how to enjoy pregnancy?

[marylinnicole]

I admit maternity is a beautiful thing, but how do you enjoy pregnancy with all the things it comes with like vomiting nausea headaches backaches swollen body excessive peeing insomnia etc? I'm 30 wks ftm with only 20 yrs, pregnant with a girl, and she's a big one doctor told me so and I can't stand it anymore it's too much idk maybe I'm exaggerating cuz everything is just building up. Baby girl is in the sitting position which causes me to get short of breathe all the time and really hot there's no possible way I can be comfortable. And today my belly popped and it started leaking it hurts so much I just want to rip it off , baby girl is way too big for the size of my stomach and it's super stretched and really hard Cuzco she's pushing out :,( I'm just depressed I never thought pregnancy would be like this the only thing I love about it is feeling her move I just want one bby cuz I don't wanna go through this again and cuz I got extremely sick with it but my husband wants more :,( God help me. How do you all do it to actually enjoy pregnancy? I just want her here already :( sorry I know it's too long thanks though if you actually read it through

[shaybay515]

Well firstly.... everyyyyy pregnancy is different. And every woman. I cant imagine how you felt today when that happened to your tummy. I felt this way w my daughter, i had "morning sickness" the entireeeeeee time and sciatica, back pain, no sleep at all, no comfort, i was stressed and homeless 3 months of my pregnancy til we finally got our place at almost 8 months along, wverything that could go wrong did, not to mention i was measuring at 45 weeks at 38, so i was HUGE and my daughter stayed til 41 weeks. I loved feeling her and watching her move and buying things and such, but i was so ill in the end i looked like a ghost and just miserable, i felt terrible but the only women. i know who loved pregnancy are the ones who had good ones! Said id n ever do it again, 2.5 years later im almost 12 weeks, sic every day, tired, not sleeping etc but praying this pregnancy is better, its certainly my last!

[GigiBella]

I know exactly what u mean about not feeling like youeself. Meds haven't worked for me n most of the time I feel like I have a stomach flu w severe motion sickness.  I think feeling depressed or detached is "normal" given the circumstances. Looking at sonogram n feeling baby move helps me feel a little more connected.
The easiest part of my last pregnancy was labor n delivery bc I was sick until the moment I gave birtth.  But as soon as I had her i was okay

[Alexis__]

@mommybrandyozuna - I'm the same can't wait till I feel like me again. My husband tells me to be happy too but it's hard. I break down when he tells me that.

@RC_JC - I know my mom was telling me that too but I know the second she's out I'll be happy and love her mire then ever because I know I'll be me again plus she'll be in my arms FINALLY. That's all I want and need.

@ashlii00- I'm sorry you have to do this alone but you got us if you need cheering up and words of wisdom along with God. He's all the love and comfort you need. I know I feel alone even tho I have my,husband but he works m-f 12pm to 12am =/ and I'm on bedrest so it *****. I had got meds for morning sickness but they actually made me worse. My body is weak when it comes to meds like that because I never take any meds.

Congrats tho to all of you ladies with your pregnancies and I'll pray it gets better for us all soon (= remember God doesn't give you anything you can't handle!

[ashlii00]

Think its a natural feeling for us all. Atleast u dont have too long to wait. And u have ur man standing by u comforting u. Dno how im gonna cope on the breakdowns further on on my own. Sometimes all i want is a deep cuddle and comfort. Suppose u gotta look on the bright side of what uve got :/
wish u ladies all the best in rest of your pregnancy and if ur sickness is real bad get to doctors and get some anti sickness tablets. They work wonders for me. I think im also gonna buy them anti sickness wristbands too.
Best of luck
and congratulations on ur pregnancy :)

[RN_JC]

Careful ladies some Dr's say that when you feel that your unable to bond with your child while pregnant half of those mom's will develop post partum depression not baby blues. I wish you all the best. Things will get better soon for you all just give it some time.

[mommybrandyozuna]

Ugh I feel ya ladies this *****!!!! I just don't want to do it anymore!  I just want her here so I can be me again! Hope it gets better for all of us for everyone we have to be around my hubby asks me can u just smile for one day! :( I feel so bad that I'm just mean all the time!

