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week 4 PREGNANT???
I had unprotected sex on Apr 16th and he came inside, then I started my period that night. Then we did it again and he released inside again. I bleed heavy the first night then it got really light. I ended my period on the 20th and went to the doc and she put me on prenatals and ordered a blood test for me and said I could go in and take it when I was ready. I had cramps for a while it lasted a couple days and went away. I have been experiencing headaches that seem to come and go. I am also a pretty regular person in the bathroom and I have recorded 2 days where I didn't have any BM. I have been feeling bloated and my nipples are soar, my gums have been bleeding a little when I brush, I have not been able to sleep well at night, having to get up to pee a lot. I have been having a runny nose, and find myself eating all day long (snacking) I am doing my best to wait until I start my period which will be about the 14th of this month. Am I just worrying over possibly being pregnant? Is this all just PMS related? Also my BF and I always use the pull out method. Anyones input would help me so much.
No it came across as straight up, and sometimes that is what I need to kick me in the butt to make me realize what I need to do and what is best for everyone. I mean how do you know? How will I know if he is the one? I thought my ex was and that all went to hell in a hand basket lol. I am worried that this thing is a rebound thing, and he isn't the one. He can't stand it when my nephew is there, he gets upset when I am holding the baby and hes making noises like 1 year olds do and he snaps like ugh, call me back when you're not holding the baby. So there are a lot of red flags that kind of make me think well is this the man that I want raising my kids with me? Will I ever find the right man in time to have kids with, it is almost like I am in a mad rush to find someone to just have a kid with and thats it but I know that is the absolute wrong approach to it all. Thank you for your input, it really helps. I obviously have a lot of inner issues I need to work out before I can even think about a family.
I hope my comment didnt come across as bitchy. I just wanted to be firm, especially since I was at the same point once upon a time. Although me and hubby have been together since I was 15 (Im 32 now) there was a time when things were not a good time to have kids and the relationship was really rocky. We ended up with 2 kids when I was 19 and 20. Even with his help as a parent it was extremely stressful and so not a good time to have kids. It takes a lot to work through problems and move forward and it takes a strong partner as well if hes going to stay in the picture. You both need to be on the same page and not him wanting what you want only in the heat of the moment. Youll have your kids when the time is right. Dont feel the need to rush it. :D Just remember, youll know when its the right time when you and your partner are on the same page.
I agree with you, I am going through a lot of emotional things right now and for that moment I thought that, that was the answer, but I know in my heart it isn't. I AM ready to start a family, but in all reality I know he isn't the right person, at least not right now. I am still not sure if he would be a good daddy, and thats not good enough to bring a baby into the world, it is just hard being a part of a family of 6 and EVERY ONE has kids exept you. My 18 year old sister has a baby and she is no where NEAR ready to be a mommy, I am 26 and feel like I am just waisting away. I just went through a 7 year relationship with a man who was cheating on me the whole time and was begging him to give me a baby. (obviously not knowing he was cheating on me) It wasn't until he gave me an STD that I found out he was a cheater. And now that he's a "changed man" and is engaged with another woman after 6 months of our divorce he wan'ts to give her a baby. So I am feeling crapped on and I think I just want to get what I feel I deserve. I am just trying to tell myself that it isn't the right time and I need to be patient, but it is so hard to not hope an "accident" happens. I did go to OBGYN and I am going to be getting the Mirena implant so I won't get tempted to "let" something happen that I might regrret or that he will end up resenting me for. The condom is a mutual agreement, we both agree we don't like them. I am allergic to latex, and I know there are latex free, but the bottom line is, is I don't like them. He would wear them if I told him to and that all goes back to me wanting to take that small risk of hopping something might happen. So I will have to just be strong and emilinate the possibility of it happening until the time is right and everyone is on the same page. I appreciate everyones imput. It isn't easy sometimes and I feel like I am on emotional roll-a-coaster.
Im going to chime in here. The only reason a guy says that in the heat of the moment is because hes to lazy to put on a condom. You are not ready to have a child, nor is your boyfriend. I think its really irresponsible to continue using the pull out method if neither of you are ready for children.
I am still not sure, I have not tested yet, I did start my period but it was weird, it didnt go like it normally did, it was a lot more painful. I guess I just figure I am not pregnant. But like the previous poter, maybe I want it so bad that its all in my head. it is now my ovulation time and I should be starting AF in about 2 weeks, I am just going to go on the assumption that I will be starting it and by now I should have had way more symptomes, like throwing up, and so on. I cant sleep, I toss and turn all the time, I have headaches still, and am frequently bloated. Again I am starting to think I am always like that. Maybe because I want to be pregers so bad that I start to key in on everything that is going on with my body. I was a victim of rape when I was 6 and it went on for 4 years, and I am starting to think I cant get pregnant because I was violated at such a young age, maybe he messed things up inside there and I can't have kids. We still have been using the pull out method, I know he has slipped sometimes, he always pulls out, but asks me a lot if he got any inside. Or in the heat of things he tells me how bad he wants to give me a baby, and I don't know if he just sais that because it is in the heat of the moment but will that said I can see him slipping up from time to time. I mean we "hook up" every day I am off of work and most of the time it is 2-3 times a day, so the likleyhood of there being some sort of a slip up, and the chances of becoming pregnant are higher. I would think by now I would have had something?! But again, nothing. I did have a miscarriage last year. But I didn't even know it. I was having cramps and I bleed heavy for 2 weeks. I was going through a tampon an hour.
Hi! Just wondering if you found anything out yet? I believe you were suppose to start AF today, did she come? If not are you gonna test? Sorry I'm just being nosy cause you sound preggers to me. I sure sign I knew I was pregnant was my gums bleeding when brushing my teeth. I took a test that day and it came out positive. Let us know!!
Oh, one more thing. AF symptoms and pregnancy symptoms are the same in the beginning and your mind can really go wild as you notice every little thing. Best thing to do is wait and take the test. Good Luck!
I can only think of two reasons why he would take the risk if he wasn't ready. 1. he is ignorant about the chances of pregnancy with the withdrawal method or 2. he is very immature and thinks it won't happen to him. At this time all you can do is protect yourself depending on the answers to a few questions. 1. would you be willing and happy to raise a child alone without his help if he were to take off if you became pregnant? or 2. Would you rather wait until you find the perfect man (may be him after waiting a while) who loves you just as much and not only wants a child but is ready to have one with you? If it doesn't matter, then let him think what he wants and be shocked when you come up pregnant. If it does matter, I would find another method of birth control that doesn't rely on his use like a diaphragm or BCP. Regardless of your choice, I wish you luck.
I am not worried about getting pregnant and if I was to then I would be happy but my BF isn'y and I know that I need to wait until he is ready. I am guessing with his lack of carefullness and the fact that I have had many of conversations with him letting him know that it isn't the best method and that we were taking a risk. He sais he isn't ready but why would he take such a high risk?
Real story..... i was conceived with the pull out method! It isn't very effective. If you are worried about being pregnant then you aren't ready for a child. I would find another form of birth control.
I heard the only way that there can be sperm in precum is if he has ejaculated already and has not urinated yet and we engage again, that has not happened. I hear so many different stories in the argument of sperm being in pre ***, whats the real story?
It doesn't matter if he ejaculates or not, there is always pre-ejaculate, which has sperm in it, so there is always a possibility of pregnancy if you are having unprotected sex.
I realize the risk we are taking. I had no idea he was going to ejaculate in me, he normaly never does that. If I was to get pregnant I wouldn't mind.
Oh, and the pull out method is not a form of birth control. It only takes one sperm to get you pregnant.
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