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415867 tn?1323365503

lost the baby, having suction d&c this afternoon

Today I was 9w3d pregnant, had an u/s and there was no heartbeat. They believe the baby died two weeks ago. I have not had any spotting/bleeding so I"m having a suction d&c this afternoon...i don't know what to do, im numb. this was my 4th pregnancy and we have 1 beautiful daughter, 3 miscarriages.  Why us again!?!?!? Seriously again!?! Hasn't our family been through enuogh with my dad's cancer and then when we all have something to look forward to it comes crashing down again. what the F**K! I"m so angry and sad and fustrated...now what? I"m an OR nurse and do suction d&c's all the time but what do i expect after? will i be crappy? will i bleed a lot? any info would help!

thanks
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Did u see a hb with the pregnancy they say it can take a few weeks to six weeks all depends could be less, u know they dropped when get a negative pregnancy test are have hcg monitored, its hard i wish we all got answers to questions its a cruel world
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415867 tn?1323365503
my last check hcg was on march 21st at hcg 3154
how long does it usually take to come down after a d&c?

this is the worst i've felt with all of my m/c's. I was the farthest along on this one and i was so attached. my heart feels so heavy and i just can't understand why God has allowed this to happen again. why us? why me?  my heart just aches for my baby.

i'm dreading going to work tomorrow, althugh my co-workers are amazingly supportive and took great care of me during the d&c i'm just scared to talk about it but i dn't want to be a huge mess at work, i'm just so angry and fustrated.
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Just such a shame how one minute u see a hb next minute u don't i just dont understand it after one miscarriage i think investigations should be carried out i was lucky and got referred to a gyni after two , i think i was very demanding though so doctors just give me what i wanted finally, i see a lot of women say they had miscarriages then go on to having successfull pregnancies with the help of progestorne pesseries and baby aspirin, doctors etc should check all women asap to see if that were the cause then maybe babies would be here still now, makes me so angry because on my last pregancy i kept asking different people to check my progestorne levels are just prescribe me progestorne, no on would listen, i saw baby hb and then i went on the lose that baby was so hurt and kept thinking if Only someone had listened to me, i went back to my doctors was in distress got a referal and was referred to a gyni but by the time i had my appointment i wasn't eligible for any tests to be carried out as im pregnant but i did get progestorne pesseries without any blood checks of it being low, hopefully if that was the problem and why my last baby passed away then this baby will be perfect, fingers crossed though for everyone
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1131112 tn?1321040173
My last D&C they saw no heartbeat at 9.5 weeks and I had a D&C right after. My first D&c I had no pain and lightly spotted 5 days then got my period 5 weeks after the surgery. The second I had a bad experience but it's still better than having to pass the baby at home and the D&C itself causes no pain. I've felt the anger you're feeling and it lasted a really long time with me. The fact that you have a baby means you can carry babies and you will again! Knowing that doesn't make the pain any easier at all or the fear of more MC's. The pain you feel is fully justified and I hurt for you just thinking about it :(
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Sorry i was meant to say my not mums***
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Hey i must of because i got a positive pregnancy test on the 19th febuary exactly six weeks after my suction d and c without a period. I know how u feel i saw mums babies hb two days before new years eve and from then till eight days later the hb had stopped i was so devastated it hit me badly i went to the hospital on the 6th January for a scan and it had stopped and must of been recent because baby was measuring correct, unless it was still growing ? Is that possible. I got given 3 scans pictures that i have kept but found them very disturbing to look at to begin with.
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1428239 tn?1333457053
Once you HCG returns to below 5, your body will ovulate again sometime after that... and then you should get your period 2 weeks after..

You dont need to get your period again to get pregnant technically.

