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how to get pregnant?
Hi, im trying to be pregnant, but too scared to allow my hubby to put his penis into my vagina. 1 of my frnz had told me that it hurts a lot, so wenever v try i just cant let myself go loose and use all mu strength to push it away.is there some position that helps to keep the pushing away & allows me to keep calm?
mel---it's probably because it was over a year ago that she was trying to get pregnant, and now she is ;-)
I almost posted on this but I just happened to look and seen it was from over a year ago. LOL
Sex is fun and feels great, it should never be painful so if it is you need to see a doctor.
I can't imagine what man would put up with NEVER having sex in a marriage especially in the beginning.
In order to get pregnant you will need to have sex, so lube up and go at it haha
Sorry if I offend anyone but I think it post is ridiculous
If you look on rhadika's profile she also posted around the same time that she is pregnant and can't stand the smell of most foods. I guess I am just concerned that in one post she can't have sex with her husband due to being afraid of the pain and on the other her husband is upset that she is always sick since she has been pregnant. I suggest that everyone look at her profile before giving her more advice which just wastes your time.
hi rhadika, there is nothing wrong with ur grammar,dont get pissed off by som of d comments made by som ppl in dis forum.as for the person that said she tot u were from america at first, no one is from america ,everybody in america are immigrants they are from one heritage or the other.and as for the woman named luv2bmom, i think u are one of d best mom in d world.i really appreciate ur words of advice to rhadika and it doesnt even applies to rhadika alone so many ppl wud benefit from it too. may God give you more wisdom and may he reward u abundantly.amen
hello, i congratulate you also on losing your virginity with your husband! he sounds like a very patient and understanding guy too i tell ya!!! well honey the pain will eventually subside, i remember it took me several times too to stop "crabbing" backward and i thought, why is everyone doing this? it doesnt feel good at all! but finally when i got with a partner that i had consistent sex with (by consistent i mean every day or every couple of days...) i got used to it and it became much easier and much more comfortable! one thing is you know you can practice by yourself when your husband is not around just to get you more used to something going in there. Im sure you know about "toys" if you arent too uncomfortable to use something like that, and this is strictly to help you with your problem, im sorry if i offend anyone im really not trying to turn this into a masturbation forum sorry! its just a suggestion. as far as you and your husband losing interest i understand your problem is just fear, while his is probably feeling unwanted by you, that can drive a man crazy. when you get used to this new experience and you surprise him in bed by showing him just how much you want him it will be amazing! it sounds as if he has been extremely understanding and gentle with you and that is great. so try to be really flirty with him one night and initiate sex, try not to pull away from him and you guys just enjoy each other! because trust me if you do concieve you will miss these quiet nights alone with him! haha they will be few and far in between! ALSO, dont let anyone scare you about birth, you will make it through a womans body is made to endure the pain of labor. plus when you feel that life moving around in you trust me you can move mountains if you have to! and hello, they have epidurals and other pain meds if thats an option for you plenty of women use them and have great experiences minus the pain. so good luck to you---- HAVE FUN!!!
The 1st time when i tried without the lubri, it hurt a lot. After that someone suggested to use KY, so tried with it.But i think it is not a gud idea to use the lubri, i better get used to without using one; as none of it may be safe to conceive. And I want to get over the pain once and for all.I like your reply, thanks.
I just want to say congratulations for holding out! Kids are having sex earlier and earlier these days. I commend you for waiting.
Next, you may not need the lube after you get into it a little more. Your body is going to crave it and produce it's own lube.
Next, you may not need the lube after you get into it a little more. Your body is going to crave it and produce it's own lube.
You can order Pre-Seed (sperm friendly lubricant) on line at Amazon.com I can't remember the price but something like $12USD for 3 rings a bell with me.....
...oh and as for position, missionary style with your knees pulled up towards your shoulders also helps ease penetration :-)
Yes, most lubricants are not good for sperm (except pre-seed, like Joy mentioned), BUT it will help you with any pain the first few times as it will make it a lot easier for your husband to penetrate. And I think the best thing for you to do is to first get used to having sex and make sure you get over any pain before you start concentrating on getting pregnant. I would suggest using any lubricant for a few times first, then start trying for a baby without lube or with pre-seed. Good luck to you!
dont know y people here want to guess the country I belong to! Ofcourse if it is mentioned in my profile that im from Singapore.Instead on discussing on the topic some gals are more interested in checking out for my English grammar.Halo! English has always been my 1st language and im not sure what drives you CRAZY with my posts!
I was suggested to use the KY lubri...but now i read on net that it kills sperms...is it true?
I was suggested to use the KY lubri...but now i read on net that it kills sperms...is it true?
Just because very young womens cycles are sometimes more apt to be irregular than women in their early 20;s up.....Not always the case, but I see many posts on here from women in their teens who have very irregular cycles.....Also in this day and age, unfortunately most women have already had sex by their 20's...so I think that people are just trying to figure out your cycles as well as why it may be so painful for you to have sex......
you are from singapore correct? so there fore your traditions and customs are differant from here so i assume i was judging you based on america sorry for that,
i wouldnt be worrying about having a baby id concentrate on the realationship between u and your husband above all else....you say hes not interested your putting to much pressure on your self, like i said before take one step at a time, not all woman get pregnant there first or second or even third time,your gonna really have to get over your fear because if you dont im not sure your husband cant take it, but what do i know right,i was just trying to offer advice sorry,
i still dont see how a person can stand the thought of child birth (imagine squeezing something the size of a watermellon out of a hole the size of a pea....) if they're scared of sex. that just doesn't make sense to me. the pain in child birth is 100x's worse then the pain in sex and with sex....it doesnt even hurt for more then maybe 1-5 minutes.
The only thing I can say about the grammar is that she's from Singapore. If it isn't her first language, English is a very difficult language to learn because our rules are completely different from every other language.
As for the sex thing, KY lubricant kills sperm. A sperm-friendly one is pre-seed if you're still trying to have a baby.
As for the sex thing, KY lubricant kills sperm. A sperm-friendly one is pre-seed if you're still trying to have a baby.
Y i want to get pregnant; I guess the obvious answer is to have a baby :)
I know it is unlikely for most women in this forum to have this fear of sex. I know it hurts even more when I have a baby, but that does not mean that I dont try at all. I joined this forum to check if there were ways I could reduce my fear of the pain.You may want to think of me as foolish that i have never had sex before or am being so transparent to admit that im scared to have sex. But to me the objective is simple, get some inputs, try them for I know I have to bear whatever pain and try to enjoy.
Any more queries?
I know it is unlikely for most women in this forum to have this fear of sex. I know it hurts even more when I have a baby, but that does not mean that I dont try at all. I joined this forum to check if there were ways I could reduce my fear of the pain.You may want to think of me as foolish that i have never had sex before or am being so transparent to admit that im scared to have sex. But to me the objective is simple, get some inputs, try them for I know I have to bear whatever pain and try to enjoy.
Any more queries?
exactly why do you wanna be pregnant? like the other woman said the birth is more painful then sex, so im confused here please enlighten me, im neither married nor am i pregnant as of yet, men crave sex its human nature either you gotta get over your fear or you and your husbands realationship could become rocky, tense, etc.....are you a newly wed? just relax try taking baby steps noe step at a time one night try foreplay, the next time take it a step further. your focused to much on how much it hurts focus more on you and your husbands wants and needs as a couple
the other woman im just curious i heard alot about have oral sex can lower your chances of becoming pregnant im not sure if its true or not.
the other woman im just curious i heard alot about have oral sex can lower your chances of becoming pregnant im not sure if its true or not.
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