heartless and mean after giving birth?

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

Please tell me if anyone else experienced this. So after having my baby I had a difficult time understanding I was pregnant it was all a shock my baby barely kicked or moved and I was terrified of losing her so I tried not to bond. Now she's here and I love her like I've never loved anyone before. I can't explain it it's like there became only room for her in my heart nothing or Noone else is important and I feel horrible because I gave two of my animals away my rabbit and dog and they were my babies I couldn't live without them especially my dog and after my baby I gave them away happily to good homes of course to a well trusted friend but why am I so heartless and mean? :( why didn't I feel any pain giving up my old "babies" and I feel the same way about people if they even effect me in a bad way or make me unhappy and it gets in the way of me being a good mom i can literally never speak to them again family or friends. What is wrong with me??

[37with2]

Sounds like you are a bit overwhelmed and exhausted.  Maybe just lashing out because you are having trouble handling the increased responsibility. Try to let some friends help you out, and try to be aware that you think you will be the only one who can do things the right way, but if you get some help for a bit, you will be better rested and better able to handle things and do more moving forward. Think what would happen if you don't accept help here and there now, and burn out.. you will be forced to accept the situation then. Maybe even warn these helpful friends and family you are on edge so they are a little more forgiving with you.

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

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[WhiteJasmineRose3]

My husband thinks it's postpartum depression but I'm not depressed?  Just cold I've never been like that before. Also I gave the dog up because I couldn't take her out on walks anymore my husband is a disabled vet with injuries so the dog was all on me which was fine before the baby now the baby is 95% of the time cared for by me I get no break so no energy or time for the dog between baby cleaning and even trying to lay down for 5 mins. I do miss my dog but realistically without help it was too hard I'm just sad and in shock she's gone and I gave harder up

[ashrefra]

Why did you give up your dog? I would never give up a pet because of a new member of the family unless they were acting out and needed to go for the health of my child. The love between mother and baby is like no other, we all experience it. To have so much hate twords others and to hold grievences is very emotionally unhealthy. Becoming a parent will weed out the people that aren't ment to be in your life anymore and it's not unhealthy to let go of those relationships but you don't need to be pushing everyone away. I think what you're going through is something you're going to have to find that answer within yourself but, you can never love your kid too much