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rant!:@
So I thought once my baby was born my boyfriend would be really helpful I know there's not alot he can do seen as im breastfeeding but he could at least rock her to sleep or change some nappies. I tell him how tired I am and how I need him to help once in a while but he doesnt hes too busy walking the dogs with his friends for 8 and 9 hours at a time. He goes to work in a morning but back for 2 in the afternoon so has plenty of tine to help and has all weekend off. Je just thinks its easy bearing in mind breastfeeding is hardwork in its self. Ive bought a pump so he can help with feeds but havent used it yet because everyone thinks tharonce I express I will let them take my child for a few hours and im not ready to leave her yet not for a few months so refuse to pump. Its so hard how can I get my boyfriend to help? Or is anyone in a simerlar situation?
My bf was like that too, until I had a break down and cried lol go ahead and pump who cares if they think they're gonna take your baby. If you don't want them to then tell them no. But you need to talk to your bf. you didn't make this child alone do you shouldn't have to take care of her alone.
Talk to him my bf doesn't help a lot but its cuz he is scared cuz she still little he does feed her n burp her n hold her I don't let him change her diaper because men don't know how to clean that area that good even if u show just try talking to him
I would slap my boyfriend if he treated me like that it is his baby too and he needs to help and girrrl walking the dog for 9 hours? You may wanna look into that. That ain't normal!
I had the same problem with my boyfriend after we had our first. I flipped out on him like a total crazy person. Lol. Were on our 4th now and hes a totally different person we work opposite shifts so hes home with the kids all day, he baths them in the morning I do it at night, he puts them down for naps I put them to bed we do everything 50/50 pretty much. Try getting a schedule worked out where he understands what you expect of him. It might help. :)
If you find something that works let me know. My husband is the same with our 19 month old plus ill have a newborn here soon. He wont even rock our daughter to sleep when it hurts to rock her because she lays on my stomach.
Sometimes, id set everything up, outfit, couple diapers, wipes n things baby will need n walk away tell him your about to lose it n need a walk. Assure him he will be fine n then just trust him
And making him look after her whilst I relax just so he can appreciate how hard it actually is to look after a new born
Ive shown him how to change nappies many times lol hes changed 2 on his own and shes nearly 3 weeks old he never wants to help but then gets the munk on when im too tired to go anywhere or fo anything arghh he gets me so mad I feel like expressing enough milk gorr 24 hours
Most men are scared and have a stupid way of showing it, maybe talk to him heart to heart and see how he feels and ask if hes scared etc... And maybe do a nappy change together and even if he gets it wrong make sure let him know how happy u r that he tried, argg men lol trust me i know its not easy and its like why do we have to do all this **** as they dont but some men are complicated so give it a try, no harm in trying, good luck x
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