[LoveMarissa]

Right I'm feeling the same way like I can't take it and I'm trying to be happy but it's so much to pregnancy

[Alexis__]

@GigiBella- I'm the same way but the only thing that's major to me right now is I don't feel attached to my little girl at all =/ and I feel like a bad mom but I think it's because I can't enjoy this pregnancy well being sick 24/7

[GigiBella]

People who have easy pregnancies are often judgemental. I hate being treated like im ungrateful bc I don't like being sick all the time. 9 months is a long time to be nauseous n vomiting.  Doesn't mean I don't love my baby like crazy.

[Alexis__]

You're welcome and same to you too (=

[marylinnicole]

Thank you so much Alexis__ and likewise (: goodluck on the rest of your pregnancy

[Alexis__]

I know and I'm glad. I'll pray for you too that it gets better soon for the both of us.

[marylinnicole]

Your welcome at least now we both know were not alone on this feeling
Lol yea naru89 totally

[naru89]

I personally hate being pregnant but i figure alittle bit of suffering is worth it for my little one. I now understand that open threat you get from mom as a kid " i brought you into this world i can take you out" if she felt half as awful as i do she had the right lol

[Alexis__]

That's what I do with my husband too and last night I cried well I hugged him. I felt like a bad mom but I had a moment. I just pray August hurrys up! Thank you as well for posting this I thought I was the only one who felt like this.

[marylinnicole]

Yup I too tell my husband that all the time, we both just hug each other and stay there :( he doesn't really understand, how can he if he's a man but he stays there by my side until I stop crying
Thank you all for sharing ♥

[Alexis__]

It's probably because she didn't have it as bad as you do now and she don't really understand how bad your feeling. I know sometimes I get sad because I can tell people how miserable I am but they really don't understand because everyones pregnancy is different. It's hard and all we really have is us pregnant women who can actually relate to how we feel right now. I was telling my husband last night I wish I could have my baby now because I'm so miserable and tiredof feeling like this all day everyday =(

[uad32014]

pregnancy has its ups and downs. just Terry and focus on the good. i personally can't stands people starting, always being hot, i miss my smaller belly, i miss moving fast,  i dislike the nausea, I miss eating what i want,.. and this list can go on and nin.. but its only 9mnths though they seem like forever, be we gotta suck it up and be a mommy for babe! =)

[marylinnicole]

Yes exactly ^^ o thought my mom out of everyone would be the one to understand me since she had 4 kids but no she got all upset cuz I told her that I don't see the joy in being pregnant :/

[Alexis__]

I just had that same break down yesterday with everyone saying I should be happy and all that but it's hard when your sick 24/7, have back pain, can't sleep, can't walk or sit for too long, and literally have no control over your body.

[marylinnicole]

So glad this is a normal feeling everybody keeps on telling me to enjoy my pregnancy and I just want to scream or something, let them know I'm not enjoying myself at all buy I always felt bad about I feel kinda better knowing all mommies pass through this same thoughts and feelings

[Alexis__]

I'm in the same boat with you. I feel bad because I don't feel attached to this pregnancy like I did with my son. I was excited and everything but with this one I'm just ready to throw the towl in. I'm so over being pregnant. I'm miserable everyday =( I pray it gets better and changes.

[hazel413]

Girl, first don't feel bad at all. I didn't want this baby until about a month ago. I'm dire in six weeks.
I have a total different situation but have the same result as you.
Try buying things for her, picking her name, start getting her nursery ready.
Just change the way you look at it.
Look at babies laughing on YouTube.
I know exactly what your feeling.....almost drifted back to not wanting her today. But you must find a way to get out of that funk.
A for you're next or not, enjoy this one. Give yourself time.
I had no choice inn time. My daughter was nine months when i found out i was expecting.
Totally hated it. But now she's growing up n fast, i kinda glad I'm withholding another one.
You'll do great.
Shopping for Babe things always pulled me out though
Even just a shirt or teddy.
Try talking to the baby.

[knufrio]

I can relate. Everyone keeps asking me why I don't like being pregnant like I'm such a terrible person. I'm 10+ weeks and I'm sorry but when I am vomiting a few times a week, so nauseated all day evrry day that I can barely move let alone work, and the only foods I have any appetite for I cannot have, its hard to enjoy myself. Don't get me wrong I love my baby and I'm super excited, but so far I am mentally and physically done with this stage I'm my pregnancy.