Fetus development

Hi all,
I am really looking for your suggestions if you have any from your past experience. We are trying for baby naturally for last 5 years with no success and then decided to do IVF. I am 33 years old and my wife is 30. After 3 embryo transfers and 2 weeks wait time, we had smile on our face when doctor said hcg level is +ve.
Then RE called us for ultrasound at 7th week, we saw one sac but fetus was measuring at 5 weeks 2 days and no heart beats, doctor concluded implantation took place late.
And RE called us again after 10 days for 2nd ultrasound. With 2nd ultrasound, also we did not see any heartbeat nor fetus was grown from the last measurement, Doctor broke our heart by saying its not viable pregnancy and we should go for D&E. I am very upset and can’t see my wife crying all night since then. Please help us and let me know your suggestions. Thanks!!

[AnnieBrooke]

If the fetal growth has stopped and there is no heartbeat, I am sorry to say that the pregnancy has faded.  Please simply console your wife and hold her when she cries, the hormones used in IVF are very strong and that adds to the natural grief she feels, and both things together can be very painful.  Tell her you can try again, it is not the end of the opportunity to try.  And support her through the D&E process as well.  It is possible to have the embryo cremated (at least, it is possible here), and if this can be done it might make her feel better, like the child was treated with respect.  Please keep in mind always that for this many weeks she has been picturing this child's arrival in her mind.  To a man, sometimes it seems like a miscarriage is a death of some tissue, but to a woman it is always a death of a human being.  Treat her as you would anyone who has had a death in the family.

I am sorry for your loss.