belly hardness HELPPPPP ):

[Glowingmommy2be]

When will my belly get hard? I know since I'm a big girl you can't really tell I'm pregnant but I am... I'm just waiting to show because I'm tired of people asking me if I'm pregnant or just fat... it hurts my feelings when they ask me that... I'm 11weeks and 6 days and I'm a plus size girl. I weigh 245 used to weigh 230...I just feel big I wanna enjoy my pregnancy not cry when they ask if I'm pregnant or fat....

[Glowingmommy2be]

Yes adults are mean. I'm self conscious about my weight but my boyfriend says I look beautiful at any size but I just want my baby healthy

[hoffman31]

It's so hard to believe that adults are that mean and ruthless. Pre pregnancy I was 215 and at 27 weeks I've gained 15 pounds. In the last two weeks or so I've really gotten bigger and my stomach has gotten harder. Last week my husband said I'm getting big, a coworker said I look like I'll be waddling soon, then my six year old nephew called me chubbs. So needless to say, I've been feeling really self conscious lately and really just bad about being overweight. I cannot wait to have the baby, so I can start really exercising and trying to lose weight.

[Glowingmommy2be]

Thanks ladys I'm starting to feel better. And I walk everyday cause I don't want to gain so much

[33159813]

I now weigh 235 & i don't have a hard bump but it is round & in clothes you can tell its pregnancy not just cuz I'm fat(: I know it seems every week I look more pregnant & feel less fat(: I didn't start showing till around 18-20 weeks though

[MrsMount1217]

Honey I weighed close to that pre pregnancy and I have 34 days left and I look about 6 months pregnant..and that's with losing 25 lbs. It just depends how you carry, how big your baby is, position, etc.

[JaydensMommy118]

Im 36wks and I felt like I just looked chubby the whole time, of course my boyfriend and loved ones told me that I looked pregnant not fat, but there were still people who couldn't tell, because my tummy is only hard where ever the baby is, especially his head. In fact I just recently had a coworker ask me for advice on gaining weight because they are having difficulty doing so...I was initially extremely offended...but now I just embrace it I laughed at him and told him I got "knocked up" he should try it, it works wonders for weight gain. Or when/if someone says oh I didn't know you were pregnant I'll tell them of course you didn't because I'm just centrally fat...of course fighting back with sarcasm might not be for you but it does take the power away from them. Just know that the people that love you will find your growing curves beautiful and everyone else doesn't matter!

[ladii_keya]

I wuldnt say size has much to do with it , even with ultrasound pix nobody believed I was pregnant for a very long time until they saw my belly move wen baby kicked & even then I wasn't showing .. I'm 5 foot 6 110 lbs & didn't show until I was in my third trimester , most days I just looked bloated & my peak weight was only 131

[lizm4444]

I am also overweight starting at 200lbs. I really started showing at probably 28 weeks. I am 35 now and people have just started to really ask me about my pregnancy (strangers and people who don't know)

[MzRuff1913]

IM 20 weeks & 4 days & IM just now beginning to get hard. .( pre pregnancy 125 , now 135)

[Kate037]

Dare*

[Kate037]

I totally understand what you mean. I ran into my old school bully when I first knew I was pregnant. (I was at work so I had no choice but to play nice) and when I asked if he kept up with anyone from school, he said 'nah, everyones either getting married or pregnant these days, guess I'll just have to talk to you, cuz we both know that isn't happening for you' I ended up leaving work after he left because I couldn't stop crying. It helps me to know that a lot of my reactions are hormones. Yes, his words hurt, but he doesn't define who I am. Nobody but me can do that. It has taken me years to become comfortable in my skin, and I have had plastic surgery to help the process. Just do what makes you feel right. If you watch what you eat and slowly increase your activity, you could potentially only gain 10-15 pounds. If that's your biggest hang up, I mean. But you are a beautiful person wether you are a size 6 or a 26, and don't you date let anyone tell you otherwise!

[emylinicole91]

Pre pregnancy I was 220 the dropped to 215 and like above my belly has just started showing the last couple weeks. I'm almost 27 weeks. It has been more noticeable to family tho.

[Glowingmommy2be]

I feel a lil better I just want to show though but people are so mean now a days

[Kate037]

Even if you we're skinny you probably wouldn't be showing by now. At 11 weeks your uterus is still in your pelvis. That being said, I'm overweight myself (222 prepregnancy) I'm 22+ 2 today (sheesh that's a lot of 2' s going on there) and my stomach is still not hard. When I lay down it gets firmer, but it goes soft when I stand up. I do have a bump now though, its only really gotten noticeable to family so far. So you still have some time, I think.