two weeks after miscarriage

[Jame0223]

I'm still pondering on whether to get pregnant again after miscarrying two weeks ago. I know my boyfriend says that he wants me on birth control as soon as my period comes back and I do agree with him, but then again...what if I get pregnant right before I go back on without knowing. If I get pregnant, have implantation bleeding, think its my period, and start birth control what will happen? Is it really easier to get pregnant right after a miscarriage?

My mom was talking to me earlier and she said that deep down in her heart she feels like I want to get pregnant...which is true, but I'm not trying to get pregnant. She says she told my dad to not be surprised if in a couple months I tell them I'm pregnant, and then she tells me that he won't be very happy with me the second time around because the first was a mistake, but the second wouldn't be. That makes me feel bad, but Its my choice ultimately. Not his.

Also I just went this morning and had more bloodwork done to make sure my hormone levels are going down after the miscarriage. Last tuesday I went to the dr and he gave me the go ahead to resume normal actvities. He said that my last level, which would have been the first test (5 days after the m/c), was 168. Do you think I'd be at zero by now? If I had gotten pregnant this past week, would my levels have risen? or stopped dropping? Would it even show up on the bloodwork I had done this morning?

[tarajanes]

I mc 3 weeks ago,im still showing hormones as tiffany said can take a while.if you take a pregnancy test you would probably see a faint line i have,thought was new pregnancy but still hormones...if your mc was only 2 weeks ago you may or may not of just started ov again.think chances of you being pregnant now are very slim..and your right babies are hard work and you are still young,you will know when the time is right.

[Jame0223]

I'm not trying to get pregnant. Ive decided that it is too much work for me at the moment and I'm not really ready for one yet. If I do get pregnant, then of course ill take responsibilty and keep it, but I'm not trying for it. I've been hanging around my friend thats younger then me but has a 6 month old and I love her baby so I enjoy helping her when I'm around. But I realize it is sooo much work and I don't think I'd be able to handle it right now. But who knows, I may already be pregnant. Me and my boyfriend dont use protection, but I was always on birth control and as soon as my period comes back I'm going to get back on it. Thanks everyone for your input. I know it takes a few weeks for the levels to go down...but I was just wondering about if I were pregnant now, would it show on a blood test after like...2 or 3 days? I dont know, but thanks guys!

[tandria03]

I agree with Tiffany that often when you miscarry, you have deep feelings to somehow replace the baby that is lost.  If your boyfriend is not game for a pregnancy and your parents (who would probably have some part in helping you care for the baby ) don't feel its a good time for you to be pregnant, I would consider waiting.  You will be ready for a baby someday and when it is the right time, you will know.  You will be glad you waited until your boyfriend is on board.  Its important you think about respecting his wishes for you to go on birth control for a while until you both feel its the right time.  Good luck and I am really sorry for your loss.  

[Tiffany08]

I feel the need to caution you about getting pregnant again right now for some reason. If I remember correctly, you had said earlier that you didn't want to get pregnant last time, you thought you were too young and it wasn't a good time for you right? Just be careful that you aren't trying to get pregnant to fill the void that has been left by the miscarriage, as I know you must be feeling one. Maybe it's not my business, I just felt the need to say that. I hope I didn't offend you in any way! :)

As far as the hormone levels, I have no idea what might be normal right now, but I have heard that it takes a few weeks for them to come back down. And, yes, your chances of conceiving right after a miscarriage are better but if you conceive too soon you run the risk of your uterus not being healed and ready to carry another baby yet. If you do decide to try again, I would wait until you have at least one regular cycle, if not two.

[jhh42]

After my miscarriage it took me a few weeks to get back down to 0. It is not uncommon for your hormone levels to take a while to get back to normal. Unfortunately it can be a slow process. I would let your body go through at least one cycle (my doctor recommended 2 cycles) before trying to conceive again. I would certainly discuss and be completely open with your boyfriend. Having a baby must be something that you both want. I wish you the best of luck.

[Jame0223]

Thanks shawndell. Im just so confused about everything. I know I'd always have my mom's support and I know my dad will support me even if he thinks its wrong and doesnt agree at first. My boyfriend will be there if he has to. I know he doesn't want a baby at the moment, but when I got pregnant last time we werent ttc, it just happened and that would be the way it is with this pregnancy (if and when it happens) He freaked out last time but I explained the risks and procedures of abortion and it made him change his mind and accept that we were having a baby and after a couple weeks we were both happy and excited. I think it'd be the same this time around, but a little bit different. I dont know what to do. I guess I won't try, I'll just hope. Who knows if ill get my way.

Any answers to the technical questions!?

[Shawndell]

I think its when you are ready honestly.. If it was me I would probably wait a complete cycle to ttc again.  And if your b/f is wanting to wait then maybe you should.  I know your going to have his support either way, but maybe that is his way of telling you he isn't ready right now.   And it will take two to raise a baby with all the love he /she needs.  As for your family I can see where they are coming from, but I have no room to talk as for I am young as well and I think that I'm ready and that my mom well she hints to me all the time she wants a grandbaby.  But to be honest if I was to get pregnant I would want my family support if they knew I was ttc because that is going to be a part of their life as well.  I know family will come around eventually but you would want them to share that same joy you will when your expecting.  I would really talk it over with the b/f and if you are ready that go for it.  Remember it is your choice.  Good Luck.