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6838565 tn?1402381858

sad :(

I got married on the 8-4-12 and we are having our first baby .. and every time I mention the next baby my husband is so negative .. he says he does not want any more kids after this one.. and when I try to talk to him about it he says hes not changing his mind maybe in a few years like 8 years but as of right now no. It makes me sad because we always planed on a big family both of us wanted 3-4 kids .
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6838565 tn?1402381858
Its so good to hear this from all of you .. it gives me hope
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Thats what my husband said too in 2009 we had twins he said nope no more in 2012 i found out i was pregnant had her in 2012 he was sooo happy and about a month ago feb 20th 2014 i asked what he would say if i was pregnant he was like no we have enough im not handling another dont even think about it... well i had a feeling i already was just kept it to myself till i made sure of it and after 5 days i told him he yelled of enjoyment lol funny how they say one thing and later feel another
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6642814 tn?1399431158
aww im sorry girl. give him time his mind will change! thats how my husband is. we are on baby boy #3! ive had to give him time with the last two boys. we really want a girl so im waiting for a lil while.
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6642814 tn?1399431158
aww im sorry girl. give him time his mind will change! thats how my husband is. we are on baby boy #3! ive had to give him time with the last two boys. we really want a girl so im waiting for a lil while.
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He more then likely is just being sarcastic my fiance tells me he is getting fixed and.then.the next day he tells me he isnt because he knows how bad i want a girl so he has been telling me that after this pregnancy im getting on birth control and then once our boys are both un school we will tey for our girl
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We just had our twin boys 11 days ago and before their arrival me and my husband  agreed two was enough and now he talking about trying for a girl! Give it time♥
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6838565 tn?1402381858
Literly my husband has said he wants to get an operation to not have kids. And for the most part man never want to get it . But I try to think hes just being sarcastic
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6628393 tn?1398789276
My husband his whole life only wanted one kid. I have always wanted 3. Then after our first I always got that we arent having anymore. Then it changed to a maybe. Well we had a surprise because i was on BC and now 28 weeks today with #2. He wants me to make it where I cant have anymore and I pretty much told him the only way thats happening if he goes in and gets snipped.
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6838565 tn?1402381858
I hope hes just scared of being a father for the first time and once baby is here he will get over it. But it does hurt a little I've mentioned it a few times and he shuts me out. Last time I asked him where we would safe all the babys stuff for the next one and he sayed we aren't having another one or at list not me.
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Yea just give it some time.  My husband and I always talked about 2 kids.  We are on the first right now and when I try to talk about the second he always says let's just focus on this one and to stop thinking so far ahead.  I think it's just allot for some guys to think about until the first is here and they realize it's not that hard.  Think about all the people that have been telling him his life is over blah blah blah, I know my husband has been hearing it at work so that's probably not been soothing his mind.
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7381903 tn?1391464888
I'm the one who had to tell my husband no more for now lol.  He wants 3-4 I just want 1, but idk I think I may go for more. But don't be sad maybe he'll change after seeing tht first precious one born.
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Im sorry he may.change his mind once yoy have the baby my fiance said the same thing and now that our 2nd son will be here tomorrow he is already talking about how ling we are waiting to have our next baby his 4th my 3rd... just try to stay.positive because once he sees how lonely it is for iur baby to be an only child he will want to have more
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7764088 tn?1423168555
Men tend to always say that ... wait til ypur baby turns 1 or 2 nd you bring it up he prob. Would vhange his mind who knows.
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