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our roommate is effing annoying me.

So, my husband had a roommate when we got married, so we're living with a roommate now. And he is seriously making me furious. He accuses me of being passive aggressive when he is the one who gives me an attitude without telling me what is going on. I wrote a note that asked him to not put my fresh banana bread on top of the fridge because he has a few times and I keep having to move it, and said it was because it will go bad faster if he does. It was exactly like this, "please don't put my banana bread on top of the fridge, it will cause it to go bad." He wrote a note back saying "please do the dishes so there is counter space". Ok, first of all, when has it been solely my job to do the dishes? I told him that I didn't do them because my husband said he would. He told me, "well if you write passive aggressive notes, you're going to get them back." Jerk!

All of this has just been building up too. I had just vacuumed and mopped, and he came prancing into the house with his shoes on after walking around outside on a rainy day. I told him he gets to mop the floor next cuz I had just cleaned them and he was wearing his shoes on my fresh floors. There was already an established agreement between him and my husband that they would not wear shoes in the house because at my husband's previous apartment a few people did and the carpets were destroyed after a few months.

Also, a few weeks ago I let him eat like half of our wedding cake. He informed me a few days ago it was moldy and didn't throw it out. He just expected us to, even though I hasn't eaten any due to morning sickness and my husband wasn't interested. Then today,I asked him if I could just have a tiny bit of his ice cream (my blood sugar was really low and that was about the only thing I could think to stomach). He said no, and I reminded him that I let him eat most of our cake. He replied with, "well, you weren't eating it anyway." OMG! I'm so freaking upset!
Despite feeling sick, I've still been trying to keep the apartment clean. And what does he do? He sits in the same room I'm cleaning, eating food and playing on his phone! RUDE! I'm normally a patient person, but this guy is getting such a jerk, I'm ready to just scream at him. I hardly ever raise my voice! Good golly gosh, am I upset!
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The contract ends a few months before the baby is due, but still. I can't believed he turned into such a dbag. My husband is really upset too and is trying to find somewhere else for us to live. Apparently his roommate was talking bad about him behind his back at work when he wasn't there (they work at the same place). He is also refusing to replace things of mine that his dog destroyed over a month ago that he said he'd replace. I'm trying to get my husband to take it out of our portion of rent so he'll end up paying for it either way. But I'm leaving that up to him. He's trying to keep me at a distance from the issue right now, since he knows it's really stressing me out. But I really want to punch the dude in the face. He's acting like a freaking pmsing, whining, teenage girl.
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If he wasn't rude before and now he is. He may be jealous as funny as that sounds. Best friends get like that,  especially over significant others. That is why me and my best friend don't talk anymore, because I got pregnant and got married to my husband and she HATED me for it. As far as kicking him out, he was there first. That isn't really your decision to make. Idk when you're due, but just being patient if you can't move out of the apartment may be your option. But if you can move that's definitely ideal. AND your husband needs to defend you against the roomate. Unacceptable
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He wasnt like this before u got pregnant sounds to me that hes doing this because he knows soon u and ur husband will be asking him to leave when the baby arrives which is completely understandable he needs to go especially with that attitude preparing for a baby takes alot of work and energy and his attitude and disrespectfulness is uncalled for
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I do have a job, but he is on the lease until February, so we can't really make him leave. :/ they were roommates for quite a while before we eloped last month. The thing is, I've pretty much been living here since they moved in together, and he's never been this mean before. So I have no idea why all of a sudden he decided to be such a jerk. My husband is trying his best under the circumstances, but the roommate is being very defensive and unreasonable.
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Sounds like maybe you don't have a job? Get one. I know you're going to say you're pregnant etc and you can't but trust me, you can. If you get a job then I don't see why roommate would have to live there anymore.
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You and your husband should keep a close eye on him because his actions towards you are in away very inappropriate. And like BSny20 said its odd he's staying around knowing your pregnant and married. Another thing that's kinda disrespectful of your husband to even allow another man to live over his wife and unborn child.
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Where** not were.
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For oneeee, you and your husband are now married. There shouldn't be a roommate. Being married is were your life really starts. Your husband needs to tell him bye bye. For two, he is a dbag! Has your husband said anything to him?? Ugh. He makes me mad and I don't even know him. For three, you guys are married and expecting a baby, what kind of man would stay knowing all of that?!?  Just odd to me.
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Yeah, we're looking for a new place. But I just moved and really don't want to move again. And he's being such a jerk, I doubt he'll leave.
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Have you talked to your husband about this things.  Bcuz he would have to go,  I couldn't live with him
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