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pregnant with paternity dilemma, please help!!

its a very long story but i will try to keep the details short. i had unprotected sex with man A in the early hours of december 10th 2010, we were pretty drunk, he didnt ejaculate and we used lubricant, i am aware of pre ejaculation but since we were drinking quite a lot he was also urinating quite a lot. later that evening (still december 10th) i got my period which was fairly heavy and lasted for 5 days. i then began a relationship with man B and had unprotected sex with him almost every day from the 17th december to the 24th of which every time he ejaculated inside me (we didnt have sex again until the 3rd january 2011 as we visitied family for christmas). i visited the hospital on the 6th january and had a positive pregnancy test. i didnt have any symptoms priory to finding out i was pregnant, i was simply going to the hospital for a sexual health check up. i had my 12 week scan on march 1st which dated me at 12 weeks 1 day. i had my 20 week scan on april 28th which dated me at 20 weeks 4 days. both of these scans have put the first day of my last period as the 6th of december 2011 (even though i know for certain it was the 10th december) , making conception around 2 weeks later giving the date 20th december. i also took two clear blue digital tests, one on the 8th january which dated conception at 2-3 weeks ago making it anywhere between the 18th and the 25th december. i then took another clearblue digital test 2 days later on the 10th january which dated conception at 3+ weeks ago making it 20th december. depending on the accuracy of the clearblue tests, that basically gives me a 2 day window between the 18th and the 20th december for conception to have occured. also to mention that my periods can sometimes be irregular, they have evened out over the years but not to the point where i can accurately pinpoint when they are due etc. i was originally given the due date for my baby to arrive as the 17th september 2011 based on my last period but this date was soon changed to the 12th september 2011 based on my scans and has remained that date throughout my pregnancy. i spoke to the doctor regarding my concerns and she said that with all factors considered she is 99.9% sure that man B is the father of my baby. upon discovering i was pregnant i told man B (my partner at the time) everything that had happened and was completely honest with him. we both believed that the baby is his and he said he would stand by me and support me. i am now 38 weeks and and 2 days, my partner walked out on me a few weeks ago, it was a complete shock and totaly unexpected. he has said his reason for leaving is that he is doubting if the child is his or not. i know that a paternity test (which is what he intends to do after the birth) is the only sure fire way to know for certain but based on all the factors, who do you think is the father of my baby......? it has eaten me alive since he left and id like to have some other opinions in hopes that i can lay it to rest and be able to concentrate soley on my poor little boy who is due in less than two weeks. please help me id be greatful for any advice or opinions .
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1640871 tn?1321673746
I think its man B too... good luck.
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175665 tn?1306459024
I would say it's most likely man B that fathered your baby, especially since you had your period right after you had intercourse with the first man and your scan dates basically correspond with the 2nd.
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