So what does your Partner think of all this "pregnancy stuff"? Does he know you use MedHelp? Is he just as excited as you in the 2WW and depressed by a BFN, or not at all? Is he happy with testing for Ovulation? Does he believe everything you tell him about how standing on your head and timing it for a boy or a girl, or does he think you are nuts? What about those of you who are pregnant and doing the right thing about not eating a whole row of things, does he think you are being over cautious, or under cautious?
Mine for one does not know that I am on MedHelp, and thinks I am crazy in every aspect, but is doing his best not to let it show, because he loves me and knows that I don't want to know that he thinks I am crazy, just like I know that he doesn't want to know that I spend an hour on MedHelp each day "making my self more crazy"
I am in my 2WW at the moment, and I just wish he would be a little bit excited with me - but he is not. Oh Well...
well my boyfriend knows i come here im on here all the time ... he supports me.. he dont really show much emotion about ttc because i do know he does want us to have a baby together i think he just dont like the disappointment each month.
My fiance teases me about going on MedHelp, but he has seen how it has helped since my miscarriage and that it is a place for me to ask questions that he may not want to hear, or no how to answer. I had a "surprise" pregnancy and we haven't tried (although we haven't done anything to prevent it LoL) yet. He is very excited at the thought of me getting pregnant again, and I believe he will be sad at a BFN or period. He would get sad when I got my period before we were trying. (We have always wanted kids young we were just putting it off due to schooling) As I said he is already excited about me being pregnant and I haven't even had a period since my D&C!
He is a nursing student and when I was pregnant he was a bigger freak then me about what I could and could not do (I should have just put myself in a bubble LoL)
Yeah. That is pretty much it. Angus is as keen as it gets to have a baby, but doesn't like to get worked up about it. He is very supportive of medhelp though. It means that I get the support I need from other people. He opens it up for me in the morning and ushers me to the computer... It means I get most of the fretting and questions out of my system for the day!
My fiance knows I come on here, and he doesn't think anything of it.
He really doesn't think much of me being 4 months pregnant today either.
They say men don't REALLY start kicking into "daddy mode" until they're able to see an actual baby on the ultrasound, and they can put their hand on your tummy and actually feel the baby move.
Hopefully he'll atleast start caring a lil bit more when I get my first fetal ultrasound in a couple weeks.
Last time I had one was at 9 weeks.
And I'm 16 weeks exactly today.
He said it himself when we had our first ultrasound, he said that it wasn't gunna be that interesting to him till it actually looks like a baby.
I didn't take offense to it because MOST men are the same way.
my husband is hilarious about it all! here i am nervous, anxiety levels huge and so excited but worrying about everything and how its gonna be and when i ask him if he's nervous or anything he says without hesitation "nope! - bring it on!" lol.... he cant wait to change nappys and stuff hehe he reckons. i was on medhelp fertility forum for about 18mths while ttc and he was very supportive about it even answering a few questions if men ever posted but now im pregnant (finally!!) he does wonder why I still check on the fertility forum aswell now im preggo. ive explained now that positive stories help other ladies still ttc and he does get it now but he still makes me laugh :-)
my dh has been super excited since we fell preg but has been more verbal about it since our last few ultrasounds. when we found out we were having a boy he was like (lol) "see, i told ya..." hehe. he even went to the baby shop and came home with this ride on singing soft dog toy/ pushbike thing (so cute) but im like "babe, he'l be like nearly 2 before he can ride it!"... his response yeah but i liked it and i can push him in it plus it will match the nursery. men = funny...
when we were ttc he would announce mid sex that my cervix was high or low etc and it must/mustnt be near time for ovulation etc etc... or he would say you better order some more of that preseed ovulationy squirty stuff (like i said - hilarious!). he'd also ask if ive taken my prenatal vitamin lol... he was more on the ball than me sometimes. checking to see if ive taken my temp etc etc...
even now he reads the baby books and mags and if i have a winge about something occasionally he'l pipe up that this is normal for this time in pregnancy etc... he kisses my tummy and listens with his head on my tum etc...
so sweet! i suppose cause we took so long to get preg he ha plenty of time to build his excitement
I think most men though no matter how mushy they are/arent will get the love bug and get a bit gooey when they see the ultrasound where babies moving or when they can feel baby etc... even if they dont say it outloud try and catch a glimpse of there facial expressions when they least expect u 2 and thatl tell ya everything ya need to know!
all the best xx
my hubby knows i come to medhelp for advice and to give advice. he's very supportive. the other day when we thought that we were pregnant and then the results came back that i was not, he was just as disappointed, if not more so, then I was. He's very anxious to have a little one. He says Brianna (his daughter from a previous relationship) needs someone to grow up with.
