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3604513 tn?1355536750

whats wrong with this world

I feel mad/angry I lost my babe at 17 weeks and 5 days nov 18th. One of my friends is talking about abortion how can people do that when im here wishing my babe was with me :'(
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I'm so sorry about your lose :( I wish I knew what was wrong with this world smh....if u don't mind me asking what happen I'm 17+1
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3224409 tn?1356206827
I m sorry for your loss... As far as i know God has his own plans when he takes one thing away from you... then He returns something better... i believe everything in this world is created for reason.. if there werent any bad people out there than how would people know that there are good people as well..

i m muslim but my belief is God gives you and than tests your patience, He gives you and take it away to see your patience and than he does not give u at all to see how far are you willing to pray for his mercy...

i i had to wait 3 n hlf yrs b4 getting pg last yr.. but unfortunately i ended up with miscarriage at 11wks.. i was depressed and was asking same questions... my life have been on roller coaster ride... my husband couldnt get job for 4 yrs.. we couldnt get our own house.. we were living in my dads house and every day was a mission.. and my pregnancy was something  which gave us everything and bt in december that went away as well... after three weeks.. my life turned around January i got my own house which i was looking forward to for last 4 yrs.. My Husband got great job and it was such a shock for us he didnt even had to go through interview or anything it just fell on his lap... and after 6 months now i m pg 27wks..
i turned all negative force into positive because when God took everything away from me he returned it back because i didnt blame anyone.. not even myself.. i use to pray and just silent use to wish that it will happen...

my mum had three still births before my brothers.. one was killed by my aunty coz when my mum was giving birth to my elder brother as soon baby started coming out my aunty grab him from neck and pulled him out... No one did anything about it but my mum just silently cried and never said a word... Now i have got 5 brothers and then myself...  so when i look around the world and see whats happening i just look up to my mum.. and i dont know why i just become so calm... and i just start looking for positive points even in bad people...

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The hospital made sure that id get my babe back do to my depression and anxiety they didnt wana throw me off edge. Im stuck on disability my entire life do to my anxiety disorder so they felt it would be easier and best way to handle it... but im glad you got your baby back...
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3143571 tn?1354680877
1John 5:19 "We know we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one". Thats whats wrong with the world. Sorry for your loss
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3604513 tn?1355536750
We did it personal it was just us and our family not everyone is hard but we was fighting with the hospital because they didn't want to give us the babe due to that it was a fetus. It was hard.
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I still havent been able to set up my babies... i think i just want a personal funeral just me and close fam...
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3604513 tn?1355536750
we will always going to remember our babies. i go to the cementery every day to take him flowers. sometimes it gets to me a lot but i wish one day i can understand why this happen to me/us. if you ever need to talk or anything im here i understand your pain.
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Me and you are already mommies... our babies were just stolen from us.. and ill never understand why.. you carried him in your belly and cared for him... you were a mommy before you even knew it.
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3604513 tn?1355536750
Missy this should never happen to no one but things like this make us stronger.
Charly thank you hopefully one day I can experience the opportunity to be a mother
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4235497 tn?1356982472
Veronica: Thank You. I wish I had an answer to why its happening to you. But unfortunately I don't. Well never know. But I do hope that one day you get to experience the beauty of having your child and being a wonderful mother.
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You are very welcome to all of you I have been in your shoes and know how it feels.
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3604513 tn?1355536750
Missy thank you for your words
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3604513 tn?1355536750
Charly I pray for you babe to make it to this world.  They told my sister that my niece wasn't going to make it now shes turning 3 in January.  I know that God doesn't punish but I dont understand why this happen to me.
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And the love for that baby will never go away I promise you will still cry when it is that babies due date and the date you lost the baby too. The pain gets easier but its still there too.
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4235497 tn?1356982472
I know how you guys feel. I am 36 weeks tomorrow and my baby is not expecting to make it to full term alive or live long outside my womb. I am angry at the world because this is happening to me. Even though I have came far and I have accepted the fact that I am not the only one going through something like this and that bad things happen to good people. I get upset everyday because I think of my husbands sister (I don't consider her my sister in law) she is a poor excuse of a mother. She was using drugs while pregnant with her third child. When the baby was born they found drugs in his system and they took all three of children away. I think how is she able to have a beautiful third child that's healthy but my baby is sick and will die?! Why not her?! She's the one that's a bad mother not me. But then I take a step back and think maybe god has plans for her down the road. Even though I know he doesn't punish us, we punish ourselves. Now she is jobless, childless and miserable I'm sure but her kids are with their grandma and she can come and go as she pleases. I don't believe its teaching her a lesson but I'm no one to judge. I understand both of you completely! I do! I'm sorry for both your losses! I had a miscarriage in Jan as well, in was sad but I was only 5 weeks and I coped well. This is a little harder for me.
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Yeah... if i ever do have another baby i want them to know about their baby brother... he will always have a spot in my heart
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3604513 tn?1355536750
I just pray to God he can let me have a baby nothing is going to replace my Jason but I want to have another babe to love them so much.
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It seems the girls that party get their babies... but the ones who want them most end up losing them... :'( its a horrible feeling
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I know how you ladies feel I felt the same way for a very long time. I have had 5 miscarriages and 1 ectopic. I went through a bunch of tests due to multiple miscarriages and then was able to have my first miracle baby who will be 2 in January and am due in March with my last miracle baby. I will tell you guys not to give up but to give yourselves time to heal. After my last miscarriage I concieved again ten days later and all of my pregnancies are considered very high risk to say the least. But well worth it for me.
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3604513 tn?1355536750
Im trying to be strong but sometimes is really hard. I know my babe is in heaven but I wish he was in my belly growing.
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Awww im sorry for your losses! :( i dont know what i would do if that happened to me you guys are very strong mommies and yes i hate to see mothers not give a crap abt there bbys!:(
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3604513 tn?1355536750
@mummy it breaks my heart to see people like us losing our babies but all those ******* sorry for my language are having kids like nothing.  
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3604513 tn?1355536750
I was having back pain and they gave me extra medicine causing a misscariage. My babe was healthy he was 17.5 long :'(
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Sigh i know hun... just lost my lil man last night and it pisses me off seeing all the bad mothers at my school u can see them doing coke and stuff behind the school out partying and neglecting their babies... im just so jealous why do they get to be mums when people like us get our babies taken away :(
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