just need to vent .. ):

[brittlynnn]

Im 17 and a first time mom , im 29wks 4 days and this whole time my mom and grandma have been litterally takeing controll of everything . My babys dad (also my fiance) trys so hard to be involved any way he can , but my mom and gma say its not good enough . He pays for almost everything , they wont let him go to any doctors appointments or aultrasounds and hes not even allowed at the babyshower or in the delivery room when our sons born .. apparently he would see "to much " hes not even allowed to be in the laboring room or my mom nd gma will have him escorted off the property . I dont think its right , and to top it off , they are making him pay childsupport and they rub it in his face , he dknt have a big payin job so theyr takin 100 out of his money every month and hes gettin a better job paying alot more and then theyr gonna take more of the money .:/  nd if he dont give them the money they wont let him see our son .),:

[remar]

What about you and your boyfriend getting your own place? That way no one can tell you what to do.

[showard022]

He must be a really good guy to deal with all that. It's really not right. You can choose who you want there. I would talk to your doctor about it.

[Mommyoftwolilgirls]

U make ur own decisions

[JustineBreOnna]

Your past legal age of consent and they have no LEGAL right to keep him away from the birth of his own child. You can talk to the nurses and say you want him in there and that if your mom or GMA act up or stress you out the nurses will escort THEM out upon your request. You can control that situation girly

[brittlynnn]

Thank you everyone . All that made me feel better about the situation . And your all right , it is my child and i do need to take charge of this

[GigiBella]

They can only do what you allow them to do. Your a mother now and you really need to take control of situation. They can't ban him from ultrasounds, doctors appointment, or the birth of his child.  Only YOU can do that. Tell him the time of appointments so he can show up. If they make a scene, they will be kicked out. Call him when u go into labor and tell them u want him in room.
And I never heard of child support being paid before child is born..if u feel like hes contributing enough then go to court and cancel child support order. I get that your 17 but its your child & you need to make adult decision about what is going down.  It's really not fair to him that your allowung family to bully him  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  How old is he?  

Ya know, I think a mom goes through a tremendous amount when their daughter gets pregnant as a teen.  There are all those worries and fears about her future and if she'll still be able to accomplish things like college, school, job training (the things you NEED to be an independent person not reliant on them (the parents) or a man.  Can't stress how much every woman needs to think big picture and get themselves educated to the highest level they can.)  as well as the additional member of their family that THEY are responsible for as they would be if they are still taking care of you and you live at home.  That worry can become difficult to deal with because they might try to over control as in this case.

The money part is normal and actually what a court would do.  It's called child support and REALLY important.  I would not fight that and if he gets a better job and they take more money, that is the right thing hon.  Your mom is paying your expenses now and soon will be paying your child's.  It's right that he contributes and it costs much more than 100 a month to do that.  Don't fight that one.

But he should be able to be at the hospital with you and if you want him in the room, I would imagine that is your choice.  ???  

You are almost 18.  And you'll be free from them soon enough if you choose to move out.  But DO keep your educational and job training needs in mind!  That is the ticket for a woman to end up being financially independent.  

When you are a minor and dependent on someone to take care of you, I think it is wisest to work it out with them in a reasonable way.  Your mom will always be there for you hopefully and loves you.  She's not managing this very well at all.  But try to not have it turn into Romeo and Juliet of you and your fiancé against her.  Just incorporate him into your life as much as you can increasing it more and more and then make plans for your future when you won't be under your mom's care.  

best of luck sweetie.  This stuff is hard and definitely makes it so that it is hard to enjoy what should be a wonderful, happy time.  I personally feel like we should celebrate a father wanting to be in his baby's life as so many ditch the responsibility.  Sounds like you have a good guy!!

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

You need to focus on getting out of that house they are being tlo controlling and overbearing. That is way too much. You are old enough to make your own decisions. Get out of there

[collegeMarriedpregnant]

Trust me I was in your same situation once. .. don't let them have that much control this is your child not theirs.  Tell them you live then and are grateful for their help but that it took too people to get pregnant abd you are just as guilty as him and he is just as innocent as you. Tell them the situation they are brewing is dangerous and will only cause more fighting and lawsuits in the future.

[shellc428]

I hate how parents think they can manipulate you into thinking they have ANY say.

YOU can tell THEM they can't be in the room.  
YOU can say HE can stay.
when you make the adult decision of having a baby you become an adult.
dont be scared of them, you will never get this memory back and neither will he! You make him seen like a good guy who wants to be involved.LET HIM.

I had my 1st at 17 also, my mom was the biggest B!tch ever. He supported me and our daughter.  Over 6 yrs later we're married with baby 3 on the way and I had to tell my mom to kick rocks.  Its your choice, make the right one.

[cruz214]

You're 17 and the mother of the child so you can tell the doctors that you want him in there. I don't think your family should have any say in what should happen. He's trying to be a good dad so they should be happy about that. I know you might not want to tell your family that you ARE going to let him be there but you can't let them basically control yalls relationship. I've been in that situation and you have to put your foot down. And only you can put him on child support since you're the mother. Good luck

[rosie_dede]

Obviously he won't see too much he's gotten u pregnant but u can tell the nurse who unwant n the room actually they usually ask is it OK for certain ppl to b in. There

[Allocate]

Only the mom of the child can file

[deannagrimsley]

At 17 you are considered an adult so you can tell the doctors that you want him in there and what you say matters. And I didn't think your mom could file for child support, I thought only the mother of the child could.

[Allocate]

Uh no thats not right at all. You take control. Tell the nurses who you want in the room with you. And take him to your doctor appointments. They should not be controlling your pregnancy