my daddy or babys daddy

[lizabeff]

More of a rant with needed advice than a question
36 weeks pregnant and with each day my stress levels become higher and higher.
I'm going to have to have a c-section and if thst isnt enough stress to drive me crazy I'm not faced with choosing between my father, and my children's father. My parents and him have a horrible history due to mistakes his made over the years. But now I'm stuck with the decision ofwho to have at the hospital.
I don't want to do this allone. Its not fair regardless of the situation to not have my bbys father there with me. But my father has made it very clear if I have him there that he will not attend, and will quit all support he is giving.
I don't even know where to start to make this situation okay.  
How can they make me choose? How do i choose between the two?

[supermommy90]

I agree with the post up above

[christinah90]

Tell your dad it's not about him it's about the baby it shouldn't matter if you baby's father is there or not your father should be there at the hospital to support you.

[thirdtimemum]

You say you are living in your fathers house? And when you say your boyfriend is 'between jobs' does that mean he is out of work and wanting to live with you and not have to pay rent? Why exactly does your father not like him? Seems to me your dad wants your boyfriend to be taking responsibility and supporting you, and not the other way around.
As for the hospital situation, that is your call and it's going to be a tough one, but I agree with rock rose, if dad is the one financially supporting you, it may have to be him.

[alice_cheshirecat]

You should just talk to yoe
Ur father about how you feel. Tell him that this baby will have both of them it's life and he has to accept that. He's your father so he loves you and should support your decision and be grown up enough to understand that it's not about him it's about the baby.

[lizabeff]

They have helped my a lot with my frist. But things are different now. I work and support us but living in a home my father gave me. With me choosing to have their father there my father has threatened to make me move out. With me going outa work and thir father in between jobs wanting to stay close to.home to help me it puts me in a bind.

[sep19_2]

I think if you want your babys father there with you then he should be. Regardless if u are still with him or not he has the right to see his child born. Unless he doesnt plan on helping u support and raise that baby. You should talk to your dad and let him know its putting stress on you having to choose. And as a parent he should stand by your side no matter your decision. It will be his loss not seeing his grandchild born.

[RockRose]

Well  if you are relying on your father to support you and you can't make it without his support,  looks like he's the one who will be there.

Is your boyfriend at all able to help financially?

[LWB2008]

I kinda say it depends. Are you with the baby's father? If not I don't think he needs to be there until later after the baby is born. If you are with him that makes it way harder. I would talk to your father and ask him to be there in case something happens to you.

[jessicac39]

If your dad has made a decision to not be there is the baby's daddy is that's his fault I think the baby's father has a right to attend his child birth if you are happy enough for him to be there your dad should not be trying to influence your decision like that :/