fiance.

[91512]

I never planned on having kids before I was married. But here I am now pregnant my boyfriend had proposed but now is constantly being indecisive . The baby is going to be here soon nov. 10th we were supposed to marry sept 15 am I wrong for not sticking around because he can't decide? Plus I live in Illinois he lives in Mississippi and he basically wants me to move my entire life just to play house being his girlfriend.

[91512]

Thank you all for your advice. We were engaged before I was pregnant , and the baby is one of the reasons we were getting married but also because we love each other . At times he can be a mothers boy! And never wants to go against her , we decided the date together . And I feel like since I went back home for the summer to spend time with my family his mother is telling him no dont do it. It ***** that people have that much influence over him. Which I basically feel is going on .

[sandy_baby3oct6]

I had my daughter out of wedlock and i vowed to myself that i wouldn't have another baby until after i was married well my daughters dad was a dead beat and a d bag and after we got engaged he started getting really abusive and hit me all the time so i left him but a few months before i left i stopped taking my bc i started seeing someone else and ended up getting pregnant on bc and using condoms! He proposed even though we had only been together for 3 months but i turned him down cuz even though i wanted to be married i wanted to marry for the right reasons not just for a baby well here we are almost 6 years later and after our son was born we vowed again to not have another baby until after marriage.... We got married last September after being together for 4 days short of 5 years and started trying to conceive immediately we got pregnant in January :) sorry for the long story my point is that you should marry someone bcuz you love them not bcuz your having his baby if things were meant to be they will be but if you just marry him cuz your pregnant and your not sure there's a good chance it's gonna end in a divorce do what's right for you and baby if he's a good man he'll stick around

[abigailsmomma]

Yeah I agree with AHHHpenguins, Definitely don't marry someone because you have a child with them! My babydaddy/boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and we're due on the 17th, we're living together and we've talked about getting married but we both want it to be for all the right reasons and we want to be sure we're ready for that.

[91512]

Thank you for your advice (:

[AHHHpenguins]

Don't get married just because of baby. Take your time hun. Wait it out till baby is here. Then decide. No rush! Times have changed about 90% of couples who have kids aren't married. Do what is best for you! :)