baby shower drama :(

[talayaheli]

This is my first born so of coarse i want everythng to go right..so my MIL said she was goin to throw my shower..its been 2 months and she havnt called me or started to work on invitations(THE SHOWER IS IN A MONTH AND IM DUE JULY 21ST)..people need invitations a month in advance..then my MIL sister said she wanted to throw it bt she is bulls$*&% as well..alot of people are askin me about my shower bt wat can i tell them wen nothng has been done??..sorry for the long rant bt wat should i do??should i do my own shower??.becuz it seem lik my baby shower is no priorite to them and i get even more upset by the day??any advice ladie???has anyone gone thru this mess??

[smilymomma]

For my first child I let my mother n bf do the baby shower since they insisted. Come to find out they did things last minute, none of my important friends were there and it was a really small pathetic shower. This time around I'm doing it. I don't plan to be disapointed again

[talayaheli]

Alot of great advice..thanks alot..im just gonna do just that.ima bring it up to her bt not rely on her or anybody else and just start plannin my own.alot of my family are willing to help and i tried to giv her a chance to b a big part of the baby shower bt shes showin shes nt relyable..

[Helenk38]

I kind of throw my own shower and have my cousin help me with all the physical works. I did the invites, pick the location, come up with the theme and order all the decor and have them ship to my cousins. And she end up planning all thd games. Toward the end, other friends and family end up chirping in for food and cake and helping with the set up. So I all went well. I'm a little bit of control freak and just have no faith in other people doing things right or on time. So I end up doing a lot it my self.
Maybe ask your mother in law if she need help before pulling the project from her, or have your husband ask. Meanwhile start working on your invites list and maybe a theme, just in case she is not on top of it then at least you would have already started.

[sadies93]

I agree with spiket, just casually bring it up so she has to give you a answer. If invites arent sent soon then do it yourself.

I had a similar issue, my SIL was susposed to do my baby shower, but because my fiance told her not to invite one of her friends (this friend just would come to be mean to me), well she decided since she couldnt have her friend there that she wasnt goin to be involved with me and she wasnt goin to do my baby shower. So I threw my own shower

[laceylace_2004]

I ended up having to throw my own. This pregnancy...not having one.

[Spiket77]

Couldn't you just tell her that people are asking about the shower and ask when is she sending out invites? At least that would force her to respond and you would know if you need to handle it yourself. Might just have to ask.

[agrell]

I had the same thing happen with me with my son...my best friend (at the time) was suppose to throw my shower but she got a new boyfriend and i never saw her...so i ended up throwin my own baby shower 2 weeks before my son was born...so with this one once again im just throwing my own...im so tired of trying to count on people that dont really care...good luck and i wish you the best

[talayaheli]

Im so glad u can relate but wat does that mean??.does it mean they were just talkin for their health??..the time my MIL called me i thought she finally wanted to start the baby shower plans bt no she wanted to talk about her boyfriend and there drama..thats so selfish to me...

[mazlisa]

Yes that happened to me too. My mom and my aunt were supposed to throw me a baby shower. And since we all have talked about it when I was around four months. Once I reached 6 months and they still have not done anything. I decided to do it all myself, this is my first baby so a baby shower is important to me. I just don't want to regret putting everything in there hands and than I never have one.

[mandamouse21]

I do have the drama. I do throw my own baby showers. Less drama and stress.