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stupid boyfriend vent!!!!

So today started off fine...then out of nowhere it turned bad. I swear my boyfriend is f-ing stupid. He bought me a new phone today, awesome. My other one was broken and there was no way for anyone to contact me/or me to contact them.  Im thankful for that. And I didnt want anything for valentines day, I dont care im not needy or anything. But all day he throws these stupid fits over something like cleaning the house, a sock on the floor, a dish in the sink etc. He threatens to slap me in the face, hes constantly belittling me. Im sick of the verbal and emotional abuse. We got in an argument earlier because I didnt know what I wanted for dinner, I gave plenty of suggestions but he didnt like any of them, he wanted steak. Fine cook yourself a steak and ill make myself something my stomach wont throw up (meat makes me naseaus now). We went in the store and he makes it clear to everyone there that hes pissed off. Hes storming around glaring at me because im trying to figure out what to eat. Well after dinner things cooled down, we're sitting on the couch...im watching him play his stupid video games just like every night, and I saw someone mention ice cream on the forum so I got up to get a bowl of ice cream cuz it sounded so good. Its been a good 2 hours since dinner, and he starts his ranting "we just ate! Youre really going to eat ice cream!?" Um yeah I am. "Youre going to make our baby fat! " ugggg!!! I swear im going to sew that hole in his face shut just to go a day without a stupid argument. Im 19 weeks and have barely gained 3 pounds. Im on my feet all day at work, I exercise when i can, I try to eat healthy, I think I can enjoy a stupid bowl of reeces icecream!!!!!!  Sorry for such a long rant but I feel like all I do is listen to him scream at me for crap thats not even worth screaming about.
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4270856_tn?1355802354
He honestly sounds like a douche bag and you deserve better. Way better. Talk to him about his little boy attitude. Your a grown woman you can eat a bowl of ice cream if you want! I'm sorry your going through this :(
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Tell him he needs to grow up hes becoming a daddy, you can eat when and what you like as longas its not harming baby !! You nust look afyer ur self to :) im 19+3 do you know what ur having when your due date xx
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Wow, all of those are really stupid and Immature things to be gettin' mad and yelled at about, I'm sorry you have to go through that, he really needs to grow up! Your pregnant and he needs to step up with helping and less b*tching! I'd defiantly put him In his place! And about the food and Ice cream thing.... your pregnant... you will have cravings... plus, you need to Intake double the amount of calories of a non-pregnant lady for your nutritional needs as well as the baby or the baby will leech off of you and your not gettin' anythin', so he needs to get over that! There's no such thing as a ' fat ' baby as they need a lot of food! Sorry you have to deal with this, tell him how It should be and to get over It. I hope everythin' gets better for ya hun.
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I would definitely tell him he needs to grow up and if he don't leave. He will eventually start treating your baby like that if he don't change. I'm sorry your in this situation and I hope it gets better for you
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Know the feeling too well. I'm only 5 weeks and my boyfriend has a hellish attitude. I'm giving his butt the cold shoulder until.he stops with the crap.  Getting reeeaaalll sick of it.
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What a mean pig!! You deserve all the ice cream you want girl!! Maybe it's his time of the month? :-P
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My man used to do the same things, until he realized I was packing and about to leave his ***. We had a few heart to heart convos and eventually worked it out. Honestly if u ever want anything in your relationship to change you have to communicate openly with each other.. if he's not interested in talking about or changing his abusive ways leave him simple as that. He doesnt deserve you. And you can't fix stupid. Lol.
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Wow grl am so sorry he's treating du tht way. U are a beautiful young women and dnt deserve tht..am 18 weeks bout to be 19 weeks this Tuesday. Am hear to talk to if u need someone to talk to.
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My due date us july 11th...and ill find out the 28th what im having. So anxious!!!! But we have a lot of "heart to hearts" and he talks about how he will change and alk that crap...but I havent seen a change. Im not scared of being a single mom...I have a lot of supportuve family who will help me if I get put in that situation. He holds himself so high and im like "youre not that special douche face". He says crap like "women shouldnt talk unless spoken to". So you can only imagine how our arguments are. He talks over me interrupts me, but god forbid if I squeeze one word in.
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"Women shouldnt talk unless spoken to"?! The **** time era does he think hes in???? Id ditch his *** just FOR a comment like that! How old is this ******* anyway? My hubby is 41 and though he was taught that way by his parents he has NEVER talked to me like that. Sure we have our nasty arguements... but he never tells me where my "place" is even though he is the main support of our growing family.
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What is his deal lol and I eat so many things that are sweet I swear to god my baby is going to be a twinkie or something lol I thought us pregger women are to be extra emotional not the baby daddy lol just tell him he is acting like a female and everything will be ok he will be alive still in the nextxt 5 mins
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Hes 22. Very disrespectful when we argue. He says that he says that **** to just **** me off but hes not really helping his case here. I dont put up with the nasty comments either. Im the kind of person who will call you out if youre being a ****. It makes iur arguments worse, but I try my hardest to let him know where he stands with me. I swear im not putting up with this crap when the baby gets here...ill leave the minute he says one wrong thing.
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I'm just going to say what my hubby tells me.  What if by some chance you have a girl and she grows up thinking that the way her father speaks to you is acceptable?  

