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why doesn't my husband want to have sex?

have any of your husbands not want to have sex ever since getting pregnant?  
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I asked my husband that question n he said its because hes afraid to hurt the baby. I understood but it suck because barely doing it still n I'm going sex crazy. Lol sorry but ask your guy if he says idk then he doesnt want to admit it. Just say you won't get mad. Its safe to have sex as long as its not ruff or wild.
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195469 tn?1388322888
Men has so many varied feelings about sex with their pregnant wives or girlfriends.  Some men think that you are in a delicate state and actually think they will hurt you or the baby, by having sex.  While the majority of men are very much in love with their pregnant wives, they feel that this is not the time to be hitting on their little "momma" wives, while they are carrying their precious babies.

The men that think they are so "big" that they are going to hurt their baby, really don't understand that the average sized man will not hurt his baby.  As one lady said, some men don't like having their penis so close to their baby's head.  Men don't think that is sexy.  Not that you aren't sexy to him.  It's about the baby.

Once those baby's come, believe me...the men get "back in the mood" very quickly and can't wait 'six weeks' as our OB's suggest to have intercourse.  In my opinion, that waiting period just drives our men wild and makes for a great "first time" after you get the go ahead from your doctor's.

The greatest thing you could do for your relationship's, is talk to your better half's and find out why they do not want to have relations, while you are pregnant.  It might help if you show alot of understanding or explain to them that they really will not hurt the baby.  In the scheme of things, 9 months is not much time out of your overall sex life, when you have a lifetime to get back to your 'normal' sex life, after the little ones are born.

Just remember to tell your husband's that you love them, as often as you can and reassure him.  You can be intimate in all kinds of different ways, without having intercourse.  If he doesn't want to have sex while you are pregnant, be understanding, most of all.  Most of all, don't let the new baby take away the closeness that you usually have with your man.  You have enough love to go around...for everyone.  Good luck ladies.
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Mine doesnt care one bit its a good feeling to know that love your body no matter what.

After you fully recover from giving birth he will be all over you.
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I feel like as each trimester progresses the less we have sex. During the whole first trimester sex was still normal with the second it began to decrease and in the third we barely ever!!! He never wants to anymore now that  like about to pop. But that's okay, soon enough baby will be out and everything will go back to normal, except with better birth control (:
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Is it good to have sex while having my period.. Will it be painful
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2008858 tn?1343844041
A lot of men find it weird that there doing "it" so close to there child. Talk to him as I started thinking it was me but my bd told me he loved me more than ever and he found me more attractive every day. We still have sex just not as often but that's down to me aswell as I'm over 33 weeks and feel uncomfortable. I really suggest you talk to him tho.
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1688492 tn?1346364370
My husband was so scared of hurting the baby he wouldn't have sex with me until I was 8 wks and at that he didn't want to. He said I'm poking it's head I'm hurting him I was like no ur not even had the doctor explain to him but ur husband is prolly scared or worried about the baby my husband also said me thinking about poking my kids head over n over is just wrong....men are weird!!!
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1927715 tn?1392055940
Nope my husband never wants to. Makes me feel very blah about myself.
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I wish my husband didn't want to have sex...I'm in my 3rd trimester 32w2d
I feel really big.... I even tell him look at me I'm soo big and fat...=(
...his like no your not your just pregnant....we have sex every other day...I hate to do it in the same position all the time :( don't have any other choice ...i have a big belly...  :''(
3rd baby
Don't remember been this big at 32w2d with my other 2 pregnancies...
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1955408 tn?1328058454
I'm 32 weeks, HUGE, and my fiance said "if we have sex you'll pop like bursting a balloon." That's okay though, I don't really want it anyways.
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2026902 tn?1369098398
My 1st trimester I lost like all my sex drive. Now In my 2nd he wants too its just less often.
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2026902 tn?1369098398
My 1st trimester I lost like all my sex drive. Now In my 2nd he wants too its just less often.
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Mine either but as soon as we drop our loads they going to be all over us
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Well now we only have sex about once a week, and when we do I have to beg my husband not to go so slow! I've always liked sex a little rough, so this slow and steady stuff is for the birds!!
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My husband wants to have sex almost all the time its me who doesn't lol. I am.usually very sexually active but I have such a bad back and hips and now a huge tummy that being pregnant kills it for.me. Then every once in awhile I'll want it when he doesn't and when he says no I almost cry. Have you talked to him about it?
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2057826 tn?1334617184
My hubby still wants to but jst not as often. We went from like everyday to twice a week. But its partiallly my fault too cause I jst don't feel too sexy with a big pertruding preggo belly..lol.
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2026302 tn?1334731062
My fiance always wanted to have sex in my first trimester when I had lost my sex drive completely.now I'm in my third trimester he doesn't want to and I pretty much have to beg him for it..he has the theory the baby is going to rip his penis off and that he's poking the baby in the head!!! Lol
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2057826 tn?1334617184
My hubby still wants to but jst not as often. We went from like everyday to twice a week. But its partiallly my fault too cause I jst don't feel too sexy with a big pertruding preggo belly..lol.
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2072659 tn?1340597373
Im in same boat... I think its because they are scared that it will hurt the baby somehow!
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