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someone please help! so scared!

hey ladies...i know some of you have read my last post and yes i am still worried...but for those of you who didnt read it let me start from the beginging,,,

  I am engaged to the love of my life and i do mean the love of my life i cant picture my life without him he completes me in everyway..well i had a normal period oct 18th lasted 7 days normal..well in Nov. i made the biggest mistake of my life i slept with my ex...(i regret it more then anything else in the world)..well anyway to continue we had actual sex with a condom but before we started having sex he put it in a few times as it was getting hard then took it out and put a condom on..all this happened in the middle of the night on Nov 7th so i guess techically it was Nov 8th? i guess...well anyway on Nov 17th i had to go to the er they thought i had the darn swine flu but really i was just sick..the nurse asked me if i had gotten my period and i otld her im suppose to start it tomorrow so she did a urine pregnancy test and sent me for some x rays of my throat and when she came back she told me i wasnt pregnant...thank god it thought to myself..well then my period or whatever i should call it..i started bleeeding the exact day i would nromally start my period (Nov 18th) it wasnt exactly normal i mean i was bleeding but it wasnt real heavy heavy like normally and instead of the normal 7 days it only lasted 5...then on the 5th day when i got off of it (Nov 23rd)me and my fiance had sex for the first time ever i know for a fact cause it was the night we got engaged but it may have beent he middle of the night so maybe th 24th technically...we had it everyday basically after that..then on Nov 28th..i started getting stabbing pains really really bad pains and i was bleeding like this pinkish stuff well my fiance ended up rushing me to the er..the lady in the front thought i was pregnant because of my symptoms...but then we went into the back and i seen the doctor he did a internal pelvic exam with the swiping and stuff..and they also did a urine pregnancy test and also i think a blood pregnancy test..they came into the room and told me that i wasnt pregnant...then they sent me into the back for a ultra soudn to see i guess what was going on..when i got my results back they told me i had one cyst on my ovary and that one cyst had ruptured and that was what was cause the pain and bleeding so they but me on like ib profin i guess for the pain and sent me home..Then on Jan 29th i was rushed to the er by my fiance again of course lol...they did a ultra soudn that put me at 9.4(according to the ultra sound) and 10.2 (according to my supp lmp) which idk even know if that was really my priod or not...then when i went to my doctor my doctor desided to wirte it down as i was 9.0 that day and not 9.4 liek my hospital ultra sound said...then he sent me for another ultra sound march 24 where from my first ultra sound i was suppose to be like 17. something weeks but the baby was showing only 16.something weeks
9she also tried to tell me i was having a lil girl but i know thats to early to tell...then on april 2nd i went for another ultra sound and the lady said that the baby had caught up and i am 18.something weeks like im suppose to be from the 9.0 my doctor claimed i was..
so im scared to death...someone please help me.
why would my doctor say i was 9.0 when my ultra sound was saying 9.4??
can a cyst rupturing cause two pregnancy test in one day both urine and blood to come back with a false neg?
would pregnancy show up on a blood or urine test 22 days after intercourse?
could my cyst of caused my period or whatever that was to be liek that?


i am so scared that there is a chance this might god forbid be my ex's baby and not my fiances..someone please help me...what do ya ll think..

i am so scared to lose him...
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To do the math that I did to tell you what weeks you would be, I googled "due date calculator by conception date", there you can put in the dates that you may have gotten pregnant on, and it will tell you when you are due, then there are some that will tell you how many weeks you are now.
There's also one here on medhelp that I think goes by conception date OR lmp.  Either way, you should be able to see which it is.  One day difference on the ultrasound can make the due date off by up to 4 days, for some reason.  They told me my baby was measuring a day ahead of our estimated age and that it would put me at Dec 1st.
Best of luck with everything!  I hope you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy.  I'm sure it's your fiances.
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yes that would include the 2 weeks
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ok so i went to the doctors today and they measured my stomach and told me that i was about 30 weeks well 29 and some days..is that with the two weeks added or what?
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also another thing that i remembered they always had it in their ultra sound machines that my last lmp was Nov 18th...and when i would asked them if the date they gave me like the 9.4 on jan 29th the 16.something march 24th and the 18.4 on april 2nd was gestional age or fetal age they would always tell me that my due date was worked into it and that it was gestational..does that mean the two weeks was really added into it? i sure hope so  because if so that means they added on two weeks already and that would eb a huge difference..

also the girl that gave me the ultra sound on march 24th said that i had gotten pregnant somehwere between nov 27th and dec 4th...and that ultra sound was a week behind the other two..
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This is the hardest thing i ever had to do..that was the biggest mistake i have ever made..when he found out i cheated on him him it destroyed him he  still has anger over it like severe anger he even went to the guys job the other day...

