i have never tried for custody of the 8 year old, but it is something i am now considering. i am going to ask my solicitor to find out what grounds social services have for doing this core assessment and if ( as i already know ) there is no real justification, i am going to pursue the matter legally. the social workers are due at my house on tuesday afternoon and i am going to ask them directly what their justification for this assessment is.
Worriedbabe~ I know how tough the stupidity of CPS can be... and how it's aggrivated because of pp... Except in your case it's a LOT worse then I had it.....
Just reassure the 8 year old that you love him and that this baby won't change that. Have you tried for custody of him also???
Personally, you need to tell CPS, next time they come out to investigate a claim, that there have been many false claims placed against you by your ex's family and by your ex himself. You need to see if there's a way to sue for slander and stress that he's caused you. And, you may have to tell CPS that if they don't leave you alone your getting a lawyer.
I had to do that because they were out at my home every 2 weeks or so for stupid stuff, '(my supervisor wants a note from this doctor)" when they had the option to call that dr. I had to write a letter that my dh and I both signed and dated and told them in it that if they didn't leave me be that I'd call a lawyer due to being HARRASSED!. I haven't gotten calls in 2 months!
They ALWAYS focus on the mother more than the father. I think it's a SERIOUS Flaw with the CPS System. Sure... they're there to pull kids in abusive relationships from the home and help repair the family situation... but what they really do is take the kids, make the situation worse, AND they don't take the ones that need it. They focus on the smaller issues that aren't even there!
I think your ex is despiseable. You sound like a great mama as you said! From now on... everytime he calls you drunk, or you know he's watching your 8 yr old drunk, write it down date and time and situation... you can use it in court against him.
I'm sorry that jack*ss is putting you thru this! you should be focusing on that baby your carrying and Liam.
no u can be pissed... u are talking about ur family.. family is first. but never worry he can never win against u. ur a great mom. u will always have ur kids with u... dont ever doubt for a sec u are any less. u are in control and him and his family cant stand it.. so keep ur head up. and ur eyes open.. i would wish u luck. but u dont need it.. this is already in ur hands.
now i'm really annoyed. my ex has just prompted my 8 year old to call me and ask why the solicitor's letter his dad got mentioned liam ( our son that lives with me ) and not him! he's 8 for god's sake, he should know nothing about solicitor's letters and how can i answer for what my solicitor does? i could hear my ex in the background saying ' it's because she doesn't care about you. she's got a baby now...'. i'm so livid!!!
it is to be honest. i'm 32 weeks pregnant and have already lost my plug so am trying desperately not to go into labour too soon. this kinda thing doesn't help my cause at all.
NO! You are most certainly not wrong for being angry. But you must understand also that it is there job to check up on any accusations for the welfare of the child. They'll see when they do that you're a great mom, and that there's no need for the bs in the end. It must be a royal pain in the a$$ what you're going through, I'm sorry. Maybe one day your ex will give it up, and stop pursing custody. Why must men be such jerks?