men who would have them

[sophie210809]

me and my boyfriend had said that we wnated another baby and were trying, but now tonight he has changed his mind and wants to wait for a bit longer, he has done this before. now feel really sad because have wanted another baby a few months after i had my first but had to wait as i had c section. now i just want to cry

[tashawhatley]

Omg sophie, how old are you sweetie? You are clearly not ready for another child, the worst thing to do is rush babies. I'm thinking maybe u need some growing up to do not to sound harsh but its true hun=| what makes u think he won't make u abort the next baby if he don't want it? Which is sounding like he's not and i know u don't want that so think hard about it and give him some time then sometime down the line talk about it sweetie...good luck=)

[tashawhatley]

Omg sophie, how old are you sweetie? You are clearly not ready for another child, the worst thing to do is rush babies. I'm thinking maybe u need some growing up to do not to sound harsh but its true hun=| what makes u think he won't make u abort the next baby if he don't want it? Which is sounding like he's not and i know u don't want that so think hard about it and give him some time then sometime down the line talk about it sweetie...good luck=)

[Clysta]

Men aren't the only ones, but there needs to be compromise. For example, I have no desire for more children and my husband is unsure. I refuse flat out to have more though. If you both don't agree, you might have to reevaluate your relationship. I however would NOT try to get pregnant if he doesn't want it, because it makes it more likely for him to walk out the door.

[munter]

Ok then answer this. Why do the men always make the decisions. Has Sophies boyfriend listened to her as to why she wants another baby????? I just think it ***** that we have to always wait for the partner. My husband loves all of our children and wouldn't have it any other way.
And yes for sure ask him why he has changed is mind maybe he does have  perfectly good reason but i does do your head in when they say yes they want to start trying for another one and then change their minds.
Maybe because he is finishing his second job and finally gets to just work the 1 and enjoy his time that could be why he just wants the one for now.

[sophie210809]

we have talked about get married and be both said we would prefer to get all we want and them save to get married so we have the wedding we want and for my son to be older, as i worry alot and would never leave him with any one on the wedding day or if we went on honey moon and would never take im abroad in case he got ill.
we are very grown up for our age,

we did talk about it tried and then changed his mind and said if i was pregnant i would have to get an abortion, and after having a abortion at 17 with my boyfriend i would never do it agin as i got depressed and went mad.

we both have an income and there is no very seriouse money issues

[Kimberleigh2208]

I'm with JoyRenee.  I'm not sure how old you are but it sounds like there is some growing up to do before you have any more children.  Please don't listen to "munter," this is a terrible plan and what if there's a financial reason your boyfriend doesn't want another child?  What if he just wants to enjoy the one you have for awhile or, heaven forbid, get married first?  Please wait, talk to him again in the near future and get some reasons for his wanting to wait.  It will probably make much more sense then.

[sophie210809]

when i found out i was pregnant the first time we had been spilt up for a month and i didnt want the baby and he changed my mind (im glad he did) and we litterly had no money. he was working 2 jobs we had to move house and had alot of dept but stil he wanted him. now we are lot better off, money is a lot better, we have recently move into a 3 bed house got a new car, and he is finishing his second job this year and still he doesnt want one.

(i think he is put off by the idea cause i want a normal birth and i think he thinks i wont be the ame down there if you no what i mean lol)

i feel really sick now - may be i pregnant lol

[JoyRenee]

I don't agree that getting pregnant behind someone's back is honorable or right. I would give him time and broach the subject again in a month or two. He'll come around - he may be stressed about other things which is causing him to want to wait, such as finances. Men respond differently in stressful times. Like I said - just give him time.

[munter]

Just do it anyway he wouldn't even know lol and i bet when you announce that you are pregnant he'll be happy. I think for men there is never a good time to have kids. I have 3 and if my husband had his way we'd probably only have the one as we could never afford to have anymore in his eyes. But we're doing fine.
Also a coupe of months ago he also said hed like to try again as we'd love another daughter but now he has also changed his mind. Who knows maybe we'll have another girl lol.
Good luck.