uninterested husband

[cashew529]

My husband and I decided a year ago that we would start trying to get pregnant this summer. (I wanted to try last year and he wanted to wait so we waited). Now that I am off the pill he is very apathetic about it. After saying in the past that he wanted kids now he acts like he doesn't and says that kids are just an inevitable part of being married. I am really excited about getting to be a mom but I am worried about him being happy. Anyone (guys especially) go though a similar time and how did dad react after that baby was born?

[cashew529]

Thank you all for your posts.  Ladyred - That's what I'm afraid of, but I think he's afraid he'll be the one doing most of the work too. (I'm not very good about house work...)  Everyone else - I think he'll turn around, he's sure enjoying trying ;) He has a few friends who have just had kids and they're really happy.  He should be fine.  It just makes me nervous.

[Panush]

we- women, feel mom the moment we find out we are pregnant, guys on the other hand, they don't carry the baby so it is hard, my husband said he felt like  a dad after he got to hold our son for the first time. It was very emotional moment, his eyes got teary:) I could see how happy he was. I think it will change after you get pregnant

[Shelz90]

Our baby was planned, got pregnant first month trying..:) My boyfriend seemed to be very lazy all along like i had to push him to go shopping for all the bits we needed and seemed generally uninterested. Im due tomorrow and with the last maybe 2 weeks hes a different guy, he is so excited, hates leaving my side, is always talking about the baby, keeps checking the hospital bag has everything in it and other silly little things. I say take it easy on him cause when theres no end in sight its hard for them to imagine having a baby. Give him a chance to swing around, mine did

[Chuy1Maria11]

He will come around give it time! Good luck nd congrats!

[Chuy1Maria11]

My hubby is happy and even though he not here his family is so supportive nd amazing i was in the hospital and his mom was with me and my first ultrasound she was there also!

[babyinJuly]

I can't say I'm in the same situation about two years ago we miscarried at @ 20wks. We were both heart broken and devastated. We're now @ 36 wks and he's my best support system. If I complain of feeling sick he's right there to try and help me feel better. Thank God! If he were any other way I'd treat him the same way. If your husband is distant then maybe you should do the same and eventually he'll come around, if not then you could always change your surroundings. Best of luck to you and baby:)

[Lori_2]

I think they worry sooooo much n fear about being good enough dads, especially if there didnt have a good dad growing up... It should involve both but the women always seems more "excited" were wired that way to show more emotion

[Chuy1Maria11]

We didnt plan our pregnacy he was in shock at first nd now he is happy and looking foward till he comes home!

[Ladyred2perfect]

Well On My Hand My Fiance' Was So Sold On Us Having A Baby We Tried For 4 years straight We Was Trying Our First Year Together And He Was So Determine I Had Given Up But To My Surprise I Found Out I Was Pregnant So I Was Super Excited And When I Showed Him Tge Test And All I Got Was A Ooo...But Know Its Like As If Im In This Alone He Has Came To Some Doctor Appointments I Almost Lost Them Baby And Everything And Nothing Seems To Get His Attention...my honest advice its a blessings having a child but if he acting weird about doing it give him that time because if not you will probably feel the way im feelings we engaged and bout to be married but I feel like a single parent and its not a good feelings knowing the person you laying next to at night is Acting so selfish about something thats meant to be a blessing a baby can either strengthen your relationship or bring out the Bad in it

[Ladyred2perfect]

Well On My Hand My Fiance' Was So Sold On Us Having A Baby We Tried For 4 years straight We Was Trying Our First Year Together And He Was So Determine I Had Given Up But To My Surprise I Found Out I Was Pregnant So I Was Super Excited And When I Showed Him Tge Test And All I Got Was A Ooo...But Know Its Like As If Im In This Alone He Has Came To Some Doctor Appointments I Almost Lost Them Baby And Everything And Nothing Seems To Get His Attention...my honest advice its a blessings having a child but if he acting weird about doing it give him that time because if not you will probably feel the way im feelings we engaged and bout to be married but I feel like a single parent and its not a good feelings knowing the person you laying next to at night is Acting so selfish about something thats meant to be a blessing a baby can either strengthen your relationship or bring out the Bad in it

[DNP47]

I think men in general are not huge fans of change, and a baby is a huge change so maybe he is just worried. My first two pregnancies I was very excited, they were planned (kind of), he was pretty apathetic as well. if they had the baby growing in their bellies it would be different. Its like its not really real to them until they have a real life baby to look at. Anyway with this third baby (who was Not planned) hubby is beyond excited for some reason, even before he found out it was a boy....weird right?

[jamie4321]

you are so right there told all the time not to get woman preg. i think thats why when were ready for a baby it takes a lot of talking to them about it to get them to come around to the idea of haven a baby but after baby is made and he see it on u/s he will just melt and fall in love with the lil one

[Panush]

We didn't plan our first pregnancy. We wanted to wait for another year but it just happend, I was super excited, but my husband wasn't as much as I wanted him to be, but as the time went by especially after the  first ultrasound he started to act so different. Now he is the greatest dad I could ever dream for my son. I think after you get pregnant he will change, all their lives they were  told "do not get a woman pregnant" it's hard for them to start thinking opposite:)