need advice

[18andexpecting]

So me and this guy have been sleeping together for like 6 months now and we were starting to get serious (talking about getting into a relationship bf/gf) and then he just stopped talking to me the one day and i come to find out he was talking to another girl the whole time. We've talked about kids before because he has a 6 month old daughter that he doesn't see because she lives in another state but he told me he didn't want any more kids yet but we were having unprotected sex the last 2 months of our "RELATIONSHIP" and now i think im pregnant. Im so scared to tell him if i am because he was kinda abusive the last few months we were together and i dnt know weather i should tell him or not. Any advice?

[Nina159]

Wen you takeing the test to fined out and good luck :)

[18andexpecting]

Yes im just really scared of wat he will do...i was thinkin maybe giving him 3 options if i am 1. Be there thru my hole pregnancy and help me with OUR baby 2. Wait until the baby is here do DNA (even tho he is the only guy I've been with for 6 months) and then take care of the child 3. Not have anything to do with me And my child. Like my dream would be foe him to be there and help me And be a father and us work out but in reality its nt gonna work. And no i deff don't want a baby around sum one who is abusive and very disrespectful twds women id rather do it on my own wit support from my family and friends...bc he does drugs n deals drugs so even if he would wanna be around i would make it supervised visits for my child's sake but thanks for the advice (:

[18andexpecting]

Thank you and no im seriously not ready to be a parent im 18 but i laid down and did my business si i gotta grow up and take care of wat i did. Like i don't believe in abortions and i seriously would never be able to put my child up for adoption and yes im just scared of what he gonna do and he was abusive like we would joke around and play fight but then he would get serious the last time i hung out wit him i came home wit bruises on my arms from him "play" hitting me... And i am suppose to get my period July 18 but im just worried and scared

[Carly1306]

Firstly, what you need to do is take a home pregnancy test with first morning urine and that will tell you if you're pregnant. No point worrying about to say or do to him, until you know for certain if you're pregnant or not.

If you are pregnant, you need to tell him. Unfortunately, whether he wants to be with you or not and have anything to do with the baby is up to him and sadly, there's not much you can do on that case. All that being said, if you decide to keep the baby.

If he's been abusive, no matter how much, or for how long then you really shouldn't be with him. Do you want to put up with him being that way for the rest of your life towards you? And your child if it turns out your're pregnant? I wouldn't have thought so.

[lilangel14]

:( sorry to hear that.. but what do u meam with abusive? Now r u sure about being pregnant how late r u?

[LalaLenny]

Before u speak with him do a home test so u will know where to stand. If it's negative just end this "relationship". It looks like u r not the only woman in his life and u deserve more. If the test is positive - just tell him straight. If u will have baby with him concentrate only on baby. I'm sorry but if he doesn't make an effort to see his first child he want be a proper dad to urs. If u are ready to be a mum u r more likely to be a single mum. I would love to say to u that you will be fine as a happy little family but I don't think he is that kind of guy. I wish u all the best and if u need someone to talk to I'm here.