LOL, as far as ovulation goes, he doesn't have a clue! I actually had to explain to him what happens during ovulation and all that good stuff. It was funny to me b/c he is 9 years older than me and already has a child but knows nothing about how egg and sperm work!
my husband has been fantastic! this was a suprise pregnency so we didnt have any of that waiting for a BFP. but when we found out i was so shocked that i started crying because i didnt know how we would affored it. i'm 21 and his 22 and we are paying off a house so i freeked. he was the one running around the bedroom screeming " i'm going to be a daddy! i'm going to be a daddy! this is fantastic" lol.
Even now my husband just had to open a box of nappies we brought, put one on a teddy bear and carry it around the house in the baby carrier! lol
My hubby is an old pro at this. With this being pregnancy # 7 we've been thru all kinds of stuff. I told discuss the "particulars" of things like CM and what not. But everything else he atleast listens even if he doesn't understand. He knows about a "pregnancy forum" but I think he could care less about me coming on here...atleast this way I have someone to talk to about stuff he knows nothing about LOL. This pregnancy was a surprise but he's still excited...talks to my belly and stuff...even has a silly song that he sings...he's sang it to all our babies in utero. He pretty much leaves all the "preperations" to me tho. When it comes down to the wire and it's close to my due date and he kicks into watchful mode and is always like "do we need to go NOW?" lol During labor he's awesome...he's not much with words for encouragement but he's right by my side doing whatever I need.
My DH was all for ttc!!! After that though, he doesn't really talk about it other than to comment on how big my belly's getting. He came to the ultrasound with me, not really a big reaction from that! I have had him put his hand on my belly now to feel the baby kick, but he thinks it is creepy! We have had sex 2 times in 8 months, well I think it is because he's kinda scared to!! But this is our 3rd child, and I know that during labor he cries along with me, holds my hand, and is a completely doting father once they come out!!!
My husband and I decided to TTC beginning in August 2007. I didn't discover this website until after my miscarriage in December. It has really helped me, though I still think about the miscarriage daily (I just can't grasp the fact that I was acutally pregnant :) but then lost it :( ) I recently talked to my husband about this website and how I go on it daily, but that I have learned a lot from everyone here. He doesn't really talk much about the miscarriage but hopes I get pregnant soon. Ever since knowing I was pregnant makes us both want to have a baby even more. He doesn't understand how I feel about the miscarriage or getting BFN's or my period. I don't expect him to, but I tell him how I feel and he comforts me. I just know I will be extatic (sp?) whenever I go get pregnant and so will he. Thank you everyone for your input on everything!
My husband luvs that I am pregnant, he told me he wanted another child. :) He also thinks that it is great that I use MedHelp, I don't know that many pregnant women, so he knows it's nice for me to have "people" to talk to.
i thought my partner was as excited as i was about our second pregnancy, as she was planned. But when we went shopping to buy our pram he did mention that he wasnt as excited like i was, but he would be when we have her, im tipping that it may just be a bit of a man thing. He does take some intrest though, like going to scans and he likes to lay his head on my trummy and feel her kick his head (i feel like doing that sometimes lol...).
Me and my husband are 32w3d pregnant. My husband is VERY aware I come on here. I share with him almost daily what I discuss with other ladies on the forum. He thinks it's cool that I have somewhere to turn. I get so paranoid sometimes and the ladies here set me at ease. It has really helped to keep my stress level down and he's all about that. He is so excited about this babies arrival. I didn't realize how much so until we went to the store the other day and the lady working there told me how proud he was and that he talks about the baby everytime he is in there.......I have a good hubby.
I am in the same boat as you my DH does not know i get on medhelp and yep he thinks i have totally gone bonkers lol!! He's supportive and loves me but i know he tries not to get worked up i guess he thinks he has to be the strong one for us since he knows i cant get preggers or at least i have not taken B/C for the last 5 yrs!! He's excited about the TTC part but more or less the BD part and not all the oh i got take my fertility vitamins and oh i need to get me some of that pre-seed stuff i heard about. He was totally cool bout it when i went home w/my fertility vitamins his mom had just bought me but he did his usual i need a smoke now thing lol!! I know what you mean i dont tell him im here cus i dont want him to know im driving myself more crazy either but lately i been feeling alot better.
