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needing some advice...

My fiance and I are expecting our son in 4 weeks. We don't have our own place just yet because back in August, (about a weeks after I found out I was pg) I got into a wreck. I lost my only car, job, and our place to live. My fiance has had a hard time getting a job for many reasons. My fiances best friends grandmother had an "apartment" in her backyard that we could move into for only 350 a month all bills paid. Sounded like a good deal cause we could move in with him. So we did. Only to fond out it used to be her garage that she tried turning into a one bedroom guest house, but never finished it. So it has a living room, small bathroom, small kitchen, and a sitting room. in the middle of the worst part of town. But it was our best bet for now. Our roommate is a pig. Refuses to clean up after himself. Its been a month since he last bathed. And refuses to do any dishes because that's what he does at work all day. I've been in a boot and on crutches since the accident so getting a job has been very complicated for me. So I clean all the time. All the furniture we have is mine. All the dishes. Everything. My granother pays for ALL of our groceries and whatever else we need. When I got my check from my car being totaled I paid all the rent we owed at the time. I only owe our roommate for this month now. But he still doesn't help out. Before we lived here we lived with a female friend of mine. And my fiances best friend moved in COMPLETELY free with us for god knows how long, until he insulted my friend and she kicked him out. Well my fiance and I decided it would be best if I moved back in with my mom.for a while until we could afford to live better together, because we keep going without food and bring in able to fully clean the house while our roommate sits in his "room" with the new $200 dollar DJ thing he just bought instead of helping with groceries. Well now my fiance is saying that we owe our roommate, that he has done a lot for us and when we move out and into our own place, he should come too....am I wrong for saying no? And why? Cause last I checked I was putting in more than my fair share into this place and then he also stayed with us for free at MY friends house....
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Its my fiances best friend. And yes its the best friends grandmother that owns the property. And that last question is pretty much what I've been asking. We pay for all we have and more but my fiance thinks we owe his friend because we wouldn't be living in the place if it weren't for him. But if it wasn't for me his best friend wouldn't have had a place to live for a good long while, because he moved in with us at my friends house completely free. So I don't see how we owe him either. Frankly I think he owes us.

And I know roommates won't work. That's what I need my fiance to understand but he would feel bad for leaving his vest friend behind "when he's done sooo much" -_-
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I guess what I'm asking is,  what did you leave out?  What relationship does your fiance have to this roommate,  and what debt does your fiance owe him that you haven't mentioned?
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Is the roommate his best friend,  whose grandmother owns the "apartment"?  I'm not understanding what the roommate has done for you -
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You are not wrong. This person does not sound like someone you want living in a house with a baby. Plus, you are starting a family. Room mates are a bad idea for families. It only causes issues.
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Thank you! Merry Christmas to you as well
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Oh yeah and merry Christmas!!!
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Yor not wrong. There are other ways to show appreciation. You and your growing family need a place to call your own! Good luck and you are right to stand up for yourself... Have a baby is stressful enough! I hope your leg heals quickly!
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Thank you. I appreciate it. Merry Christmas to you as well
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No, I completely agree with you. Stand up for yourself and coming baby. He sounds like a real *** and a free loader. You shouldn't have to go through that. I'm sorry you're having a hard time, but things will be better. I hope the best for you. And a Merry Christmas.
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