Your period occurs after the egg isnt fertilized....  Some people ovulate as soon as 2 weeks after their d&c... others take longer because it can take a while for your HCG to drop depending on how far along you are, what your HCG was before the d&c, etc.
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415867 tn?1323365503
you said you didn't get your period after your d/c but you got pregnant right away? does your body think that the d/c is like a period so you will ovulate in the next couple weeks after the procedure?  to be honest my husband and i haven't really talked about what we want to do yet. this was my 4th pregnancy and we have 1 daughter. this has been the most emotional one for me...i think its b/c on the u/s i could see the little baby, arms and all and then no heartbeat...i cna't get that picture out of my head. i feel so numb and then i just can't stop crying. i find myself rubbing my stomach alot and wishing this was alll a dream..
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Thankyou what does bs mean birth show? And dds ? Bfp? Means positive test but what does it stand for? Lol
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TO: SAV1987:: DD is dear daughter. DS dear son. OR operation room

I got pregnant a month after my second mc. With my first I waited and got on the pill but within 2 months of stopping I got preggers. I had a D&C with both Mc's.
I hope you feel better sweety. Things will get better and I hope you get you BFP's.
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Dds*
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1537137 tn?1303409873
What does OR mean ? Operation room ?  I see all these short terms  lol what does dd and ds and dos, bs stand for i have an idea but what is irthday actually short for ?
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1537137 tn?1303409873
I had my d and c on 8th January had no period after it , got pregnant again, had a scan on 10th march saw baby with hb 7 weeks 2 days but for some reason wrote down as 7wk1day lol
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1600479 tn?1318527069
Honey the only advise that I can give you is that keep a positive mind  and trust God and yourself next time...dont even worry for your past .....If  get  pregna again ( that is 100 % probably ) dont thing about miscarriges anymore...this is my first pregnancy and at first I was woory about that, but you know what I stop looking my paper tolet after I wipe because Ibelieve that I will have this baby no matter what. .Dont blame nothing ..just be strong and everything is going to be fine. I wish you my best... good luck.
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1428239 tn?1333457053
mine came 6 weeks after my d&c but i had the retained product.. it was 4 weeks after i passed that....  i waited 3 cycles to try again and got pregnant during my 3rd month of trying
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415867 tn?1323365503
hi ladies.
i had my d&c at 130 yesterday and was home around 530. It was slow to wake up (i'm a light weight for meds)  I had the sugery at the place I worked so I was able to ask certain people to be in the room, so i was more comfortable. I have an awesome work group that are so supportive, i couldn't ask for better. I had a lot of cramping in recover but after a ton of meds that zonked me out I was good. I've only had a little spotting thus far and i'm 24hrs + out of surgery.  Is that normal or will the bleeding pick up? Also when did you get a next period roughly? did it take a couple weeks , month? ??

i belive that most people say you are suppose to wait 2 cycles to try again but should I listen to that? I ask b/c I had a miscarriage before i had my daughter and we tried the very next cylce and got pregnant and have a beautiful daughter from it. i think people say you are more fertile after a miscariage as well??? thoughts??
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1428239 tn?1333457053
When I had my suction d&c... .I went into OR and was in recovery 15 minutes later....  I had some bleeding but very little pain.. I was prescribed no pain meds....  a week and a half after my d&c,  i started passing clots and got really painful cramps.. I passed this giant clot then in a panic, went to the ER... uterus was empty at that point...  I stopped bleeding the next day... I had some retained product that i passed naturally but overall it was a good experience...
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1537137 tn?1303409873
U do the suction d and c yourself at work least u will know what to expect within the operation and maybe know the people doing it, i was a nervous wreck not knowing what to expect and scared something would go wrong and I've never had an operation and been put to sleep so was frightened i would not wake up but all went well and happy i chose the d and c
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1537137 tn?1303409873
I hope you don't have to stay the night let us know how u got on
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590110 tn?1367506741
I'm so sorry to hear that, I've had 7 m/c and no kids.. I'm currently going through a m/c now.. So I know all the pain your going through. Now about the d&c I decided against it so I'm not sure of the side effects I'm sorry.
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And the bleeding I had was moderate. Nothing heavy. I forgot to mention that.
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I have had 2 D&C's. I had some cramping afterwards but nothing close to a natural mc. It was outpatient and got to go home about an hour after waking up from it. Im sorry this is happening to you. But I wish you the best.
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1537137 tn?1303409873
Ye i had severe pain with a natural miscarriage for over four hours i think will never suffer that way again first and last
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I know mine was a lost better than my first MC I let it happen natual that was really painfull
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