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legalities concerning names

Legally, can the father have any say-so in the name? My child's father hasn't been involved at all, but insists that I name my baby a certain name. I was just wondering if it is my right to name my baby, or does he get to decide also.

Oh, by the way, the name he is suggesting is Judas Bartholomew. Umm....no way.
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No he has no legal right over the name. Your child doesnt even have to have his last name. Mine hasnt been in the pic and he isnt a good guy. My child will have the name I picked out and my last name.
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No he does not. My mom named both me and my brother disregarding my dads choice completely at the hospital. She told the doctors the names. Needless to the say i dont know why she even named us when she abandoned us right after. Im happy i grew up with my dad and not her
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I don't know where you are but here in England the father would only have automatic rights if he is your husband, or some rights  if his name is down on the birth certificate. On a general note, how would he be able to stop you naming him what you wanted, if all his input in your pregnancy is just regarding the babies name than that says it all really. You are carrying this child, you will be raising him. If i was you i would name him what i wanted to. Good luck!
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It's the same situation with my baby's dad. He couldn't help when I got so sick and was out of work for a while, but yet he could rent out a cabin in the mountains for $1000 for 5 days with god only knows what hoochie. And then he tries to say that my baby has to have whatever name he picks out. I told him since he's basically just the sperm donor that it's my decision, and he said he has legal rights to name our child. Pshhh.
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Nope, he doesn't have any rights. If you don't put him on the birth certificate, he won't have any rights at all, unless he goes to court to get a test & get rights. Most likely he won't do that because he would have to pay child support. However, if you plan to try to get child support, you do have to put him on. My sister went through this a couple of years ago.
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I can't get child support even if I tried my damnedest. He works for a home remodeling business, and he is very close to the owner, so he gets paid cash. So if I tried to file for child support, he would just say he didn't have a job and I wouldn't get hardly anything.
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Nope he has no legal rights, so if you aren't worried about him signing the birth certificate then call your baby what ever you want!
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That's the thing though. I don't want my baby growing up and thinking that I maliciously kept him away from his dad by not putting him on the birth certificate or anything. I'm just so damn confused :(
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When your child is old enough they will understand. All you can say to the father is I'm naming my child -----. If you would like to sign the birth certificate you can, but I won't force you. Just be civil about it, then it's his choice.
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Oh goodness...ummm personally, I wouldnt put him on thebirth certificate unless he started making an effort, that is something that can   always be changed if he wants it to be. I would give him the chouce, that way if your child questions it later, at least you can say you tried.
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And no, no legal rights to the name, thats some  craziness  lol. Maybe he ment that as a father, he has a say so in the name...thats the only thing that makes sense lol
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When I had my daughter I named her and they gave me a separate form for the father. He's not in the picture, even of u put him on the birth certificate u still fill out the name of the child, I would name the baby with why makes u happy this is the name your baby will carry for the rest of its life. My daughter is 5 now and asks about her sperm donor,she knows mommy takes care of her. If u raise your child right then he will understand why u made the choices I did. You now have to remember that from the moment this baby comes the baby I most important. Not this man who is causing unneeded conflict for u.
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It is your baby and like some of the others said he's basically a sperm donor. Name that baby anything you want, sweetie.
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He has zero rights. he doesn't even have enough legal rights to come to the hospital. Its his word against yours, there isn't even proof he is the dad until he pays for that paternity test
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Even if he gets paid cash he still has to pay a certain amount of child support. The courts will tell him to get a job or go to jail. He has no say so over the baby's name that is your choice
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Thanks yall. I'm just tired of him threatening me and saying it's his choice to name the baby. I won't stand for it.
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U actually can have him pay child support the judge will order him to show proof of income especially if he says he is working, and if he can't he will have to get a income and start paying. Just because he doesn't get paid with a check sub the judge will still have him pay. My friend just went to court for that and her baby father had to get a job or come up with 500 a month. But I am from cali so I am not sure if its the same all over.
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I'm in South Carolina, I've heard they're pretty good about child support here, as far as enforcing them to pay.
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only thing i have to add because everyone said everything else, is you can go after support if you take it to court there is other things you can get from him (etc. his tax returns) and if he continues to work under the table eventually the government will go after him for evasion of support, at least thats how things work here... plus it will save you from having to go back to court if you establish that you want support now for when he gets a 'real' job...  
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He has no rights until he signs the birth certificate and gets a court ordered custody agreement. I'm married, and the nurses gave all paper work to me to fill out. I had my hubby do it, but it was given to me. Give the baby the name you want.

Personally, if he's acting this controlling now, and you don't plan on pursuing child support, I would make him file for visitation rights. Most likely he won't do this because he'll have to prove paternity and then pay child support regardless of whether or not he has a job. I definitely would think long an hard about him signing the birth certificate.
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Regardless of weather he's working or not they will still hit him for child support and it will just keep adding up plus if you get any assistants ie food stamps he will have to pay that back so he's screwing his self ...
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So should I put him on the birth certificate? He says he cares and loves me and the baby, but the only thing that he has done so far was demand that the baby be named a certain name.
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Hell no if he isn't helping out now you really can't count on him helping in the long run..
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Ok, thanks guys :)
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my son has my last name and had the name we both thought was ok but i made sure he was in my surname bcz i new i wasnt going to last with his dad because of the way he was. the dad wasnt happy at all aboit my son bein in my last name so i just told him tuff **** ur wasnt varryin him for 9 months and had 72hours of labour pain to go thru told him he has had all the pleasure of releasing himself and had done nothin throughout my pregnancy everythin was left to me to sort out so i told him he is a jackson and thats that n he new what i said went because he didnt have a say on the matter. but is still let him see his son i would never stop him as long as he stuck to jis arranged times and didnt let him down all time and that he didnt fetch any harm to my son n as long as my son still wants to see his dad im in no rghts to say no unless his dad blew his chance by heartbreakin him thats when i stop it all. but till then there are arranged days and times for my son to see his dad. so yes u can name your child what YOU want to call him/her but just give the father the benefit of doubt of seeing his child if he says no then so be it he choice not urs so u gave him a choice cant say u didnt n its then down to him xx
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