! I break down everytime AF comes. It's really hard not to. Just found out my brother's wife is pregnant with her 5th child, my brother's 4th. Lol I'm like, everyone except me huh? I didn't even tell her congrats yet because I just can't deal with that right now. It sounds selfish, but being around pregnant women is hard emotionally. I am 27 and waiting for child number one after trying for like 24 months straight. AF came today so I'm faced with a big fat NO at the beginning of 2013. ***** to pieces.