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Ultimate Betrayal
Idk if you guys remember but I posted awhile back that my boyfriend had walked out on me . Well , he came back && not even 2 weeks of him being back , he put his hands on me . I was sitting next to him && he was texting but acting really sneaky about him so I looked over && someone he works with said "did you straighten your girl out ?" && I asked him what that was about && he was saying its about how we've been fighting && that's not the truth . . We haven't fought since the day he walked out 2 weeks ago . I scrolled further through the messages && his coworker told him if I don't start acting right he should go && get laid by a stripper . Of course this upset me && my boyfriends excuse was "hes just making a point that I should go && do what normal people my age do if you aren't going to act right ." First off , idk how I'm not acting right ? Yeah I get hormonal but overall , I thought we had a good relationship . Second , its NORMAL for people his age to go && CHEAT on their PREGNANT girlfriends ? My bad , I never got that memo . I didn't know it was normal to cheat if your SO isn't "acting right" well , We got into an argument && he hit me in my stomach , ripped my necklace off my neck && the clasp cut me , he threw my mattress off my bed , && wrecked my room . All because I confronted him ? I know he's hiding something , whether its something he said to the guy or worse . . The ultimate betrayal . He's moving his stuff out now && I told him he can forget about being a father since he wants to put his hands on his pregnant girlfriend && he said "I deserve it" . that's fine maybe I did but my baby didn't . Any advice ladies ? I could use some words of wisdom && encouragement .
This made me so upset to read. Im sorry you had to go though that. The best thing I believe for you to do is get rid of him never let him around you and that baby again. So many bad things could've happened to you or that baby. I know a lady who got pregnant young and her boyfriend hit her and made her lose the baby and the dr told her from the damage that she would never have kids again. You do not in any circumstances deserve to be treated like that. You deserve so much more. I'll be praying for you and that baby. All I hope is that you please wont let that guy around to ever do that again to you.
Thank you ladies for all your support && advice . I appreciate each && every one of you .
I'm sorry your going through this he sounds like a control freak and doesn't have any respect for woman.for him to react that way when he was the one in the wrong it shows he feels he can do as he wants but expect you to accept his sh*t.its time for you to time take charge of your life. Although It will be hard some children are better off without a parent if they act that way.for him to punch your stomach was the lowest it's one thing to try hurt you but why on earth would you try hurt a innocent baby. I hope you have support from someone else because he sounds like a waste of a man. I was In a abusive relationship and no matter how much they apologies it ALWAYS happens again you deserve sooo much more no one deserve to b treated like that especially the mother of your child he doesn't deserve you and If he's talking about getting laid you health and the baby's could be at be risk.its going to be HARD especially if he starts pretending like he will change but u can do it and dont take him back.its either now or when the child Is older and the damage is done better to do it now.
I'm sorry you went through such an ugly experience. No woman should ever be hit by a so called man, no matter what she has done. As the mother of his baby you deserve respect and he should be loyal to you. He had no right to tell his Co worker what was going on in your relationship. I wouldn't ever take him back and would've called the cops and put his *** in jail. He deserves that much. I would've mostly done it incase he wants to decide to be a "father" and take you to court. I would use that report against him to show he is an unfit father who beats on pregnant women. I happy your one of the very few women that will put up with a low life like that, keep your head up and do you and what's best for your baby. I wish you the best of luck and stay strong.
thats certainly not someone you should consider having a future with . someone who helps you take care of your child the right way , loves them as much as you do . someone who supports and motivates you in everything you do . who helps you around the house , who catches you before you are even down , who loves you more and more every day . thats the type of man you can and will have . alot of women think those type if men are impossible to find , or all men are the same . no , all boys are the same , men are very different in wonderful ways . " a real man never hurts a women . be careful when you make a woman cry because god counts her tears . the woman came out of a man rib , not from his feet to be walked on , not from hus head to be superior , but from his side to be equal. under the arm to be protected and next to the heart to be loved " never settle for less , and never lose focus of god because without him you will never be truly happy .
I've missed so many opportunities in my life because of him . I've been with him since I was 15 && I never got to go to homecomings or proms . No senior week . I wasn't allowed to go to the college I wanted because it was too far for his comfort . I've missed out on job opportunities because he didn't want me working with certain people or at certain times . Now I work alone , in home care for an elderly lady . I have no friends . I stay home day in && day out doing his laundry && cooking his food . I'm not 15 weeks pregnant with our first child && I give up so much for him but he thinks its okay to sit at work && talk about fu.cking strippers ?
your very welcome hunny , and I will keep you in my prayers . I hate that you have to go throu that .
let me correct myself , that ain't a man . thats a little boy , throwing tantrums, hitting , throwing things around . your child does NOT need to be influenced by that at all , if you're having a daughter , she needs a man in her life to show her how a man is supposed to treat her when she gets older , hitting is not ok . if you're having a son he needs to know it is NOT ok to put his hands on a woman in an abusive way . unless Your bd gets some help I wouldn't even consider on letting him in the childs life . its gone take a lot of prayer to help him .
Definitely get a restraining order and charge him no man should ever put his hands on a woman no matter what the situation may be he was wrong and needs consequences for his actions don't take him back anymore its good he's leaving you don't need that around you or your child
Thanks ladies . @promisx thank you , that made me cry . Idk who's waiting for me but I wish they'd hurry up cause I've wasted 4 years of my life with this guy .
no women deserves to have hands put on them by a man . he hit you in yoyr stomach too ? shows how much he actually cares . let him leave girl , god has someone waiting for you . I hope you and the baby are ok ♥♡
Get out. That escalated very quickly it's only going to get worse from there. Also file a police report you don't want this man having any alone time with your child good luck momma!
Get his butt arrested and show him he's a loser that doesn't deserve you and you can do better.
No woman ever deserves to be hit so get that out ofyour head. Hes the one thats "not acting right" I grew up in an abusive home and its not something you want for your kids. They will hate you for it. If hes willing to put his hands on you when your pregnant then this man has no limits. Stay strong for that wee one and I promise it will be worth it.
First thing that pops into my mind, restraining order. Nd I agree^, charged assault. He came back pretty much to straighten u out, which I think he needs to be straightened out. Dont take him back, cuz if he'll put his hands on u, dont think he won't do it to a child. Be strong, goodluck.
You did the right thing by kicking him out but I think you should be calling cops now. If a man is willing to hit you pregnant what do you think he will do to the baby? He doesn't deserve to be a father!!
Dont take him back hes put his hands on you once he will do it again... You and your baby deserve better... You could also get him charged with assault
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