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hello i had an abortion bout two weeks ago, now boyfriend want are bby back nd is trying to get me pregnant again! but i bleed the first week then the second week i was completly fine nd him and i had unprotected sex nd he nutted in me an a hour later like a clot of blood came out does that mean i won't get pregnant?
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1527510_tn?1392304944
Do you want another baby? It's very immature and fickle of him to want a baby when you've literally JUST aborted one.

You're meant to wait at least 2 weeks after having a abortion to have sex again - even if you've not bled it doesn't mean that there's nothing in there to come out. If I were you, I would look at your relationship and see if having a baby together is the best thing for you both and why he wants another one so close in time after aborting one.
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your uterus has just been disturbed in the worst way possible, you shouldn't have sex yet, or get pregnant, wait a while...besides its your decision to get pregnant, not your bf's, if you broke up before the abortion and he came back when done, that gives you something to think about,think, are you ready for a baby?  do you want one?
God Bless <3
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while i dont have any children now! i wouldn't mind having one. around the time i got the abortion i did it for the wrong reason i had my mother n my head, yeah i wanted to keep it, i feel really awful of my self for listing to my mother. thank you for answering. :)
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hello, him and i were together nd still are. i just didn't know if that could hurt me in any kinda way if i we'er to be pregnant right after geting the abortion.
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1959722_tn?1338781715
You know I am not trying to sound judgmental or harsh so I am sorry if this offends but you just had an abortion and now this boy has decided he wants a baby that's a decision he could've made while there was already a child inside you. I would seriously consider having a child with a man who let you have an abortiion and then later said wait I changed my mind let's have a baby. And until you both mature a bit mentally and emotionally I would seriously suggest using some protection. Good luck!
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Wow I couldn’t actually believe this when I read it. I sincerely hope you reconsider until both of grow up and appreciate the gift of life a little more. I’m sorry to be harsh but at the end of the day there are a lot of women out there who can’t have babies or take years to concieve (conceive). I myself struggled for nearly 2 years to get pregnant but am thankfully nearly 12 weeks pregnant now. I can’t believe you think its ok to abort one baby and start trying for another less than 2 weeks later before your body has even had a chance to get over the shock of abortion. You say your mother was in your head when you had the abortion but you were the only person who could have made the decision to have the abortion and you made that decision, not your mother. I’m sure your mother won’t be happy either if you are pregnant again a month later?
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I strongly agree with sarah I'm 18 and 26 weeks pregnant my baby was planned but for the right reasons not because my "bf" wanted a baby I think y'all need to grow up nd think long and hard about what you JUST did and sorry but it was a heartless thing to do on both your part and bfs my step mom is still young and wants a baby so bad but she can't have anymore so I take abortion to heart people wants babys there is other choices that baby was a precious miracle still is but he/she didn't even have the chance to have a life </3 I'm sorry it might seem harsh but its the truth I hope you think everything through and on another note abortions can go wrong and you having sex right after could damage your insides so be careful you could become infertile if god forrbid something happens
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Um wow you and your bf definitely need to grow up before deciding on having a baby. you obviously don't know how many women can't have children but desperately want them. i myself lost my son last year so to hear that you just aborted a child and are now considering having one makes me sick. I hope you mature soon and your bf too. sorry if that sounded harsh but it's the truth.
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This poster is most likely trying to get you ladies all worked up.  
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1936698_tn?1333918793
In a way I want to say this is someone just trying to start a debate, but then again we are all friendly here and we shouldn't judge anyone. The abortion was her decision, even though she said her mother was in her head, she chose to do it. I personally think that your BF might just be wanting a baby out of guilt from the recent abortion. Give yourselves some time to think it all the way through. Make a pro and con list of things that having will baby will affect. It would be tragic if you did get pregnant only to find out a few weeks later that you both decide you don't one again. Really think it through. Are you financially stable, what about living situation, baby sitters, do you both work, do you none of you work, who would be raising the baby. There is so much to consider before having a baby. I still think your bf might only be saying he wants one because of the guilt from the abortion. Please please think it through.
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Smh....
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For that! What has been done has been done. All I would say is like others give your body time to recover and really think if right now its the right decision for you as saying you want a baby doesn't mean your ready.
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583196_tn?1341160404
the loss of that clot is just your body cleaning itself out. it has probably been there for a little bit. having sex probably agitated things and so you passed the clot. his semen will still be doing its job, if your body ovulated this cycle then you may have a chance of being pregnant this month. however, bodies generally need more time to recover from that sort of invasive surgery and your hormones are probably a little mixed up still to put you into ovulation yet. its not impossible though.
i would also say make sure you want this baby too. you said he wants the baby now, you didn't say you want it too. it would be very sad if baby was born and you felt no connection to it.
best of luck conceiving and dealing with your mom.
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Avatar_f_tn
Please do not procreate.
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