Just a thought.  Or even reverse it I guess.  Do you want your son growing up thinking it's alright to talk to women like that?  

I really hope you know that you're amazing.  As a woman and a soon to be mother.  And don't ever let someone take that from you.  Period.  They just aren't worth it.
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Ya I mean that is really unacceptable I mean I think he is just being a vagina and needs to get over his rag thats what I would tell my husband if he was throwing a fit but if it was consistent attitude like he is giving you then maybe you should reevaluate your situation and nicole brings up a good point of children and their perception
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how do i say this with out sounding mean???? ur the titiri .... why do u put ur self in that situation? i am a very firm believer of u are were u want to b if he treats u like **** its bcause u let him. if u dont like it no one is holding a gun to ur head making u stay there. snap out of it if he treats u like **** while ur pregnant poor girl i can imagine what hes like when ur not. . . . i think u need to grow n realize all u need is u n ur baby
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You can message me anytime I can imagine how ****** this can make you feel because I had a bf like that before. I'd would just be straight up and tell him next time I'm out man. Your a beautiful woman! Any man would be lucky to have you!
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Sounds to me like he's trying to control you. Id walk away now while you have your self esteem still. He sounds like a waste if space who doesnt surely care for you if he wont allow you to "speak until spoken too" your a woman with rights and should be able to have a man who supports you. If he's like this now, im worried how he will be when hes tired, and annoyed from a child waking him all night. Think about yourself.
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Hey kenzie, when i was young i saw my mom go through an abusive relationship. Is this the guy u wud want ur kid around. He isn't good for your self esteem. The fact that he threated to slap you makes me sick to my stomach. How can he be saying such things to a woman that is carrying his baby? That guy isn't normal at all. At this time ur suppose to be in a good mental state. How is it going to affect ur growing baby? Honestly speakinh if i was in ur situation. I wud just pack my stuff nd leave at once. Until he realises that he needs to treat you with respect. Nd u should eat as much as u want. U r eating 4 two. Expecially with morning sickness its hard eating anything in the first place.
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Thank you to all of you for your support and advice!   It really makes feel a thousand times better knowing that im not the problem here, lol
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4476664_tn?1361636549
If it were me....I would leave WAY before baby is born if he doesn't shape up. Not fair to you or baby. He clearly has issues.
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First off I want to say I LIVED your situation for almost TWELVE LONG YEARS.  I was punched hit slapped choked, etc.  Bcuz I've got kids dcf was involved more then once, you don't want that worry alone!!!  It was against him not me obviously.  But bcuz he was abusing me while my kids watched. So be careful...  My boys are now almost 18 and 15 and my boys have alot of pain from watching what he did to me.  One memory that haunts me 8 years later still wS being choked in front of them while they cried for me.  he part that hurt me most was them SEEING THAT.  crying for their mommy.  U DONT want that trust me it kills me. I know everyone said the same to me get out orvwhu didn't you....  Easier for someone not in the situation to say it's hard to get away.  I feared he'd steal my girls that Are his,  the boys aren't,  that he'd run away with them he never did...  I've been out if living that for almost five years and it's the BIGGEST relieve for MY KIDS AND ME.  Kids are in counseling it causes alot with kids.  Protect yourself baby if you can getvout do it asap.  I know it's hard but you CAN DO IT.. IF U EVER want to talk pl msg me here ANY TIME...  what I've said is only the tip of the ice burge..  Good luck keep in touch any of u
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He sounds like a woman! He should be doing that for you since he wants it cleaned so bad and since your risking Your life for your guys' child! Tell him to F off!!!
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