i go to my new doctors at 10 45 im going to talk a little bit with them and i guess see what they think..i think they said today they are going to schedule me for a ultra sound im really far along so i know the dates are going to be really off..but maybe they can help me some how? idk just wishful thinking i guess...

if the doctors went by what i thought was my last period there would be a 5 weeks difference from the day of my lmp to the date the ultra sound gave me..

but they are going from the bleeding i ahd in Noc. which i really dont eevn know if it was a actually period and that puts me at a 5 day difference from that bleeding day to the datye the ultrasound gave me and 9 day difference from the bleeding date and the date my doctor gave me....
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Ultrasounds are the most accurate the first 13 weeks of a pregnancy since after that point ALL babies develop at their own rate. My daughter measured right on with dates until after the 13th week and now sometimes she's a week ahead, a week behind or just on schedule. Based on your dating it doesn't sound like it would be your ex's but unfortunently you never really know. The only way to be "sure" is to get a paternity test once the baby is born. Also, if you are really worried it is your ex's it would probably be a good thing to tell your fiance what is going on since 1) he deserves to know if the baby is possibly not his and 2) he loves you and people have gotten through WAY harder situations. Really not a good idea to start a marriage off with half truths since those things ALWAYS have a way of getting out.
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ans they said i was 18.4 weeks April 2nd
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i dotn know where everyone keeps getting that i would be 33 weeks from nov 8th and 29 weeks from nov 23rd??? those dates are the ones that are scaring me


PLEASE HELPPPPPPP!!!!!!!
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i sure hope son because i am scared to death!
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Yes, the doctor's date and the ultrasound date are usually different because babies grow at different rates and doctors can't know the exact date of conception.  
According to the math I did, based on you being 18 weeks on April 2nd, you would be 29 weeks now and your fiance is the dad. Even if you were 5 days behind that, your fiance would definetly be the dad.
There are a lot of reasons babies are small on ultrasounds, it doesn't sound like anything to worry about.  If you were pregnant by the ex, you'd be 33 weeks, basically a month ahead, not days ahead, and due in July.  Try not to worry too much, it sounds pretty much like you're pregnant by your fiance.
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you will always find your doctors are off by a few days as they class the day of conception from the date of your last period when really it was at least 14 days after the first day of AF, this gives them 2 weeks to play with so your baby has more time to grow and will be fully developed when you go into labour, stop stressing and enjoy your pregnancy, i really think your fiance is the dad you'll find out soon enough just look for his features when the baby grows up
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no the condom didnt split or anything..its just that preejaqulation stuf that has me worried because i dont know if he didnt that or not...and i was supp to be in my 17th week on march 24th and soemthwere in my 18th week on april 2nd accoring to my first ultra and basically i was except when i was on my 17th week the baby was growign a week behind butt hen caught up and was right on target supp on my 18th week synogram..it all would make sense if i knew why my hospital put down 9.4 weeks and my doctor wrote down 9.0 weeks its four days off...those two conception dates and its 5 days off from my lmp date...
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505857 tn?1329681517
Your dates are majorly out of whack this is a hard one to predict because of the mess the hospital keep making of your dates.  I in honesty think your fiance is the father only because yeah your ex was gettin hard before he put the condom on but you used one and you haven't stated whether it split or not.  If you had sex on the 23rd Nov you would be between 17 and 18 weeks around 29th March if the baby was your partners, i think your stressing to much but i really think the baby is your partners.  Otherwise the only way to find out is a DNA test.  Good luck
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which means i would be liek 29 weeks on friday..i also am o neg and the anti bodies were already tryign to kill the baby so could that be another reason why my baby was a week behind on my 2nd ultra sound march 24th?
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yeah thats a bit confusing though...according to my lmp..my edd would be aug 25th..according the the 9.4 ultra sound the hospital gave me it would be aug 31st..and according to my doctor my Edd is Sept.3rd...i go back tomorrow but i moved so now its confusing they are just going to give me another ultra sound...
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If you were 18 weeks on April 2nd, you would be 29 weeks now.  That means you conceived the baby around Dec. 2nd.  If you were to go by the date that you had sex with the ex, you would be 33 weeks now.
Have you seen a doctor at all since April 2nd?  Do you know your due date or how far along you are now?  That would all be helpful to know.
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ok..so i know that now lol...but i am so scared it might god forbid be my ex's since i had that cyst rupture it could have gave false negs? and idk if that was my real period..ugh i am so scared
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yes pregnancy would show up on both blood and urine 22 days after sex/ovulation
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