Thanksgiving vent!

[ammanda]

can I just say, how depressing Thanksgiving is now days!!!! My grandma used to cook the biggest yummiest dinner every!! i loved my grandmas cooking. Now my grandma is in a wheel chair and cant move around much, she is about 86 years old :(  so now my aunt cooks, her daughter.  and omg she can not cook!!!!!!!!! Its horrible. actually last thnaksgiving I was about 4 months pregnant and me and DB actually got food poisoning!!!  needless to say we didnt eat Christmas dinner..  Im just soo depressed, cause Thanksgiving dinner used to be ,my favorite, now I dont get to eat :(.  dont get me wrong i am still looking forward to going over there, to see my grandma and to show off my son!!! cause lets just face it, I have the cutest baby ever.. hahah lol  But no really you should see the kids in my family.. lol..  God im so mean. but im not really familyorientated, if you knew my family you would know why.. lets just say every get to gether turns into a huge fight between the whole dang family, then everyone normally eats in silence.. ugh.. too bad a good meal dont make up for that anymore..

[penswriter]

On thanksgiving we do a lot of visiting. Everyone's food is always good though BUT dh and I never get to spend time together...what do we do? What the other ladies said, the following day we do our own thanksgiving. Me, dh and the boys. Dh and I cook together (I do turkey, potatoes and green bean casserole, he does the other sides) then we all sit down together and eat. Last year we had his parents and mine over. It was so nice.

[amandamae1126]

I was born on Thanksgiving, so the holiday isn't all that bad...well, maybe that's because everyone has to be nice to me! And hey, it could be worse. The first year we did Thanksgiving with dh family it was terrible. They made white rice and poured a can of mushrooms over it. I brought a pumpkin pie and it was never served. We all went and ate fast food afterwards! After that I learned to plan ahead. Ask if you can bring a dish or two and then you know that you at least have a few items to eat while you are there. If you make it more of a potluck event, you might have other yummy and trusty sources to eat from! And your aunt might appreciate not having to do ALL the cooking by herself.

As the other ladies suggested, having your own dinner is not a bad idea. And eating over a db family's place could work...and I'm sure she would appreciate your help cleaning too! LOL!

[ammanda]

See and thats what *****, dbs mom is an excellent cook! but her house is so dirty i dont dare to eat there!  maybe i can ask her if she wants me to come cook with her and ill secretly clean up a bit :) lol.. then ill go to mt grandmas to show off my son and see my loving grandma :)

thanks ladies!!! your always so helpful :)

[vacuumprincess]

I used to not be too fond of thanksgiving with my own family.  it was just so weird.  Not to sound uppity....  I am grateful, but I exactly how you feel.  you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.

I LOVE having dinners at my husbands family!  His mom is an excellent cook, everyone is normal & there are no "guilt trips" from anyone.  I NEVER get the "hairy eyeball" look from anyone judging me.  I hate that

create you own normal thanksgiving.  

[angela418]

I agree.  Make your own Thanksgiving food.  And if you are worried about cooking an entire turkey, etc. just for the few people in your household, you can do what I did last year when it was just me and DH.  I was 8 1/2 months pregnant and we weren't about to travel to see family!  LOL  We bought turkey breasts, a box of stuffing, and some other ingredients, put it all in a crock pot and cooked it for several hours and made some easy side dishes...green bean casserole, etc and it was sooo good!  I don't even recall us having that many leftovers and it was just the 2 of us!  If you want me to look up the crock pot recipe, it's in my saved emails somewhere.  But, it was delicious and easy to make for just a few people.  Then after you enjoy your delicious meal, go visit w/ family for dessert, like vacuumprincess said.  :-)  

[Ashelen]

no you don't sound horrible hon I was just saying that you can always just put in a token appearance...then go home and have your own thanksgiving...you don't have to suffer :)

[vacuumprincess]

I agree.  have your own thanksgiving.  You don't need to cook a big meal if you don't want to.  you could even go out to eat.  Just enjoy your time with the family that YOU made.

If you feel obligated to go the the relatives, maybe you could just make a desert appearance.

[ammanda]

I am grateful for her dont get me wrong, but like I said, we got food poisoning last year, and cant imagine ever feeling like that again.  and its not just my aunt that cooks, theres always like 5 people in the kitchen and i dont trust anyone in my family, to wash there hands or whatever else would be sanatary.  god I sound like a horrible person.  but the only way you could understand is if you were in my family.  

[Ashelen]

make it yourself, girl! If you don't like what other people are cooking, go to Thanksgiving dinner and say that Cole is going to be difficult to manage while eating so you had to eat earlier and won't eat a whole lot....it IS hard to juggle a baby during dinner, lol..so there's some truth to that.

Then go home and make a real thanksgiving dinner the next day (or the day before) for you and DB..I think it's a free meal and even if she isn't good at cooking it, you have to realize that she's making a huge effort and try try try to be grateful...and then make your own that you can enjoy, LOL.