What did you do and were you glad you did?

[rachie204]

We miscarried this summer at 11 weeks and had already told everone we were pregnant...including friends and church members...when we miscarried it wasn't like we sent out a memo so it was quite uncomfortable when people were bringing me maternity clothes they had perviously told me they would pass down and when they would make comments about the pregnancy and I had to tell them we were no longer expecting. We are currently TTC and are hopefully pregnant now....here is my question has anyone else had a miscariage and then a pregnancy after....did you decide to wait until later in the 2nd pregnancy to tell or did you tell when you found out...and were you happy with the decision you made?

[krissyy]

this is my very first pregnancy...my husband and i decided only to tell the people that we would end up telling if we miscarried anyway.  we told them to keep it top secret until we reached 12 or 13 weeks.  we told parents, siblings, my grandfather, my best friend, and his best friend.  that is all.  oh, and i also told my boss because i had to for work.  and we didn't tell those people till after our first doctor appt at 6 wks when we saw the heartbeat.  i am in my 10th week and getting antsy...so ready for it to be public!!!!  good luck to you rachie :-)

[beautifullychaotic]

OH gosh! I cant wait till you find out!!!!  

[LosingMyMindInGA]

After both my miscarraiges I waited until I simply felt comfortable.  And that meant telling different people at different times.  Of course close family members found out first, but I waited on telling my kids and babysitter until a little later and then I started telling everyone else after my 11 wk u/s by then I had seen and heard the heartbeat several times.

[Violetasmom]

With my first child I waited til I was 8 weeks to tell my mom and dad only because it was Mother's day and I wanted to surprise them..well, we lost our little one on the plan pflying over to tell them so instead of telling them good news i had to tell them I lost our child.It was the hardest thing I ever did...my dad got shingles shortly afterwards and i know it was because of my news...when we got pregnant again in Nov I called them right afte the doctor called confirming the blood test..they were ecstattic and I was happy to share the news..unfortunately I miscarried a week later and again was distraught but they took the  news much better this time and my mother tahnked me for letting then share the joy as well as the pain...again thsi time we told them but at about 6 weeks...I haven't told them we have had any complications and I pray we don't because it does get hard but close friend will know if and when you miscarry and I want them toknwo my Joy too..but that is just me...and yes, after 2 in a row and now pregnnat again I soemtimes feel silly but we are trying with Hope and every single second is life...just wanted to share my experiences...but I do think you shoudl tell someone...it makes it real! Good luck! and Congratulations!

[babbles123]

My sister told immediate family right away then after 12 weeks she told everyone.  Then a few days later she found out she was having a miscarriage!  =(  With her second, she didn't tell everyone until 4 months.

[sadiesmommy]

I too felt akward telling people we were no longer expecting but I looked at it this way (considering the chances we are pregnant again) I was glad those who knew about the pregnancy so early because they really helped us cope. Granted I may not tell EVERY single person we told last time but would definitely tell immediate family members and maybe wait until 12 weeks to tell friends ect..,

[rachie204]

well I am 9dpo right now...10dpo in the morning.  AF is due on Sunday the 10th and FF says I should test on the 14th.  :)  I ordered some test from www.earlypregnancytest.com which should be here in 2-5 days.  

[beautifullychaotic]

Rachie....when are you supposed to test?

[rachie204]

Thanks Girls...I would really like to wait the full 12 weeks to tell but I don't think I could make it...I am thinking about telling my husband and then after the 1st us if we were to see a heartbeat telling our parents and grandparents and then after the 12 week mark telling everyone.  I guess i'll figure it out once I get a BFP :)

[wannabamommy]

I am currently 7 or 8wks ( I find out wed) and we just told my MIL this past week and my parents, siblings and grandparents yesterday. We are going to tell my FIL and my DH's grandparents and siblings this week. We waited till we had our first U/S at 6wks to make sure things were on the right course and see the heartbeat. We are only going to tell immediate family and then tell everyone else once we hit 12wks. I just couldn't bear telling all those people if something happened. It would be so hard so that is why we are keeping to immediate family only. But the decision is ultimately up to you. A good way to look at it would be who would you tell if you had a miscarriage...those should be the only people  you tell right away about the good news.

[Linzola1]

I did not wait and I am happy I didnt tell extended family until I was 13 weeks but I told imediate family as soon as I found out because I was in Shock.  But I am very happy that I did!!! Hope That Helps!

[sfritz]

Before I got preggo again after my m/c I said I was not going to tell anyone until after 13 weeks. Then it happened and I couldn't keep the news to myself. I know the trouble your having though.  I am currently 19w 3d and have no regrets. Good luck to you!!

[Sweet_Pea1975]

I miscarried in February at 8 weeks, at the time we had told everyone that we were expecting and emotionally I think it made it harder to deal with.  This time around I did not tell anyone until after my 12 month ultrasound, I am glad I did so, and if I were to ever get pregnant again I will wait the 3 months as well