Its difficult to gage i think with boys. Girls wear everything in the open. My breasts felt different in my first months and he had to put up with me carrying on about "how my cancer could affect a baby" and it was nothing ofcoarse. Or when i was terrified before my first doctors visit that the doctor would laugh at me in a what a silly naive girl kinda way and say "your not pregnant". I am not hugely nuerotic but i have been ever since i got pregnant.
I think simon would prefer me letting out all my nuerocies online rather than asking himn because despite his appearnace i think he gets scared to so now I'M he calm, easy going ëverything will be fine, it happened on med help"girl.
Also i know what you mean by the poor show of excitement, i sulked after my 19week u/s because he was "not excited enough".
I need verbal confirmation of every feeling he has because i am a talker and i find it harder to deciphal feelings shown in other mediums. He is a really physical love-er(not lover) so he shows his excitement by feeling my belly all night just incase baby might kick. Or speaking and singing to the baby while i read or watch tv. I need to appreciate his own form of affection...took me a while to figure it out though.
Well Sven is getting more tolerant every day... I guess he just has to get used to this new thing that I have that he doesn't understand. It took a number of years to fully accept that me being home sick is NOT me being crazy and temperamental and whinny, but, that even though he has never experienced it, and can not fathom it, it might just be something REAL that I suffer. So now when I am home sick, he comforts me where before he would distance himself from me. And last night when I was all like "this stomach ache COULD be because I'm pregnant, DON'T YOU THINK" he just smiled at me dotingly and stroked my head.... yay.... I'm In love again (not that I didn't love him before, but you know when you have those moments when you fall in love all over again?)
I don't think my husband knows that I come on here, I'm ttc more than he is. He doesn't want to try to get pregnant he just wants to have sex without thinking that the goal is to get pregnant, which is understandable. but he does want me to get pregnant by "chance' this year so I just tell him that it'll increase my chances by having lots of sex ;)
He wants us to have babies soon and sometimes he acts very excited about the posibility but he doesn't get worked up about it like I do, cause I want to get pregnant now. Maybe it's because he doesn't want me to get dissapointed if I don't get pregnant that he's acting so aloof. I know that once I am he's going to be thrilled!
how longhave youbeen ttc? (me = since feb)
And Sven was exactly the same "He doesn't want to try to get pregnant he just wants to have sex without thinking that the goal is to get pregnant, which is understandable. but he does want me to get pregnant by 'chance' "
And at first he gor really turned off when I wanted lots of sex, cos he was like "you only want me for my sperm" This hurt me at first too, cos I thought he doesn't want to get a baby after all (and besides, I was also damn horny)
Now we both seem to be getting used to the situation though and are not angry at each other any more, and he has started to understand that the chance of getting pregnant 'by chance' is not really that high at all. If I am not pregnant as we speak, then I think next month of ttc will probably go by with out tears (least I damn well hope so, cos it was such a silly fight)... Well if all is well, then I'l get my BFP by the end of april (may be as soon as this weekend)
Yeah, last month I was telling my husband the same thing that we should have lots and lots of sex and he didn't. This month he's been a little more receptive tho, he's been initiating it more than me and when I complained that I was having O pains one night he was like "well that doesn't mean that we need to do it today, you won't necessarily get pregnant by doing it right now" but then the morning after he initiated it as if pretending that he wasn't trying to get me pregnant (we don't usually do it on a weekday morning!) so I was very happy, although heat of the moment I got on top which maybe I shouldn't have to ttc.
I don't think that I am pregnant this month but I'll find out in next week or so too, I'm expecting AF on Apr. 29th (a week and a half). Good luck to us both!
My boyfriend has really calmed down since the first and second month...and think i am only going into my forth month this weekend....But earlier he was way stressed because i was stressed and didnt know how to deal with how i was acting or feeling.. He got himself this book called Expecting for the Dad;s and since he has read that he is more understanding of what i go throgh and what i am going through. And he tells me things i dont know lol...He also is more relaxed now too because of seeing our baby and hearing the heartbeat,,,i think he was more or less scared of losing this one becase i did have a m./c last time but wasnt his baby. he is very good
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